33 Life Lessons in 33 Years

Life lessons.  We learn them through love, through fear, and everything in between. Pain has always been my biggest teacher, and I’m sure you can relate. Sometimes we learn them immediately. Sometimes we think we’ve learned the lesson only to keep replaying the same old negative patterns over and over. Sometimes they literally have to slap us in the face, knock us down, and step all over us before we really get it.

The lessons we learn in those incredibly bare emotional times are the ones that we will never forget. But sometimes we can learn lessons through those who have been down those bumpy dirt roads for us.  In honour of my 33rd birthday this week, it is my hope that my life lessons can shine some light on your burdens and shine some grace on your life without the need for immense pain!!

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1.  Open your heart.

It is safe for you to open your heart to love.  The more you love the more love can return to you. Release any fears you have around giving and receiving love.

  1. You are responsible for your own happiness.

Choose to find the joy in every moment. Even in the chaos. Especially in the chaos. Any time you find yourself unhappy just let it go and do whatever you must in order to return to happiness. Do you want to be happy? Happiness is the only choice for an outstanding life.

When we take action and think thoughts that bring us pleasure, we are in alignment with our inner being. High vibrational beings attract other high vibrational beings; Happy people want to be around happy people!

  1. Release all judgments.

We are all on a journey. We are in no position to judge another because we have not walked in their shoes. They have their own reality that is separate from ours. So let judgments leave as quickly as they enter your mind and replace any unloving thoughts with loving-kindness. Send them love and light and wish them well on their travels.

  1. Set clear goals.

Life is what you make it. Decide what you want to get out of life. Choose your destination and take guided action to bring it into tangible reality. With each moment of decision, you have the power to shape your destiny. Set goals. Review them daily. Check in regularly to make sure your actions are producing the desired results and change your actions as required.

  1. Start a savings account.

Start a savings account and put money in every time you receive a paycheque. This is something we have started with our children from the day they were born and they’ve already amassed small fortunes. It is so exciting to be able to empower our children and teach them to respect money. And it’s never too late to start. If you don’t have a savings account, start one today!

6. Forgive.

Let go of past wounds. Let go of all things you cannot control and know that everything always works out in the best interest of everyone involved. Life is too short to hold a grudge. Resentment is like consuming poison and expecting the other person to die. Choose happiness. Choose forgiveness. Choose love. Let others off the hook for your happiness.

  1. Expect miracles.

Wake up every day and proclaim, “Something amazing is going to happen today!” Expect surprises. Expect life to be really, really good, because it is!

  1. The tough times = exponential growth.

Life is a constant state of change. Even if you are at rock bottom today, a year from now this tough time will be long behind you and you will more clearly see the lessons. Time heals. Draw upon your energy and strength and follow your inner guidance which is always steering you toward joyful expansion. You are never alone. You are always being guided and protected.

9. Practice Gratitude.

The easiest way to get yourself out of a rut is to return to love and gratitude. Find appreciation in every moment and you will bring yourself into alignment with your inner being. Practice gratitude and your life will flow beautifully before your eyes.

10.  The Universe returns the vibration you emit.

The law of attraction is real. The Universe rewards high vibrations with high vibrational gifts and low vibrations with low vibrational gifts. If you are kind, you will receive kindness. If you are fearful you will encounter more and more fear. Be aware of the vibration you are emitting in each moment and bring yourself back into alignment as soon as you become aware of your misalignment!

11. Baby steps equal massive action.

If you take small courageous actions every day toward the realization of your dreams, you will be successful in achieving them.  Small courageous action = massive change!

12. Get rid of negativity.

Get rid of anything and anyone in your life that brings you down. This includes all letters, pictures, paintings, clothing and items that give you a bad vibe. Turn off the radio when songs don’t make you feel as good as you want to feel.

You will mimic the vibe of your tribe, so make sure the people that you hang around the most often are lifting you up. You want to surround yourself with people who can help you learn and grow. If you’re the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room.

13. Move your body daily.

Cash in on all the health benefits of exercise and increase your heart rate every single day. Not only will you burn calories and build muscle, but you will release endorphins that will raise your mood naturally. Exercise literally makes you happy.

