Don’t Take it Personally

If you are an energy sponge like me, then you are going to want to keep reading.  If you find yourself getting upset, depressed, or angry for no reason, then you’re probably a pretty sensitive individual.  We can pick up others’ moods and energy in an instant.  Intellectually, you need to wade through what is occurring in your body at an energy level so that you can raise your vibration and stop the energy transfer.  Go within and take a few deep breaths.  I like to focus on things that I am grateful for in my life as I do this, and it instantly brings me back to center.  Back to my spirit, which is full of light, power, and happiness.


There are also events that occur on a conscious level, but more often than not, we wrongly assess the situation and create an illusion.  This occurs when we attribute someone’s actions to their less than stellar personality.  For example, someone doesn’t open a door for us because they’re a jerk.  In truth, people are often so caught up in their own lives that they don’t see beyond where their attention flows, primarily their own thoughts and problems.  We see a person who let a door slam in our faces.  But if we look deeper, we may see a person who is hurting.  Maybe they’re having a really bad day for 100 different reasons, and none of them have anything to do with you.

If someone is short with us or downright rude, that’s probably not about us either.  Chances are there are other things happening in their lives and we just happen to be in the wrong place at the wrong time, and they see us as a punching bag even though they may not mean to.  They’re just going with the momentum and haven’t realized that they are the sole creator of their reality.

The same goes for those moments when you feel completely hurt or taken advantage of by another person.  Yes, they may have hurt you, and yes, they may have deliberately done so!  But, it’s not about you.  If someone goes out of their way to hurt you then it is very clear they have got their own issues that they need to work on.  Stay away from these people if at all possible!

Every single person is in charge of their own happiness.  Don’t give your power away to others so easily by letting them control your mood.  I know it’s easier said than done, but just let it go, don’t take it personally, and move on.  It may take you time, but I promise, if you start practicing now, in time you’ll be able to flick a switch inside yourself.  You’ll be able to sense when your mood is changing, and you’ll be able to snap out of it quickly.

Any time you feel yourself caught up in a state of anger, sadness, or anything in between, just remember that you are creating that state by choosing to stay there.  There is another choice.  You can choose to be joyful and happy.  All you have to do is change your focus.  Pay attention to why you feel the way you do, let it go, and look for the joy in your life.  When we take things personally, we often choose to be negative.  So take things in stride, and choose the high road.

I saw a clip of Goldie Hawn on Oprah recently.  Oprah said something about Goldie always being so happy.  “I choose to be” she said.  And so it is.