New is Always Possible.

Have you ever had this conversation? You get together with friends you haven’t seen in awhile and ask them what’s new. And they literally say nothing. “Nothing. Same old stuff.” It’s depressing hearing about it and it’s got to be depressing talking about it. Even before I went through this life transformation, these kinds of conversations sucked the life out of me. And now that I know that life is what you make it, these kinds of conversations are nothing short of suffocating.

I find myself silently (or no so silently depending on the situation) backing out of old unfulfilling relationships and running full of excitement toward others. I used to feel bad about it but not any more.

When relationships become difficult to maintain, a lot of the time it’s the Universe nudging us in a different direction. If you’ve tried for months to get together with a friend and it seems to never work out, it’s worth directing a little mental effort toward the situation and asking yourself if perhaps the relationship has run its course.

The same goes with family members. If the family you grew up in provided nothing but discomfort, that discomfort is a blessing. Your soul is using discomfort to direct you in another direction. You were born into what you don’t want so that your soul could yearn and create the desire for the life you do want.

Without this contrast it would be very difficult to know what direction you want to travel. If we were all born with the proverbial silver spoon in our mouths, we may not find the inspiration to create the life of our dreams. A lot of the fun comes from the creative aspect of molding our lives the way we want them to be. Discontent brings clarity in a way because by knowing what we do want, we know clearly what we do want!

Now, how do you get it? You learn to listen to your heart and put into action the guidance you receive. You learn to say no to what you don’t enjoy and YES to everything else.

Just today I was asked if I would like to provide recipes for a new start up business. Yesterday I was asked if I wanted to take photos for a new cookbook, and my answer was an unapologetic “no” both times. I still explained myself but my spirit made no apologies. It just wouldn’t bring me joy.

Now, if she had asked to book  a life coaching session I would be there in a heartbeat! Why? Because it fires me up. It excites me. It brings my light into this world. I love to bring joy into other people’s lives by helping them see how incredibly powerful they are! There is nothing more exciting for me than witnessing someone stepping into their power and taking control of their lives. It’s incredibly beautiful to witness.

If you’re stuck in a rut, I want you to know that all you have to do is ask yourself the right questions. What fires me up? What is exciting? If your life is lacking excitement, you don’t need to go out and have an affair. You don’t need to smoke up or take mind altering drugs. You don’t need to drink. And you certainly don’t need to order pizza and binge watch Netflix another night in a row.

What you need to do is wake up. Wake up to the spirit within that is trying to get your attention. Feel into the discomfort in your life and ask your spirit what it is trying to tell you. You are the only person who can make you happy. No person/place/thing can do it for you. No affair/vacation/new car will fill the void that listening to your spirit can fill. Happiness is an inside job and that will never, ever change.

A new outlook is possible. A new norm is possible. A new love of self is possible. Reigniting a failing marriage is possible. Creating a new relationship with your kids is possible. Completely changing careers in mid life is possible.

Creating a new exciting life right now is possible. But the only path I know that works is through complete honesty, integrity and truth between you and you.

It’s through humility. It’s through love. It’s through your heart. It’s through your spirit; your soul; your inner being; your higher self. It’s through having the tough conversations in silence that your ego tries to avoid through action. It’s about slowing down, going within, and asking yourself what it’s really going to take for you to be happy. Because if you’re not happy, what’s the point of all this anyway?

Turn the Worry off and Eat Mindfully.

As a holistic nutritionist and self experimentation addict, I have tried so many different ways of eating. This is where it’s gotten me.

In my past I have worried incessantly about sugar. I have worried about buying conventional grapes over organic when I know organic is better. I have worried about not taking the plunge into eating 100% gluten free with my kids. I’ve worried about eating pizza when I should be eating a salad. Then there was that year and a half when I went vegan and worried about eating cheese. Then I was vegetarian and worried about eating meat. My worry even went as far as to worry about eating cooked food when I went “raw”! It’s insane!

Today I am convinced that worrying about your food hurts more than whatever food you are about to eat. I don’t worry about anything I eat anymore. Ever. I bless it and I enjoy it. If I had to label the way I eat today, I would say that I eat mindfully. I listen to my body and eat accordingly.

The number one thing our bodies need is water. We all wake up dehydrated due to air exchange during the night. So, when I wake up I drink 2 glasses of water with either lemon or apple cider vinegar squeezed in. Both are alkalizing and detoxifying. Then I drink plenty of water throughout the day, with lemon or ACV occasionally (about ¼ cup total).

