New is Always Possible.

Have you ever had this conversation? You get together with friends you haven’t seen in awhile and ask them what’s new. And they literally say nothing. “Nothing. Same old stuff.” It’s depressing hearing about it and it’s got to be depressing talking about it. Even before I went through this life transformation, these kinds of conversations sucked the life out of me. And now that I know that life is what you make it, these kinds of conversations are nothing short of suffocating.

I find myself silently (or no so silently depending on the situation) backing out of old unfulfilling relationships and running full of excitement toward others. I used to feel bad about it but not any more.

When relationships become difficult to maintain, a lot of the time it’s the Universe nudging us in a different direction. If you’ve tried for months to get together with a friend and it seems to never work out, it’s worth directing a little mental effort toward the situation and asking yourself if perhaps the relationship has run its course.

The same goes with family members. If the family you grew up in provided nothing but discomfort, that discomfort is a blessing. Your soul is using discomfort to direct you in another direction. You were born into what you don’t want so that your soul could yearn and create the desire for the life you do want.

Without this contrast it would be very difficult to know what direction you want to travel. If we were all born with the proverbial silver spoon in our mouths, we may not find the inspiration to create the life of our dreams. A lot of the fun comes from the creative aspect of molding our lives the way we want them to be. Discontent brings clarity in a way because by knowing what we do want, we know clearly what we do want!

Now, how do you get it? You learn to listen to your heart and put into action the guidance you receive. You learn to say no to what you don’t enjoy and YES to everything else.

Just today I was asked if I would like to provide recipes for a new start up business. Yesterday I was asked if I wanted to take photos for a new cookbook, and my answer was an unapologetic “no” both times. I still explained myself but my spirit made no apologies. It just wouldn’t bring me joy.

Now, if she had asked to book  a life coaching session I would be there in a heartbeat! Why? Because it fires me up. It excites me. It brings my light into this world. I love to bring joy into other people’s lives by helping them see how incredibly powerful they are! There is nothing more exciting for me than witnessing someone stepping into their power and taking control of their lives. It’s incredibly beautiful to witness.

If you’re stuck in a rut, I want you to know that all you have to do is ask yourself the right questions. What fires me up? What is exciting? If your life is lacking excitement, you don’t need to go out and have an affair. You don’t need to smoke up or take mind altering drugs. You don’t need to drink. And you certainly don’t need to order pizza and binge watch Netflix another night in a row.

What you need to do is wake up. Wake up to the spirit within that is trying to get your attention. Feel into the discomfort in your life and ask your spirit what it is trying to tell you. You are the only person who can make you happy. No person/place/thing can do it for you. No affair/vacation/new car will fill the void that listening to your spirit can fill. Happiness is an inside job and that will never, ever change.

A new outlook is possible. A new norm is possible. A new love of self is possible. Reigniting a failing marriage is possible. Creating a new relationship with your kids is possible. Completely changing careers in mid life is possible.

Creating a new exciting life right now is possible. But the only path I know that works is through complete honesty, integrity and truth between you and you.

It’s through humility. It’s through love. It’s through your heart. It’s through your spirit; your soul; your inner being; your higher self. It’s through having the tough conversations in silence that your ego tries to avoid through action. It’s about slowing down, going within, and asking yourself what it’s really going to take for you to be happy. Because if you’re not happy, what’s the point of all this anyway?

See Only Love

It seems that the angels are answering all of my prayers lately.  My life is streamlining in the exact fashion that I wish it to, and I have a feeling that it’s no accident.  That’s what happens when you make the decision to be happy.  All you have to do is decide right now that you’re not going to give away your power to anyone else, that you are going to be happy no matter what is going on around you.  You are an extremely powerful spiritual being, and you have the power to be happy whenever you choose.  You can also choose to stop criticizing, stop comparing, stop expecting the worst, and and you can choose to see only love.  If you’re always judging and complaining about things, maybe you’ve trained yourself to focus on the bad things.

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I challenge you to retrain yourself.  For 24 hours, I challenge you to focus only on the good in all areas of your life.  Focus on what you love about your kids, your partner, your job, your parents, etc.  How may people do you know who constantly complain about their jobs?  Take a moment and just be grateful that you have a job.  Many people are struggling to find one.  Focus on what you love about yourself.  What does your mental chatter sound like?  Do you tell yourself how amazing you are, how smart you are, or do you belittle yourself?  Send yourself loving thoughts.