14. Don’t be too serious.

People who laugh more are less stressed. Laughter boosts the immune system and releases endorphins just like during exercise. When you are happy you raise your vibration. When you are high vibrational, you attract good feeling experiences into your life!

15. Pray.

Your angels and guides are available to help you in each and every moment. You have been given the gift of free will so you must ask in order to receive. Ask them for the strength and power to forgive. Ask them for courage and clarity in troubling times. Ask them to come to you in your dreams and help you to work on a specific problem. Ask them to open your heart and help you to love freely. Ask them for guidance on anything and everything. Instead of complaining about anything, ask that the solution be shown to you. Ask for guidance and then look for it all around you.

16. Find a role model.

Search out the best people in your field and learn from them. Find the people who are already doing what you want to do, and doing it well. They can save you from making a lot of mistakes, and wasting a lot of time.

17. Don’t take anything personally.

Don’t let the things that people do or say bother you. Their opinion may be their reality but it has no business becoming yours, especially if their opinions make you feel badly about yourself! Your true self is pure love and anything other than pure love does not really exist.

18. Use your power wisely.

You can focus your attention on anything. What you repeatedly focus your attention on is what you are going to amass skill in. Invest your time and energy wisely.  What do you see when you look at your partner?  Do you see all of the things that bother you or do you see all of the reasons why you love this person?  See only love. Be loving. Do these two things and your relationships and your life will transform.

19. You are not your thoughts.

That continuous chatter that occurs between your ears all day long is not who you really are. You are the watcher of the thoughts, but the thoughts are not you. Let thoughts move freely through your brain and be careful not to attach yourself to them. Notice the thoughts and release them. Your inner being cannot be disturbed so long as you are mindful of this.

20. Stop all self betrayal.

Listen to your intuition and feel you way through life. Be true to yourself; be true to your emotions. Emotions provide deep insight into the soul. Follow your emotional guidance/intuition/vibes/gut feelings. When something feels bad it probably is. If you become aware that you feel poorly, find a better feeling thought or take a better feeling action.

Express your emotions. Unexpressed emotions are ticking time bombs, so communicate emotions to your tribe as they arise and let them move through you. Work through and release pain as it arises. If you are holding on to anything there is no better time than the present to let go and give yourself permission to heal.

21. Procrastination is a silent killer.

Perfection and procrastination team up to kill your dreams. If you have a dream, don’t wait until conditions are perfect before you begin. Perfection doesn’t exist, so you’ll be procrastinating forever! Whatever it is, do it now!

22. Failure is impossible.

As long as you never give up you can never really fail. You can stumble, pause, and retreat for years even, but as long as you get back up and move forward you can never fail. Learn from your mistakes. Use the lessons to build yourself up and make yourself stronger. Every impediment means that you are closer to your goal. Never give up.

23. Be present.

It is never the past, it is never the future, it is only ever the present. And it is the most beautiful gift you can ever receive. The present moment is where we experience pure love and joy. Don’t get caught up reliving past traumas or spend your present moment worrying about the future. If you can’t control something, like the past for instance, let it go.

Use your senses and enjoy the present moment. Be still and enjoy spending time with yourself.  Enjoy time with others. The most important person in your life is the one that is right in front of you in the present moment.  Give your all to them.

24. Fear is an illusion.

We are the creators of our reality. We are the creators of our fears. Our fears exist only in our mind and they are not real. A fear of public speaking, a fear of spiders, a fear of not being loved, they are all illusions. As soon as you make the decision to change your beliefs around your fears, the illusion is unmasked.

Shine a light on your fears. Fears thrive in the darkness, but the moment you shine a light on them they can no longer survive. Decide that you are an amazing public speaker. Spiders are a beautiful piece of nature. Know that you are infinitely loved and supported by the Universe. Take your power back and start believing in the magnificent being that you are and destroy those illusions.

25.  Only love is real.

If fear is the darkness, love is the light. You can feel ecstatic love whenever you wish. Tap into the immense field of love that is all around. God is love. You are love.

See through the eyes of the Divine, the lens of love, and your life will change forever. Continuously let go of any disserving thoughts and return to love. Look past the egos of others and see the love within them. See love and the darkness will diminish. The more often you choose love over fear the easier it will get and the happier you will be.