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Once your body is well hydrated, choosing the right food becomes a lot easier. Your intuition will start to control your eating. For instance, I used to eat a lot of chocolate. But once I took care of my hydration, I would find myself reaching for the chocolate out of habit and not because I actually wanted any. It didn’t take long before I stopped reaching for it all the time, and saying no was easy.

However, when the kids have me stressed out and I need a moment to myself, I’ll grab a piece of chocolate, pop it into my mouth, close my eyes, and relax for 30 seconds. I use this moment as a quick grounding ritual. I close my eyes and set the intention to connect to my higher self and God. I breathe in love and peace and ask for the patience to respond to my children with love. I come out of it a lot better than I went in, and I’m a much better parent for this little ritual.

In general, I eat more fruit, vegetables, and protein than carbs. We drink green juice in the mornings and follow that up with protein powder later on. Then we eat lunch and then dinner. We don’t usually eat dessert, but I went through a phase in the summer where I ate ice cream every night! And then, one night, I didn’t want it anymore. My body needed to detoxify from the dairy, and I listened.

When you have a treat, eat it mindfully with joy. Know that it is exactly what your body and soul need at that moment! Eating with joy is probably the most important thing next to water. And when it doesn’t bring you joy anymore, then stop, as I stopped eating ice cream.

I set the intention every day to eat foods that heal my body and soul, and ask Archangel Raphael for help in breaking bad habits. I ask my body what it needs, and more often than not the answer is water. Ask your body questions and then wait for the answer. You may think the answer or feel the answer, but if you ask a question, know that the answer will be given. Look for it.

Angel Prayer: “Archangel Raphael, I ask that you guide me to foods that nourish my mind, body, and soul. I ask that you help me to incorporate movement into my day and that you help me to stay hydrated. And so it is!”

After you ask for guidance, be sure to listen for those subtle hints during the day. When you have a thought that pops into your head that you should drink some water, drink some water! If you feel that you should have a salad for lunch rather than your usual burger and fries, listen! Start to pay attention to your body, ask it what it needs, and then listen for the answer. Drink plenty of water and above all, enjoy your food!

See Only Love

It seems that the angels are answering all of my prayers lately.  My life is streamlining in the exact fashion that I wish it to, and I have a feeling that it’s no accident.  That’s what happens when you make the decision to be happy.  All you have to do is decide right now that you’re not going to give away your power to anyone else, that you are going to be happy no matter what is going on around you.  You are an extremely powerful spiritual being, and you have the power to be happy whenever you choose.  You can also choose to stop criticizing, stop comparing, stop expecting the worst, and and you can choose to see only love.  If you’re always judging and complaining about things, maybe you’ve trained yourself to focus on the bad things.

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I challenge you to retrain yourself.  For 24 hours, I challenge you to focus only on the good in all areas of your life.  Focus on what you love about your kids, your partner, your job, your parents, etc.  How may people do you know who constantly complain about their jobs?  Take a moment and just be grateful that you have a job.  Many people are struggling to find one.  Focus on what you love about yourself.  What does your mental chatter sound like?  Do you tell yourself how amazing you are, how smart you are, or do you belittle yourself?  Send yourself loving thoughts.

See how your partner reacts when you stop criticizing them for not taking out the garbage.  Instead, shift your focus.  Say “You know, it really means a lot to me when you take out the garbage.  Thank you for doing that every week.”  Focus on the positive instead of the negative.  Why did you marry your partner in the first place?  What made you fall in love with them?  Relationships improve immediately when you stop focusing on the bad and start focusing on the good.  Look past the misunderstandings and mistakes, and see only love.  If you catch yourself complaining, judging, comparing, etc. that’s ok!  It’s great!  It means you are becoming more aware of your negative thoughts!  Awareness is what you want.  Control your thoughts or they will control you.

Love is light.  The opposite of light is dark; the opposite of love is fear.  Where there is love there cannot be fear.  For some reason, so many of us are living in a fear-based reality, and we don’t see a way out.  Well, the way out is love.  It all starts with digging deep and finding out what you love about yourself.  What makes your spirit happy?  What do you simply love to do?  What makes you smile?  What makes you laugh?  Do some of those things right now.  Show yourself some love.  Loving yourself is the first step out of the fear-based illusion we have created for ourselves.

Realizing that I could instantly create a happy life all by myself was the first step to setting myself free from the fear-based illusion I was living in.  I was always striving for perfection, but since perfection doesn’t exist, I was holding myself back.  Realizing this, my self-imposed walls broke down, and suddenly I was free.  I am the creator of my life.  Whatever I want, I can make it happen.  With that realization came excitement.  I used to be scared to be in charge of my own life, but now, the exact same realization makes me feel so powerful.  What changed?  I chose love.  I chose happiness and excitement over fear.  How do you want to feel?  Stop focusing on what’s wrong in your life, and start focusing on what’s right.  Start focusing on creating the life of your dreams.

