I’m Not Perfect

You may read my blog and think I have it all together, but I assure you that I am a work in progress just like everyone else! This also reminds me to point out that there is no one out there who is perfect, so don’t be tempted to put anyone on a pedestal. It may not seem like it, but we’re on level playing ground with everyone else on Earth. We’re all on the journey of joyous expansion, and we all have good, really good, bad, and really bad moments! Without this contrast we would become complacent; we would lose our drive if things were good all the time. Don’t worry if you’ve had a particularly bad past, because you can use it as leverage to propel yourself into the future you desire. The past does not predict the future.


I set a daily intention to see through the eyes of Source, to see the love in all people and the lessons I need to learn. I ask that my will be God’s will and that I be guided to be loving in all situations. Most days are amazing, while some days I seem to get stuck. Yesterday was particularly challenging. I decided to go down memory lane and got stuck there, stuck in a place where I couldn’t see the love in a person. I knew that nothing good could come from it, but I did it anyway. But something good did come of it. I saw the contrast between my denial state and my awakened state once again, and once again I was grateful for the awakening. The vision I have for my future wouldn’t be the same without my past.

I let go of the past and set myself free. Again. For the last time. Again. I doubt it really was the last time, but each time I am able to come out of it faster and with gratitude. What I find really interesting is this last dance with the past occurred on a full moon during mercury retrograde, which explains a lot!  I had an energy appointment the next day, and apparently I wasn’t the only one having issues, as they had THREE emergency phone calls that day from people having personal crises!

When I find myself in a funk and not being my usual chipper self, I first focus on grounding myself, which for me usually looks like a walk or run in the forest, and as I walk or run I focus on all of the really great lessons I have learned. This time it went something like this:

  1. I am strong, loving, courageous, and worthy of my dreams.
  2. I reclaimed my power and set boundaries for how I expect to be treated.
  3. True love comes from my own heart connection, which I can feel whenever I wish. Yay!
  4. I found a connection to spirit, my inner being, and Source.
  5. Things happen for me and not to me.
  6. I have the power to be, do, and have everything I can imagine for myself.
  7. I love to write. I must write. It feeds my spirit.
  8. I must exercise daily, it grounds me and makes me feel safe and secure.
  9. I found my life’s mission: to help others take their power back.
  10. I wouldn’t be who I am today without the challenges I’ve encountered.
  11. All is well, and it always will be!


I want you to know that you have the power to overcome great adversity. If you don’t willingly change what you know you must, the Universe will conspire to change things for you. Whatever happens, stay conscious, strong, confident and listen to your heart; follow your inner guidance. The more you listen to your inner guidance and do what makes you happy, the more you will raise your self-esteem and the more confident you will become.

Know you are worthy of great things, and listen to that voice in your head that pushes you to change the status quo. Stay calm throughout the storm so that you can better see the lessons. Take your power back from outside forces and stand up for your beliefs. Know that everything is working out in the best interest of everyone involved. Nothing can go wrong when you follow your heart. You’ll either encounter pain now, when you make the tough decisions you have to make, or pain later, when you are holding yourself prisoner in an unhappy life.

What feels like a horrible situation can actually be your greatest blessing. You won’t find the blessings if you are concentrating on the despair. If you are asking “Why did this happen?” you are never going to find the answer. Something that wasn’t working in your highest interest had to come to an end, and the sooner you can find the lessons, the easier it will be for you to accept it and move forward with your life.

Most likely, like me, it doesn’t mean that you won’t return to those dark feelings occasionally, but it is your choice to visit them, and it is also your choice to let those feelings go. Letting go means that you choose not to live there. You choose to use past hurts merely as a contrasting feeling to the joy that you seek. I choose to feel good because it feels good! Is there any other way to live your life? I don’t think so!

Whenever the darkness creeps in, turn on the light. Go to the best feeling thoughts and visualizations that you can come up with. Think about all the things you are grateful for and the lessons you’ve learned from your struggles. Where are you now that you wouldn’t be if you hadn’t struggled? What amazing new life has come out of the ashes? What would be the best thing that could ever happen in your life? The light always beats the dark.