See how your partner reacts when you stop criticizing them for not taking out the garbage.  Instead, shift your focus.  Say “You know, it really means a lot to me when you take out the garbage.  Thank you for doing that every week.”  Focus on the positive instead of the negative.  Why did you marry your partner in the first place?  What made you fall in love with them?  Relationships improve immediately when you stop focusing on the bad and start focusing on the good.  Look past the misunderstandings and mistakes, and see only love.  If you catch yourself complaining, judging, comparing, etc. that’s ok!  It’s great!  It means you are becoming more aware of your negative thoughts!  Awareness is what you want.  Control your thoughts or they will control you.

Love is light.  The opposite of light is dark; the opposite of love is fear.  Where there is love there cannot be fear.  For some reason, so many of us are living in a fear-based reality, and we don’t see a way out.  Well, the way out is love.  It all starts with digging deep and finding out what you love about yourself.  What makes your spirit happy?  What do you simply love to do?  What makes you smile?  What makes you laugh?  Do some of those things right now.  Show yourself some love.  Loving yourself is the first step out of the fear-based illusion we have created for ourselves.

Realizing that I could instantly create a happy life all by myself was the first step to setting myself free from the fear-based illusion I was living in.  I was always striving for perfection, but since perfection doesn’t exist, I was holding myself back.  Realizing this, my self-imposed walls broke down, and suddenly I was free.  I am the creator of my life.  Whatever I want, I can make it happen.  With that realization came excitement.  I used to be scared to be in charge of my own life, but now, the exact same realization makes me feel so powerful.  What changed?  I chose love.  I chose happiness and excitement over fear.  How do you want to feel?  Stop focusing on what’s wrong in your life, and start focusing on what’s right.  Start focusing on creating the life of your dreams.

Once I started focusing on being happy, I realized that all I have to do to make my dreams come true is work on them a little more each day.  How cool is that?  No matter where you are today, just imagine where you could be a year from now if you did one thing each day that carried you closer to the realization of your dream.  It doesn’t matter how big or small the steps are, it’s the direction that matters.  Don’t let fears make you take steps backward.  Realize that you are a powerful co-creator of your dreams.  Step into your power.  Own your dreams.  You are worth it.

 

Creamy Coconut Cashew Nut Milk and a Creamy Strawberry Shake

Creamy Coconut Cashew Nut Milk

2 cups filtered water
1 cup cashews
2 tbsp coconut butter
4 dates
1 tsp vanilla extract (or 1/4 of a vanilla bean, seeds only)

Place all ingredients in a high speed blender and blend until smooth.  If you don’t have a high speed blender like the vitamix, you can place all ingredients in a blender and let them sit for a couple of hours until the cashews and dates soften.

I HIGHLY recommend investing in a vita-mix.  It’s so powerful that it can turn an ipod into dust – I’m sure you can find some interesting videos on youtube.  I use my vita-mix at least 4 times a day.  You can make nut milks without having to use a strainer, and make the smoothest raw cheesecake you’ve ever tasted.

And since I happened to have fresh strawberries in the fridge – voila!  Instant strawberry shake.

Silky Strawberry Smoothie

Creamy Strawberry Shake

1 batch Creamy Coconut Cashew Nut Milk
1 cup fresh strawberries

Blend all ingredients in a high powered blender until smooth.

The funny thing about strawberries is that when you pick them yourself, their size range from that of a raspberry to…a slightly larger raspberry! They taste so sweet and just downright incredible.  When you buy them imported from who knows where, they’re the size of peaches and they taste sour and just gross!  If you missed them this time around, don’t miss out on picking your own (or buying, although picking your own can be fun) local berries next season!

My Return to Raw: Day Two

Today started with a:

Green Super Smoothie

1 tbsp spirulina
1 mango
1 tbsp bee polin
1 cup strawberries
few cubes ice
1 tbsp chia seeds
2 dates
1 tbsp sesame seeds
water to desired consistency

Then it was off to pick berries at Whittamores Farm on Steeles Ave.  So many delicious berries!  I think we picked for a couple of hours, and I got sunburnt 🙁 but it was worth it.

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