Once I started focusing on being happy, I realized that all I have to do to make my dreams come true is work on them a little more each day.  How cool is that?  No matter where you are today, just imagine where you could be a year from now if you did one thing each day that carried you closer to the realization of your dream.  It doesn’t matter how big or small the steps are, it’s the direction that matters.  Don’t let fears make you take steps backward.  Realize that you are a powerful co-creator of your dreams.  Step into your power.  Own your dreams.  You are worth it.

 

All is Well

I’ve been focusing a lot on recipes lately so today I’m going back to personal development!  I consulted my oracle cards for inspiration and my angels have pointed me toward divine timing.  They want us to know that everything is alright.  All is well.  No matter where you are in your personal life, you are right where you need to be and everything is going to be okay.

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If you’re struggling at the moment, know that there are hidden blessings in the lessons you are learning that you may not be able to see yet.  Times of change are often for the better, and if you can show yourself some love via relaxation techniques, the process of change will be easier.  Get yourself to a yoga class, meditate, or simply practice deep breathing whenever and wherever you can.

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Deep breathing was an extremely important tool that I used when I found myself thrust into debilitating change.  It was literally my body’s response to the stress I was under.  There were times when my body just automatically started deep breathing to calm me down.  I never even thought about it, it just happened.  Now I purposefully incorporate deep breathing into my days (whenever I find myself outside) and nights (during meditation).

Send Some Love

If there are individuals with which you find yourself in friction, it’s time to send some love.  Everyone around you is affected by your energy, your beliefs and your expectations.  Be mindful of your thoughts whenever someone bothers you and make the effort to let go of any anger, resentment, or negativity toward them.  Try to think of reasons to send love to those people and watch how your relationships change for the better once you are showering them with blessings and love rather than anger.

For example, I was at an outdoor market recently and had ordered a coffee.  It was a micro roaster and the technique the barista was using took a LONG time to produce coffee.  In the meantime a woman was grilling the barista.  I was getting more and more annoyed by her and was feeling sorry for the barista for having to endure her wrath.  When it came time for her to pay, the woman was annoyed about having to break a $20 bill for a $2.50 coffee.

I jumped in and said “Here, I have $2.50 in my hand.  Let me buy you a coffee.”  I didn’t know what to expect, but after the initial shock on her face she immediately she switched gears and was extremely grateful and loving toward me.  “Thank you!  I’ll pay it forward!” She said.  “Please do.” I replied.  Simply by showing her a little love, the situation went in a completely different direction and the energy changed from stiff to happy.

It doesn’t matter why there is friction, or where the friction originated.  You can make a big difference just by showing love in any situation.  I encourage you to try being kind and positive in a situation where you find yourself irritated.  The results will be amazing.

 

Raise Your Standards

oldyouLife becomes incredibly magical when you realize that you are in charge of your destiny.  You can materialize anything you want in life.  You just have to want it bad enough.  But before that, you must realize that you are worth it.

Having struggled with a severe lack of confidence almost my entire life, I am finally realizing that I am worth it.  On the surface, I am worth having my hair done once a month.  At the soul level I am worth respect, and above all else  – I am worth loving.  If you don’t love or respect the person you are, it’s pretty hard to command love and respect from others.  Once you realize that you are worthy of a life where all of your heart’s desires come true, life gets really interesting.  Know that you deserve to be loved for the soul you are right now.  So start loving yourself.

But having an AHA moment isn’t enough.  You have to do what no one can do for you: grow your soul.  Your thoughts and your actions must change.  You must live each an every moment with faith and gratitude.  Everything always works out in the end.  Where there is darkness, there is light.  You just have to find it.  So have faith and be thankful for everything you have in your life – even the darkness, because that is when our soul grows the most.

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Start by writing down a list of your heart’s true desires.  What gets you fired up?  What makes your soul sing?  Deep down, you know precisely what lights your heart on fire.  Stop making excuses.  Raise your standards and commit to expect the best for yourself.  Eat better.  Exercise.  Do some soul searching reading.  Make time for yourself.  Learn.  Play.  Enjoy life.  Your soul needs food to keep going.  Feed your soul, and you’ll be feeding your relationships as well.  Live the life you are meant to live and you will make yourself happier than you have even been.  Raise your standards and you can turn your wishes into reality.