26. Be authentic.

Be yourself. Speak your truth and shine your light. If you show up authentically in your life you give others the permission to show up authentically as well. Let your true self shine and give any worries about doing so to your angels. You are loved and supported by the Universe at all times. The more often you act from your authentic core, the more space you open up for magical opportunities to enter into your perception.

27. Be kind to yourself.

The people you spend the most time with have the opportunity to shape your thoughts and your beliefs. Since you have to hang out with yourself a whole lot, you had better watch what you say to yourself on a consistent basis. If you were another person, would you want to hang out with you? What would you want your best friend to say to you? Start being your best friend. Take care of yourself, love yourself, say nice things, and enjoy spending time alone.

You should be your biggest raving fan. If you don’t believe in yourself then no one else will. You have to love yourself first.

28. Eat mindfully.

You don’t have to eat a rigid diet, and you don’t need to label yourself. You can eat primarily paleo diet but have ice cream on occasion if you really enjoy it. Be authentic in all areas of your life. If you are binging on unhealthy foods, get to the root of the problem by shining a light on it. Love yourself enough to eat well.

29. Your thoughts create your reality.

The thoughts you think on a consistent basis shape your beliefs and form your actions. Be kind with your thoughts and suspend all judgment as it arises. Everything we can see was once a thought before it was created. Each thought is a prayer that is immediately sent out into the Universe, so think wisely.

30. Be generous.

The cycle of giving and receiving is one of ebb and flow. Give every day without expectation, and be open to receiving the blessings the Universe has to offer. If you enjoy giving but resist the presents that others try to bestow upon you, you are disrupting the cycle. Receive graciously so that others may enjoy giving. Give, accept, and repeat.

31. Live with passion.

Follow your bliss. If you consistently take actions that make you happy, you are living with passion. To live with passion is to greet each day with excitement. If you are not excited about life, then you need to start asking yourself when you really come alive. When are you most you? What lights you up? And then go DO it!

32. You’re growing or you’re dying.

Learn about something that interests you and share what you have learned with others. When we are learning, creating, and teaching our spirits thrive.

33. We are all one.

Everything is connected. We are all energy and energy knows no boundaries. We have the power to change another’s mood by the vibe we’re putting out. We can telepathically connect with people on the other side of the world just by thinking about them. How many times have you thought about someone and then they coincidentally called you out of the blue? There are no coincidences. We are all made of the same loving fabric.  When you love others you are loving yourself, and when you find fault in others you are finding fault in yourself.  Love unconditionally.

Cauliflower Butter Chicken

This is my absolute favourite recipe to make at the moment.  I make it about once a week and I usually end up doubling the recipe so that we have leftovers as well!  I think I could eat it every day.  Butter chicken and chocolate.  Balance!

Plus, it’s so easy to prepare.  It’s something I can make even when I have 3 little boys running around.  Three!  Arlo is walking now so our house just got a little bit crazier, which means I have to make meals that I can pull together quickly!

If you are dairy free, simply substitute coconut oil when cooking the chicken and onions, and don’t worry about adding any extra at the end.  I usually use salted butter, so you may want to season to taste if you are making the substitution.

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Butter Chicken

Serves 4.

  • 1/2 lb boneless skinless chicken breast
  • 2 onions, chopped
  • 4 garlic cloves, minced
  • 1 tbsp garam masala
  • 1 tbsp fresh ginger, grated
  • 1 tsp paprika
  • 1 tsp cumin
  • 1 tbsp lemon juice
  • 1 28 oz can diced tomatoes
  • 1 can coconut milk
  • ½ cup butter, divided
  • Cilantro, to garnish

Cut chicken breasts into 1” chunks. In a large pan, add 2 tbsp butter and cook the chicken on both sides until no longer pink. Careful not to overcook them.  You want them to remain juicy! Remove from pan and set aside.

Melt another 2 tbsp butter in the pan and add the onion and cook over medium/low heat until softened, about 10 minutes. Add the garlic, garam masala, ginger, paprika, and cumin, and cook for another minute.