The Massive Courageous Action Plan

Every single moment is a new opportunity to achieve greatness.  I don’t mean that you have to go off and climb Mt. Kilimanjaro right this second, but that life is what you make it. Life is the ultimate choose your own adventure experience. The past is a very poor predictor of the future, so don’t rely on it to tell you where you’re going.  You get to decide; you have unlimited creative powers, so you may want to use them to your advantage.

Each little moment adds up. Each moment is a building block that will shape your life. Your past actions, and inactions, have gotten you to this moment right now. How is the view? If you don’t like where you’re currently sitting, that’s ok, because you possess the power to change where you are headed. It’s so exciting knowing that we are the creators of our reality, isn’t it?

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The biggest reason why we don’t get where we want to be is because we are afraid. We let our fears hold us back. We’re scared to try because we might fail, or we sabotage ourselves when things start to get really good. We’ve always failed in the past so we want to cushion the blow by quitting before we fail.

The easiest way to defeat fear is to run right through it. Keep your eyes on the prize knowing that everything always works out in the end. Often, it works out better than planned! It’s impossible to fail if you keep moving forward. You only fail if you quit. If you learn something along the way then you haven’t failed.  Mistakes allow us to revise our plan of action, which means the more we fail, the closer we are to success.

I have so many goals and dreams that I am chipping away at that I get a little overwhelmed at times. I thought I knew where I was going, but I hadn’t gotten incredibly laser focused about my destination.  Knowing exactly where you are going really helps. You wouldn’t drive from Toronto to New York without knowing where you’re going, so why do so many of us live our lives without a clear destination?  A clear destination can save us a lot of time and a lot of pain.

My latest success tool is something that Yuri has been telling me for years: “know your outcome,” and it wasn’t until I started listening to Tony Robbins’ Personal Power program that I really understood what it meant.  I had been visualizing broad success but nothing that was really measurable.

I’m currently breaking down my vision board into subcategories.  I’m figuring out exactly what I want my life to be like on every level.  Family, Marriage, Physical, Business, etc. In fact, my business category has a ton of subcategories and I’ve never been more excited to work!

Because of instituting my Massive Courageous Action Plan, I’m feeling a lot less overwhelmed these days. Instead of taking broad action steps toward my dream, like “write every day,” I’m mapping out mini laser-focused steps to get to each destination.  I use my intuition and follow my bliss along the way, and do what feels really, really good.

I used to get caught in the trap of doing all the mundane things that you have to do to get through the day-to-day operations of being human. Some days I didn’t feel like I really got anywhere except deeper and deeper into anger and resentment. That’s just the way it was and I felt powerless to change it.

But once I stepped into my power and realized that I had to take control of my life instead of my life controlling me, I started making better choices.  I started choosing happiness over anger and I chose action over inaction.  I chose to create the time for my passions, started my life coaching business, and started taking action toward my dreams!

I had the vision of doing all of this years ago, but I finally got the kick in the pants I needed to make it happen when I went through my personal crisis. My spirit was begging me to take action and when I did I felt a million times better.

If we don’t keep up with the expansion of our soul, we can get really unhappy here in Earth school. It is my experience that as we learn and learn, we have to start taking guided action or our spirit starts to suffocate.  Eventually the pain of inaction became much greater than the pain of taking action and I started thinking about what I really wanted to create in life.

Any action is progress, but massive courageous action is unstoppable. It’s what outstanding lives are made of. It’s time to run right through your fears and give yourself a massive high five on the other side.

You don’t have to be unhappy at a job that you don’t enjoy, and you don’t have to make sure everything around you is perfect before you start what you really want to do. That’s another lesson I learned along the way. Perfection creates paralysis!

Start NOW. Write out a game plan for your life and follow it.  

To start, get out a piece of paper and write down 3 action steps that you can accomplish today. Start with things that you have been putting off and get them done. This is something that you can do each evening so that you know exactly what you’re going to do the next day.

Take an evening to map out your destinations and start planning the action steps that will help get you there. You don’t have to have it all figured out in one evening but I imagine that you will have quite a few aha moments if you take the time to do this.

Remember, it’s going to take courage to step through your fears.  When you feel the fear, acknowledge it and take action anyway! You are a lot stronger than you may think you are. Action takes courage, especially if it’s an action that you have been putting off for a long time. Know that courageous action is needed for success, and if you can muster up the courage to step through your fears, miracles are waiting for you on the other side. If you need another push into action, ponder what your life will be like in 5 or 10 years if you don’t take action.

Tell the Universe that you’re ready to fly. When you do this exercise each evening, ask your guides and angels for help solving these problems while you sleep. Your guides are always with you and they want to help you, so ask them! I would be very surprised if you don’t start getting incredible intuitive hits around the topics you have asked for help!

Each evening when I ask for guidance, I have amazing vivid dreams.  Don’t forget to ask for help remembering your dreams and the messages within them, though you will subconsciously remember the lessons, it’s always fun to remember the dreams!

Berries with Coconut Cream

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The berries that flooded into the grocery store last month were so deliciously sweet that we made this recipe nearly every day for a week.  The kids couldn’t get enough dessert and we didn’t mind at all!  I can’t wait for our local berry season to roll around!

Berries with Coconut Cream

Serves 6.

  • 2 cans full fat coconut milk (refrigerated)
  • 1 tsp vanilla extract
  • ½ tsp cinnamon
  • pinch of sea salt
  • 1 tsp erythritol (confectioner’s style swerve sweetener or 6 drops stevia)
  • 1 pint blueberries
  • ½ pint blackberries
  • 1 pint strawberries

Scoop the solid mass of coconut cream off the top of each can of coconut milk and place it in a large bowl. Discard the liquid or save for another purpose. Add the cinnamon, vanilla, sea salt, and sweetener of choice. Carefully beat the mixture with an electric beater for 1-2 minutes.

Divide the berries into 6 serving bowls, cutting the strawberries into bite size pieces. Spoon the coconut cream mixture overtop, top with cinnamon, and serve!

If you want something a little more decadent, a tsp of maple syrup really takes this dish over the top!

Children: Leading By Example.

Above all, I think the one thing we all want for our children is for them to be happy. Kids don’t need the latest and greatest toys, and they don’t need you to shuffle them off to sport after sport, camp after camp. What they need is your unconditional love and guidance as they calibrate themselves to this world and learn to guide themselves.

Our children are constantly watching us.  If our words don’t line up with our actions then they will take our actions as our truth, as what we really mean.  They’re constantly accumulating information, guidelines, and rules as they learn and grow, so we need to be on our best behaviour as parents.  They are our mirrors.  They will show us how we are doing as parents in the way they mirror our actions back to them.  If you don’t like what you see, it’s time to change your own behaviour.

If we are to raise conscious children, then we must be conscious ourselves.  We must lead by example.  We must show them that no matter what is happening around us, how we feel is our choice.  Make the choice to feel good anyway. We must show them that outside circumstances do not control us.  We control us.

In any moment it is our choice to feel good or to feel bad, and our children must learn that they are in control of their choices as well.  Lead by example.  If your children see you constantly crack under pressure and just freak out, what do you think they’ll do the next time they’re stressed out?  Right on, they’re going freak the F out.  But if they see that you are calm when confronted by a stressful situation; looking for possible solutions and reaching for the best feeling thoughts, how do you think they’ll react in a similar situation?

Teach Confidence

We must teach our children to believe in themselves, that anything they want to create in life is possible. Build their confidence. Teach them how to laugh at themselves. Teach them to let go of things that they can’t control and focus instead on what they can.  And above all show them how to love themselves.  How do I do all of that? I can hear you asking… Believe in yourself.  Show them your confidence. Laugh at yourself. Let go of the things you cannot control. And above all, do it all from a state of deep self love.

Fear teaches us where our souls need to grow.  We needn’t be afraid. We need to push through those fears and have a dance party on the other side.  Show them how.

Build their confidence by helping them speak their truth.  Draw focus to their strengths and their passions. It doesn’t matter what it is as long is it feels good to them.  Teach them to follow their bliss.  This is how they’re going to thrive in the world when they’re not holding your hand.