Add the tomatoes, lemon juice, and coconut milk and bring to a boil. Cook over medium/low heat for 10-15 minutes to boil off some of the water.

Return the chicken to the pan and add the rest of the butter. Simmer for 5 minutes to reheat the chicken.

Serve with cauliflower rice, recipe below.

Basic Cauliflower Rice

  • 1 head cauliflower
  • 2 tbsp butter
  • ½ tsp turmeric
  • ¼ tsp sea salt

Chop cauliflower into small florets. Place cauliflower in small batches into a food processor and pulse until it resembles rice.

Melt the butter in a large pan and add the rice-sized cauliflower. Cook over medium heat, covered, until tender, 5-8 minutes.  Add a few tbsp of water or chicken stock if you need moisture in the bottom of the pot.

While cauliflower is cooking, add salt and turmeric.

The Massive Courageous Action Plan

Every single moment is a new opportunity to achieve greatness.  I don’t mean that you have to go off and climb Mt. Kilimanjaro right this second, but that life is what you make it. Life is the ultimate choose your own adventure experience. The past is a very poor predictor of the future, so don’t rely on it to tell you where you’re going.  You get to decide; you have unlimited creative powers, so you may want to use them to your advantage.

Each little moment adds up. Each moment is a building block that will shape your life. Your past actions, and inactions, have gotten you to this moment right now. How is the view? If you don’t like where you’re currently sitting, that’s ok, because you possess the power to change where you are headed. It’s so exciting knowing that we are the creators of our reality, isn’t it?

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The biggest reason why we don’t get where we want to be is because we are afraid. We let our fears hold us back. We’re scared to try because we might fail, or we sabotage ourselves when things start to get really good. We’ve always failed in the past so we want to cushion the blow by quitting before we fail.

The easiest way to defeat fear is to run right through it. Keep your eyes on the prize knowing that everything always works out in the end. Often, it works out better than planned! It’s impossible to fail if you keep moving forward. You only fail if you quit. If you learn something along the way then you haven’t failed.  Mistakes allow us to revise our plan of action, which means the more we fail, the closer we are to success.

I have so many goals and dreams that I am chipping away at that I get a little overwhelmed at times. I thought I knew where I was going, but I hadn’t gotten incredibly laser focused about my destination.  Knowing exactly where you are going really helps. You wouldn’t drive from Toronto to New York without knowing where you’re going, so why do so many of us live our lives without a clear destination?  A clear destination can save us a lot of time and a lot of pain.

My latest success tool is something that Yuri has been telling me for years: “know your outcome,” and it wasn’t until I started listening to Tony Robbins’ Personal Power program that I really understood what it meant.  I had been visualizing broad success but nothing that was really measurable.

I’m currently breaking down my vision board into subcategories.  I’m figuring out exactly what I want my life to be like on every level.  Family, Marriage, Physical, Business, etc. In fact, my business category has a ton of subcategories and I’ve never been more excited to work!

Because of instituting my Massive Courageous Action Plan, I’m feeling a lot less overwhelmed these days. Instead of taking broad action steps toward my dream, like “write every day,” I’m mapping out mini laser-focused steps to get to each destination.  I use my intuition and follow my bliss along the way, and do what feels really, really good.

I used to get caught in the trap of doing all the mundane things that you have to do to get through the day-to-day operations of being human. Some days I didn’t feel like I really got anywhere except deeper and deeper into anger and resentment. That’s just the way it was and I felt powerless to change it.

But once I stepped into my power and realized that I had to take control of my life instead of my life controlling me, I started making better choices.  I started choosing happiness over anger and I chose action over inaction.  I chose to create the time for my passions, started my life coaching business, and started taking action toward my dreams!

I had the vision of doing all of this years ago, but I finally got the kick in the pants I needed to make it happen when I went through my personal crisis. My spirit was begging me to take action and when I did I felt a million times better.

If we don’t keep up with the expansion of our soul, we can get really unhappy here in Earth school. It is my experience that as we learn and learn, we have to start taking guided action or our spirit starts to suffocate.  Eventually the pain of inaction became much greater than the pain of taking action and I started thinking about what I really wanted to create in life.