I remember begging my mom to let me play hockey.  I kept getting “no, no, no” because she didn’t want me to get hurt. Thankfully she let me quit figure skating for the sole reason I wanted to quit: “Because I’m too cold.” I didn’t miss it at all. I entered a bowling league for a couple of winters, which was fun, but it wasn’t my passion, it was hers.  One day, out of the blue, she said I could play hockey.  I don’t know what changed her mind but I loved it, I was good at it, and I still play today. Your kids know what turns them on. They know what feels good and what feels bad, so keep the communication open and let them follow what feels good.  Let them try new experiences. Let them quit others. Let them simply be themselves without trying to control them.


Our 4 year old can get into some pretty bad moods.  We used to fight about it.  Now I ignore it completely so I don’t encourage that type of behaviour by giving him negative attention.  Instead, I offer him a chance to change his state.  I turn on some dance music and start having a dance party.  I know that the positivity of the rest of the family will draw him into the happiness vortex that we’re creating, and sooner or later he’s going to find staying angry to be a lot more effort than giving in to the overwhelming happiness in the air.

When he’s back in a good mood, we talk about what happened, about how he himself is in charge of how he feels, and how life is so much easier when we choose to be happy.  We’ve had the same conversation many times and I don’t mind.  We’re building a pathway to success. When he’s in a bad mood, it’s important for him to learn how to change his state.  We’re giving him the tools he needs to choose happiness.

Of course, the easiest way for kids to change their state is to ask them if they want some ice cream, but we want to teach them life skills that are not dependant on anything but their own mind and body!  Food is the most abused antidepressant in the world, and we do not want to use it to bribe our children out of a bad mood.  It’s ok if you’ve done that in the past, because really, what parent hasn’t!?  But that’s not the pathway to happiness you want to use with your children on a regular basis or it will become a big problem for them in the future…

Be the you that you want your children to grow up to be!  Remember, they’re ALWAYS watching.

How to Manifest the Ideal Relationship – Between You and You

We live in a time that is so fast-paced, we practically have to run to keep up.  And there are times throughout the day when I do run to keep up!  This morning I dropped my three kids off at three different destinations, which meant that later on I had to pick up three kids at three different destinations!  I can’t imagine what it’s going to be like when they start playing organized sports, which will probably be right around the corner at the pace time is flying these days.

Just thinking about how stressed out our society has become makes me think back to taking Toronto transit.  If you want to see insanity, just try to take public transit during rush hour.  People literally run from trains to buses at the end of the work day.  It’s like watching a herd of humans in the wild – wait, that’s exactly what it is! They’re in a rush to get to work, in a rush to get through the work day, and in a rush to go home. When do they slow down?  So what if you miss the train?  Sit on a bench and just be present. I’m fairly certain herd behaviour isn’t there yet…

I never really understood it.

I’ve spent my entire life as a watcher, not knowing exactly where I fit into this insanity.  I was always too aware of myself to really fit in and not aware enough to know who I really was.  It wasn’t until I started connecting with spirit that I finally understood who I was; who I am.  And do you know what made that possible?  I sat on the bench.

I slowed down.  I took time to get to know myself.  I meditated, I wrote, and I simply existed as much in the present moment as my expansion allowed.  I started questioning my actions, my reactions, my thoughts and my beliefs.  I picked apart the answers to those questions and asked myself what I wanted instead.  It wasn’t pretty, but the result is pretty ridiculously amazing.  Now, instead of feeling like an Earthly outcast, I finally feel like I have built a home inside this body of mine.

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One of the greatest lessons I have learned is to give myself permission to be self-ish. No, not narcissistic toddler selfish, just a little self-ish.  I created the time I needed to be myself amongst the chaos.  My modus operandus had been a highly stressed out state, and I had lived in that state for so long that I didn’t even recognize it as a stressed out state.  You don’t know what you don’t know, right?  So, if you’re not being self-ish now, I’m giving you permission to start.  The next step?  Meet me halfway, and give yourself permission as well.

Once I started scheduling regular time for myself; a long bath, a meditation, a walk in the forest, a trip to the gym, a workout at home while the kids crawled all over me, or even getting up at 5 am to write, my stress level came down and my happiness meter went way up.  Once I started having a relationship with myself again, using my emotions as built-in guidance, I started to realize all the little things that made me tick.  I started giving myself permission to let loose and have fun, something I had forgotten to do years before.  I started clearly seeing the cause and effect of my thoughts and behaviours.  I became my own science experiment.  And the experiment is still going strong.

All relationships you have will be intimately affected by the relationship you have with yourself.  So you may as well have a good one!  And the best pathway I know how to manifest a healthy connection between you and you is through your emotions.

Any time you are feeling stressed out or down, and don’t seem to know the source of your troubles, or, are simply in denial that a problem exists, draw your attention to your emotions. Also known as “gut feelings,” your emotions are a continuous feedback loop, letting you know in real time when you’re on-course for joy, or horribly off the mark.

Start paying attention.  Though it will be hard at first, the more you can be present with your emotions, the faster you will learn the Universal truth that you, and you alone are responsible for your happiness.  The more you use your emotions as guidance, the more often you’ll be able to take charge – forming the beliefs and performing the actions that bring you the most joy.

It’s time to give yourself permission to slow down.  Take some time to get to know that one person you have been neglecting lately, and start asking what it is they need, because only you can give it to them.



Be Proud of Yourself

image1 (1)I can’t even begin to count the amount of times I have been down on myself over my lifetime. It’s got to be in the 100s of thousands by this point.  This is why I am on this mission today.  It’s not okay for someone to treat anyone the way I treated myself in the past.  Today, I live moment to moment, filtering and changing my thoughts as I must in order to follow the most loving path I can.

It’s not what happens in life but how you react that determines the result.

I’m not perfect.  I still get down on myself.  But the way I respond to my mind chatter these days is much, much different.  In the past I would dig a hole and camp out with my failures.  I still don’t understand why anyone would choose that as an option, but it felt safe at the time I suppose.  Nowadays, whenever I watch a thought go by that isn’t in line with my true self, I think, “that was a crazy thought,” and let it pass by.  I don’t live there anymore.  Sometimes our minds come up with some crazy, crazy stuff, am I right?

Know that those thoughts are not you.  

You are the seer of the thoughts.  You do not have to own them.  Watch them go by and release them just as fast as they came.  After 90 seconds of ruminating on a thought, we own it.  So it’s important to filter your thoughts and move on. Take the long range view and realize that these momentary thoughts cannot harm you.  It’s the rumination of these thoughts that have the potential to hold you back and in the long run they will destroy you.  If you choose that pathway and give power to negative thoughts, you will be paralyzed in fear.

But momentary setbacks are just momentary. Momentary limiting thoughts are ok. Don’t silently accept them as truth.  Throw out the limiting thoughts and find the thoughts that will lead to future success.  Successful people fail more.  They don’t live with their failures, they focus on how they can improve them.

When you find the good in all situations, you can use intelligent action to get out of your momentary falls.  Falling isn’t failing.  You only fail if you don’t get back up.  So take each moment as it comes and get back up whenever you fall.  Don’t accept what the voice is saying as truth.  If it feels bad, then it’s not your true self talking.  It’s the ego.  Our higher selves have nothing but love and compassion for us.  Choose better feeling thoughts and you will feel better!

Wherever you are in this process is precisely where you are meant to be.  There is nothing to worry about and nothing to fear.  Be proud of where you are!  The fact that you are right here, right now is brilliant.  You are about to fly.

Going Gluten Free with Ease: Week 1

It’s been a week since I decided it was time to fully commit to the gluten free lifestyle.  We don’t bring it into the house except for the odd pizza anyway, so our pantry and fridge haven’t seen gluten in a few years.  I’m pretty sure pizza was the only thing really holding us back.  That, and restaurants, but I’ve successfully eaten at 2 restaurants this week and it was actually really easy.  You just have to be sure to ask the right questions!  If you’re not sure, always ask.  Here are my ramblings from week one:

Soups, Sauces, and Salad Dressing. 