Any action is progress, but massive courageous action is unstoppable. It’s what outstanding lives are made of. It’s time to run right through your fears and give yourself a massive high five on the other side.

You don’t have to be unhappy at a job that you don’t enjoy, and you don’t have to make sure everything around you is perfect before you start what you really want to do. That’s another lesson I learned along the way. Perfection creates paralysis!

Start NOW. Write out a game plan for your life and follow it.  

To start, get out a piece of paper and write down 3 action steps that you can accomplish today. Start with things that you have been putting off and get them done. This is something that you can do each evening so that you know exactly what you’re going to do the next day.

Take an evening to map out your destinations and start planning the action steps that will help get you there. You don’t have to have it all figured out in one evening but I imagine that you will have quite a few aha moments if you take the time to do this.

Remember, it’s going to take courage to step through your fears.  When you feel the fear, acknowledge it and take action anyway! You are a lot stronger than you may think you are. Action takes courage, especially if it’s an action that you have been putting off for a long time. Know that courageous action is needed for success, and if you can muster up the courage to step through your fears, miracles are waiting for you on the other side. If you need another push into action, ponder what your life will be like in 5 or 10 years if you don’t take action.

Tell the Universe that you’re ready to fly. When you do this exercise each evening, ask your guides and angels for help solving these problems while you sleep. Your guides are always with you and they want to help you, so ask them! I would be very surprised if you don’t start getting incredible intuitive hits around the topics you have asked for help!

Each evening when I ask for guidance, I have amazing vivid dreams.  Don’t forget to ask for help remembering your dreams and the messages within them, though you will subconsciously remember the lessons, it’s always fun to remember the dreams!

Berries with Coconut Cream

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The berries that flooded into the grocery store last month were so deliciously sweet that we made this recipe nearly every day for a week.  The kids couldn’t get enough dessert and we didn’t mind at all!  I can’t wait for our local berry season to roll around!

Berries with Coconut Cream

Serves 6.

  • 2 cans full fat coconut milk (refrigerated)
  • 1 tsp vanilla extract
  • ½ tsp cinnamon
  • pinch of sea salt
  • 1 tsp erythritol (confectioner’s style swerve sweetener or 6 drops stevia)
  • 1 pint blueberries
  • ½ pint blackberries
  • 1 pint strawberries

Scoop the solid mass of coconut cream off the top of each can of coconut milk and place it in a large bowl. Discard the liquid or save for another purpose. Add the cinnamon, vanilla, sea salt, and sweetener of choice. Carefully beat the mixture with an electric beater for 1-2 minutes.

Divide the berries into 6 serving bowls, cutting the strawberries into bite size pieces. Spoon the coconut cream mixture overtop, top with cinnamon, and serve!

If you want something a little more decadent, a tsp of maple syrup really takes this dish over the top!

Children: Leading By Example.

Above all, I think the one thing we all want for our children is for them to be happy. Kids don’t need the latest and greatest toys, and they don’t need you to shuffle them off to sport after sport, camp after camp. What they need is your unconditional love and guidance as they calibrate themselves to this world and learn to guide themselves.

Our children are constantly watching us.  If our words don’t line up with our actions then they will take our actions as our truth, as what we really mean.  They’re constantly accumulating information, guidelines, and rules as they learn and grow, so we need to be on our best behaviour as parents.  They are our mirrors.  They will show us how we are doing as parents in the way they mirror our actions back to them.  If you don’t like what you see, it’s time to change your own behaviour.

If we are to raise conscious children, then we must be conscious ourselves.  We must lead by example.  We must show them that no matter what is happening around us, how we feel is our choice.  Make the choice to feel good anyway. We must show them that outside circumstances do not control us.  We control us.

In any moment it is our choice to feel good or to feel bad, and our children must learn that they are in control of their choices as well.  Lead by example.  If your children see you constantly crack under pressure and just freak out, what do you think they’ll do the next time they’re stressed out?  Right on, they’re going freak the F out.  But if they see that you are calm when confronted by a stressful situation; looking for possible solutions and reaching for the best feeling thoughts, how do you think they’ll react in a similar situation?