Always ask if they’re gluten free.  I ordered eggs benedict without the English muffin, which many would assume made the meal gluten free.  But, I asked about the sauce, which turned out to be made with wheat.  Traditionally it is made from egg yolks, water, lemon juice, and butter, but a lot of lower scale restaurants rely on a dry “just add water” mix.  Gross.  If you want to make it at home, here is a traditional Hollandaise Sauce recipe!


Obviously, bread and other obvious wheat containing items are no longer options.  But instead of focusing on “I can’t have it,” focus instead on all of the things that you CAN eat.  Where attention goes, energy flows.  Put your energy into energizing foods such as salads, proteins, and vegetables.  If you find yourself sulking about what you can no longer eat, then it’s time to change your focus!  Think about how your pants are starting to fit looser, or how much energy you have now that you’ve given up grains. Sometimes I just think about chocolate and how grateful I am that my favourite treat is gluten free!

Environment is Everything.

It may be time to change a few of your current hang outs.  If you’ve always gone to a coffee shop and ordered coffee and a doughnut, the habitual energy of that establishment may pull you back in and you may find it hard to cope – unless your motivation is extremely high.  Some people can do it, because their reason WHY they’ve gone gluten free is so strong.  If you’re finding it difficult, it is important to put yourself in situations where you can thrive.  Most cafes in Urban areas have gluten free options, but if you find yourself in Tim Horton’s country like I am, my advice is to stay far, far away!

“Gluten Free” Doesn’t Mean Healthy

Just because the label says gluten free doesn’t mean that food is fit for human consumption.  Many large companies are jumping on the gluten free bandwagon and their foods are not pretty.  Many packaged items contain corn, oats, and rice, which are all inflammatory foods that will spike your blood sugar higher than table sugar.  There is really nothing redeeming about packaged foods!  They’re likely high in sugar and rancid oils as well.  It’s always best to make your own at home.

Drink Plenty of Water.

I have been incredibly dehydrated this week and I know it’s because I’m not getting enough water!  When you give up grains your body releases a lot of water, and since our bodies are 75-80% water, it’s important to stay dehydrated so the body can perform its trillions of daily tasks.  The easiest way to tell if you’re getting enough water is to keep track of your urine.  If it’s deep orange, you’re in trouble.  It should be almost clear!

What I’ve Been Eating

I’ve been eating lots of eggs, meat, salads, homemade pate, smoothies, green juice, and chocolate!  I went to The Beet in Toronto yesterday which is an “organic restaurant that focuses on sourcing local, organic and sustainable ingredients.” I had a green juice and a steak sandwich in a gluten free wrap.  It was amazing.  Restaurants like The Beet make going gluten free very easy when eating out.  I hope you all have amazing restaurants like it available to you!

“Cheesy” Turmeric Broccoli

I think I’ve teased you all long enough with the pictures of this delicious sauce!  It reminds me a lot of the cheese and flour sauce that my mom used to make to get us to eat cauliflower.  But now, the sauce is made of cauliflower!

The nutritional yeast gives the sauce its cheesiness so make sure you have it on hand.  Don’t worry, it’s an inactive yeast so it won’t add to any candida issues.  Plus, it’s full of B vitamins to give you an energy and nutrient boost!

cheesy turmeric broccoli

Cheesy Turmeric Broccoli

  • 2 heads of broccoli – about 8 cups of florets

Cheese Sauce:

  • 1 head cauliflower, cut into medium sized pieces
  • 6 garlic cloves
  • 1 onion, chopped
  • 2 tbsp coconut oil
  • ¼ cup nutritional yeast
  • 1 cup chicken stock
  • ¼ tsp turmeric
  • 1 ½ tsp sea salt
  • ¼ tsp pepper

In a large soup pot, sauté the onion in coconut oil over medium heat. After 5 minutes, add the garlic and cook for a few more minutes.

Add the cauliflower and chicken stock to the pot and cover.  Cook over medium high heat until the cauliflower is tender.

Transfer the cauliflower mixture to a high speed blender and add the nutritional yeast, turmeric, salt, and pepper. Blend well.

Lastly, place the broccoli in a large pot with an inch of water in the bottom.  Steam the broccoli for 3-5 minutes or until desired tenderness is reached.  Drain broccoli and rinse with cold water to stop the cooking process. Drain the broccoli well, transfer to a bowl and top with cheese sauce.