Teach Confidence

We must teach our children to believe in themselves, that anything they want to create in life is possible. Build their confidence. Teach them how to laugh at themselves. Teach them to let go of things that they can’t control and focus instead on what they can.  And above all show them how to love themselves.  How do I do all of that? I can hear you asking… Believe in yourself.  Show them your confidence. Laugh at yourself. Let go of the things you cannot control. And above all, do it all from a state of deep self love.

Fear teaches us where our souls need to grow.  We needn’t be afraid. We need to push through those fears and have a dance party on the other side.  Show them how.

Build their confidence by helping them speak their truth.  Draw focus to their strengths and their passions. It doesn’t matter what it is as long is it feels good to them.  Teach them to follow their bliss.  This is how they’re going to thrive in the world when they’re not holding your hand.


I remember begging my mom to let me play hockey.  I kept getting “no, no, no” because she didn’t want me to get hurt. Thankfully she let me quit figure skating for the sole reason I wanted to quit: “Because I’m too cold.” I didn’t miss it at all. I entered a bowling league for a couple of winters, which was fun, but it wasn’t my passion, it was hers.  One day, out of the blue, she said I could play hockey.  I don’t know what changed her mind but I loved it, I was good at it, and I still play today. Your kids know what turns them on. They know what feels good and what feels bad, so keep the communication open and let them follow what feels good.  Let them try new experiences. Let them quit others. Let them simply be themselves without trying to control them.


Our 4 year old can get into some pretty bad moods.  We used to fight about it.  Now I ignore it completely so I don’t encourage that type of behaviour by giving him negative attention.  Instead, I offer him a chance to change his state.  I turn on some dance music and start having a dance party.  I know that the positivity of the rest of the family will draw him into the happiness vortex that we’re creating, and sooner or later he’s going to find staying angry to be a lot more effort than giving in to the overwhelming happiness in the air.

When he’s back in a good mood, we talk about what happened, about how he himself is in charge of how he feels, and how life is so much easier when we choose to be happy.  We’ve had the same conversation many times and I don’t mind.  We’re building a pathway to success. When he’s in a bad mood, it’s important for him to learn how to change his state.  We’re giving him the tools he needs to choose happiness.

Of course, the easiest way for kids to change their state is to ask them if they want some ice cream, but we want to teach them life skills that are not dependant on anything but their own mind and body!  Food is the most abused antidepressant in the world, and we do not want to use it to bribe our children out of a bad mood.  It’s ok if you’ve done that in the past, because really, what parent hasn’t!?  But that’s not the pathway to happiness you want to use with your children on a regular basis or it will become a big problem for them in the future…

Be the you that you want your children to grow up to be!  Remember, they’re ALWAYS watching.

How to Manifest the Ideal Relationship – Between You and You

We live in a time that is so fast-paced, we practically have to run to keep up.  And there are times throughout the day when I do run to keep up!  This morning I dropped my three kids off at three different destinations, which meant that later on I had to pick up three kids at three different destinations!  I can’t imagine what it’s going to be like when they start playing organized sports, which will probably be right around the corner at the pace time is flying these days.

Just thinking about how stressed out our society has become makes me think back to taking Toronto transit.  If you want to see insanity, just try to take public transit during rush hour.  People literally run from trains to buses at the end of the work day.  It’s like watching a herd of humans in the wild – wait, that’s exactly what it is! They’re in a rush to get to work, in a rush to get through the work day, and in a rush to go home. When do they slow down?  So what if you miss the train?  Sit on a bench and just be present. I’m fairly certain herd behaviour isn’t there yet…

I never really understood it.

I’ve spent my entire life as a watcher, not knowing exactly where I fit into this insanity.  I was always too aware of myself to really fit in and not aware enough to know who I really was.  It wasn’t until I started connecting with spirit that I finally understood who I was; who I am.  And do you know what made that possible?  I sat on the bench.

I slowed down.  I took time to get to know myself.  I meditated, I wrote, and I simply existed as much in the present moment as my expansion allowed.  I started questioning my actions, my reactions, my thoughts and my beliefs.  I picked apart the answers to those questions and asked myself what I wanted instead.  It wasn’t pretty, but the result is pretty ridiculously amazing.  Now, instead of feeling like an Earthly outcast, I finally feel like I have built a home inside this body of mine.