Appreciation and the Law of Attraction

I’ve been a bit of hermit lately, listening to audiobooks like mad whenever the opportunity arises – while doing dishes, bathing the kids, making dinner, and while playing Lego for the thousandth time on the floor.  It’s the norm for my kids to be listening to the audible app for hours as mommy quenches her thirst for anything and everything she can use break herself wide open.

Lately I’ve been devouring everything I can by Esther Hicks and the collective consciousness known as Abraham.  Esther is the vessel through which the law of attraction has become mainstream.  She is a phenomenal woman who has the amazing ability to push her own consciousness aside as she lets “Abraham” enter in her place and provide the physical world with a wealth of knowledge from the spiritual realms.


As the New Year has fallen upon us once again, I’ve been looking back to where I was exactly one year ago today.  I was spiritual even then, but my mind was predominantly riddled with negativity, fear, and lack.  I was open to spirituality and growth, but I was so bogged down by self imposed limitations and daily strife that I couldn’t see myself surmounting them any time soon.

One year ago today I was one week away from my life completely ending as I had known it.  One week away from the end of my relationship. It was by far the worst moment of my life.  I felt extreme powerlessness – but – it was for the last time.  I just knew I was worthy of greatness.  In the depths of my despair I chose to focus on gratitude, appreciation, and connecting to Source because I finally realized that nothing in life was more important than that I feel good.  I became driven to create my life as I had always desired to to be, yet free of attachment to the outcome because the Universe has bigger plans for us than we can even imagine.  I knew I was at the point of no return, and that life was about to get really, really good!  My vibration rose considerably just by focusing on making myself happy, and the dominoes of delicious goodness have been dropping ever since.  I had followed the law of attraction without even known that’s what I was doing.  For once, I was following my bliss and it gave me the incredible power of manifestation.  I now have the most amazing partnership that I could ever imagine, and it’s getting better and better every day.  The best part is that there is much more to come, and I look forward to the journey!

Looking back can give you gratitude for where you currently are.  It lets you admire your mountains and the growth they have spurred in you.  And while I certainly have gratitude for where I currently am, looking back doesn’t feel good to me.  Having gratitude isn’t the same as completely appreciating where you are.  Practicing gratitude is a start, but it means that you have to remember your hardships in order to appreciate your current situation.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t necessarily feel like reliving my past.  I don’t want to tell myself that story any more.  I would rather focus on the now and cultivate the feelings that I want to feel in the present moment.  This is where flat out appreciation trumps gratitude.  When you are in a state of appreciation, it means that you are tuned in to Source energy.  You’re a live wire, completely turned on and passionate about all of the good in your life.  And when you appreciate everything that you have and all that you are, you are opening the floodgates to Universal abundance.  You are saying “I like to feel good,” and so the Universe will match the vibration you are offering by offering you more good things.

There is no truer, more fair law than the law of attraction.  You attract more of the same.  If you are focused on fear and lack, you will bring more fear and lack into your life.  Have you ever caught yourself thinking about something in the past, replaying the hurt over and over again, just for more feelings of hurt and pain to piggyback onto the previous thoughts?  It’s a slippery slope with one negative thought attracting the next.  You build up momentum and before you’re even aware of what’s happening you’re having what we call “a bad day.”

The quickest way out of one of these self dug pits of despair is to focus on something you appreciate in the now.  It can be anything at all.  It can even be the fact that you don’t have to remember to breathe since your body does it for you automatically!  Turn to any good feeling thought and start the momentum in the opposite direction.  When you start appreciating what you have, you immediately tune yourself to a higher vibration.  And it is from this higher vibration that you will begin to transform your life.

When you view the world through eyes of appreciation, you are viewing the world through the eyes of Source energy.  You are tuned in to love and who you really are.  When you are appreciative, there is no perception of lack; there is no fear – only joy for the moment and all that it encompasses.  True appreciation is true love.  When you are aligned with who you really are, you stop resisting.  You stop limiting yourself and open up the door for the Universe to deliver all that it has been trying to deliver unto you.  All you have to do is align with love, align your vibration with Source energy and align yourself with happiness, and focus on where you want to go.

In a nutshell: Think, do and be all that makes you happy!  Offer love and kindness and you will see more love and kindness being offered to you in return.  Pay attention to how you feel.  If you’re feeling despair, revenge, hatred, anger, or frustration, it’s time to turn inward and start telling yourself a new story.  These feelings are red flags that you are disconnected from Source energy and that you need to start filling your journal with a list of all that you appreciate.  When you tap into this energy and turn yourself on, you will have more to offer to those around you, and the joy dominoes will start to fall all around.

How to Succeed

Today has been a stellar day, but it didn’t start out that way!  I was wide awake half of the night, finally falling asleep around 3am, and up again before 7am with the 3 little clones.  I gave Arlo a bottle, made the big kids oatmeal, and finished making enough snacks for 33 kids since I had double snack day duty, and somehow managed to get the big guys to school on time for the first time in awhile!

Gluten-Free Dairy-Free Kid-Friendly Snack: Roasted Garlic Hummus and Paleo Chocolate Chip Cookies


Since I’ve been battling insomnia for a couple of weeks I came home and laid down to take a well deserved nap.  An hour and no sandman later, I got up and drove to the forest for some well needed clarity.  I walked for 2 hours while listening to an audiobook, while walking amongst the raining leaves.  Why sit at home and read when you can enjoy this?:IMG_8693.JPG

My fitness goal is set.  I’m just as persistent now as when I initially set the intention.  I take daily action, eat well, and my success is written in the stars.  However, I have yet to set a concrete goal with respect to my career.  I’ve found myself floating in an ocean of possibilities, slowly moving along.  So I started narrowing down my goals today while walking in the fresh misty air.  I’m already getting really excited about working toward them each and every day.  I can’t wait to wake up tomorrow and start learning, writing, and plugging away at a book that I’ve officially taken out of the “someday” pile and placed on the top of my goal list. The audiobook I listened to was called “How to completely change your life in 30 seconds” by Earl Nightingale, and it was the perfect walking companion.  I had heard it all before, but this time it really got my attention.IMG_8688.JPG

One of my favourite lessons is this: as long as you keep working toward your goals, you cannot fail.  You may fall – that’s ok.  Falling isn’t failing.  As long as you get up, you’re still in the game.  You’re successful.  Momentary setbacks cannot harm you.  Even if you’re in the lowest possible place you have ever been, a year from now, it will be just a distant memory, and you will be one year closer to your goals!  If you set a clear goal and work toward its fruition every single day, the universe has no choice but to grow the seeds into future success.  Our minds are extremely fertile, and whatever we plant in our minds will grow.  Positive or negative the mind cannot discern the difference.  It’s up to you to plant the seeds you want to cultivate.  It’s easier to be negative.  But know that your returns will be in direct proportion to what you focus on.  Replace any fearful thoughts with a positive goal worthy of your time.

There is no need to worry about how something will come about.  Worry is one of the lowest vibrations that we can find ourselves in.  There is no sense worrying about something you cannot control, nor is there any sense in worrying about something that happened in the past, or things that most likely won’t come to pass.  There is very little that we need to really worry about.  Most worries are situations that we create in our own minds.  It’s been said that 92% of things we worry about are in the aforementioned categories.  Only 8% of our worries are legitimate.

I know I was always afraid of failing.  What I really should have been worried about was my inaction.  My fears that held me back.  You cannot fail if you don’t give up, but you certainly can fail if you never do anything to shape the life you want.  Most people are caught in a stage of quiet mediocrity.  They want success, but they don’t want to work for it.  They get distracted by 1000s of things and never really get anywhere.  What do you want?

Don’t let events hold you back.  Don’t give away your power by making excuses.  It’s not what happens in life, but how you react to events that determine the result.  A famous psychiatrist interviewed the sons of an alcoholic man, and when asked how they came to be on their current paths, they both answered something like this:  “What would you expect having had an alcoholic father?”  One of the men was what you would call a success.  The other, an alcoholic like his father.