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One of the greatest lessons I have learned is to give myself permission to be self-ish. No, not narcissistic toddler selfish, just a little self-ish.  I created the time I needed to be myself amongst the chaos.  My modus operandus had been a highly stressed out state, and I had lived in that state for so long that I didn’t even recognize it as a stressed out state.  You don’t know what you don’t know, right?  So, if you’re not being self-ish now, I’m giving you permission to start.  The next step?  Meet me halfway, and give yourself permission as well.

Once I started scheduling regular time for myself; a long bath, a meditation, a walk in the forest, a trip to the gym, a workout at home while the kids crawled all over me, or even getting up at 5 am to write, my stress level came down and my happiness meter went way up.  Once I started having a relationship with myself again, using my emotions as built-in guidance, I started to realize all the little things that made me tick.  I started giving myself permission to let loose and have fun, something I had forgotten to do years before.  I started clearly seeing the cause and effect of my thoughts and behaviours.  I became my own science experiment.  And the experiment is still going strong.

All relationships you have will be intimately affected by the relationship you have with yourself.  So you may as well have a good one!  And the best pathway I know how to manifest a healthy connection between you and you is through your emotions.

Any time you are feeling stressed out or down, and don’t seem to know the source of your troubles, or, are simply in denial that a problem exists, draw your attention to your emotions. Also known as “gut feelings,” your emotions are a continuous feedback loop, letting you know in real time when you’re on-course for joy, or horribly off the mark.

Start paying attention.  Though it will be hard at first, the more you can be present with your emotions, the faster you will learn the Universal truth that you, and you alone are responsible for your happiness.  The more you use your emotions as guidance, the more often you’ll be able to take charge – forming the beliefs and performing the actions that bring you the most joy.

It’s time to give yourself permission to slow down.  Take some time to get to know that one person you have been neglecting lately, and start asking what it is they need, because only you can give it to them.



Be Proud of Yourself

image1 (1)I can’t even begin to count the amount of times I have been down on myself over my lifetime. It’s got to be in the 100s of thousands by this point.  This is why I am on this mission today.  It’s not okay for someone to treat anyone the way I treated myself in the past.  Today, I live moment to moment, filtering and changing my thoughts as I must in order to follow the most loving path I can.

It’s not what happens in life but how you react that determines the result.

I’m not perfect.  I still get down on myself.  But the way I respond to my mind chatter these days is much, much different.  In the past I would dig a hole and camp out with my failures.  I still don’t understand why anyone would choose that as an option, but it felt safe at the time I suppose.  Nowadays, whenever I watch a thought go by that isn’t in line with my true self, I think, “that was a crazy thought,” and let it pass by.  I don’t live there anymore.  Sometimes our minds come up with some crazy, crazy stuff, am I right?

Know that those thoughts are not you.  

You are the seer of the thoughts.  You do not have to own them.  Watch them go by and release them just as fast as they came.  After 90 seconds of ruminating on a thought, we own it.  So it’s important to filter your thoughts and move on. Take the long range view and realize that these momentary thoughts cannot harm you.  It’s the rumination of these thoughts that have the potential to hold you back and in the long run they will destroy you.  If you choose that pathway and give power to negative thoughts, you will be paralyzed in fear.

But momentary setbacks are just momentary. Momentary limiting thoughts are ok. Don’t silently accept them as truth.  Throw out the limiting thoughts and find the thoughts that will lead to future success.  Successful people fail more.  They don’t live with their failures, they focus on how they can improve them.

When you find the good in all situations, you can use intelligent action to get out of your momentary falls.  Falling isn’t failing.  You only fail if you don’t get back up.  So take each moment as it comes and get back up whenever you fall.  Don’t accept what the voice is saying as truth.  If it feels bad, then it’s not your true self talking.  It’s the ego.  Our higher selves have nothing but love and compassion for us.  Choose better feeling thoughts and you will feel better!

Wherever you are in this process is precisely where you are meant to be.  There is nothing to worry about and nothing to fear.  Be proud of where you are!  The fact that you are right here, right now is brilliant.  You are about to fly.

Overcoming Limiting Beliefs

Do you ever think about how many masks we wear on a daily basis?  We tend to change our behaviours based on the situation, the environment, and the people around us.  We do things to be cool, fit in, and to make other people like us.  We may realize we’re doing it, or we may not have a clue that we’re not being our true selves.  We wear masks so often that some of us don’t even know who we really are or what we like!

Our minds chatter 24/7, but it’s not our true selves talking.  We’re the consciousness behind the voice.  The voice keeps us small and doesn’t want us to take risks because it wants to protect us. We believe everything the voice tells us, and tend not to question ourselves because they’re OUR thoughts.  We’ve invested a lot of time and energy amassing them and we just go with the flow. Until now.

It’s time to challenge your beliefs

I had the time of my life this past weekend in New Jersey with Tony Robbins and 7000 other people.  Life will never be the same again.  It really is a life changing experience.  We danced, we laughed, we cried, and we fell in love with ourselves and each other.  The love created in that room was palpable.  No one wanted to go home.  Do yourself a favour and sign up for the next Unleash the Power Within seminar right this second!  Bring your significant other, bring your kids, and bring all of the bullshit you’re ready to put down.

To give you a little itty bitty taste of the experience, below is the incantation that Tony is known for.  Say each line with power, and repeat the mantra several times to get into a peak state.  If you’re familiar with this particular mantra (pointing to my fellow firewalkers) don’t be afraid to get out of your seat, make your power move, and tell the voice who is in charge!

Photo 2015-03-10, 1 17 30 PMWe all have a set of beliefs that we carry around that we think are absolute truths.  They are intimately tied to our identity, and along with our values, they run the show.  However, these beliefs carry consequences and they hold us back.  If you’re optimistic, then you’re really in trouble because you think things will get better, but they won’t, not until you get the root of those limiting beliefs and pull them out of your body forever.

What are your limiting beliefs? Maybe the voice in your head sounds like this: “I’ll never lose weight.  I don’t like speaking in public.  I’m scared to be alone.  I’m not smart enough.  I don’t have the education.  No one with hire me.  I’m too young.  I’m too old.  I’m…fill in the blank.”  Do yourself a favour and start paying attention to your mental chatter.  What excuses do you use on a regular basis?  What complaints would your friends recognize that you say all. the. time.?  Now ask yourself this:

What have these thoughts prevented you from doing or becoming?  What have you missed out on?  

Think back 5 or 10 years.  What haven’t you done because of your fears?  What beliefs have kept you small?  Until last year, I used the excuse “Having young kids is hard.” Having given birth to 3 kids in 3 years I wholeheartedly believed that my kids were holding me back, and my story is pretty valid, so I REALLY believed it.  Then one day I decided that enough was enough and I was done with my excuses and that I going to make things happen in my life!

Change happens in an instant. 

One second I was a victim of 3 little kids and the next second I was successful with 3 little kids. What happened?  I raised my standards.   I went from putting my kids first and being unhappy and stressed to making time for myself and ensuring that I do things that make me happy on a daily basis, if not all day long!  I took back my power from the situation, changed my thoughts, and became the voice!

If there is something in your life right now that you can’t change, think again.  What are the limiting beliefs at the forefront of your excuse?  Realize that you’re telling yourself a story.  The second you realize your thoughts are holding you back is the instant you can take back your voice and regain control of your life.

Rewrite your story.

Write down 3 limiting beliefs.  Below them, write the truth.  For instance, if your story is that you can’t lose weight, cross it out and write “I live in Divine health.” “I have a beautiful, sexy body.” or “My body is finding its ideal weight effortlessly.”

If you’re struggling with confidence and you think “life is hard,” cross it out and write “I love how easy life is,” “I wake up each day knowing that something amazing is going to happen”, or go all in with “I am the creator of my reality!”

The stories we sell ourselves matter.  They shape our experience in every single moment.  If you believe people are assholes, then that is what you will experience.  If you believe people with money are ungrateful trust fund babies, then you’re going to get that experience as well.  But, if you rewrite your stories to include “strangers are nice,” “I’m so lucky,” or “this is the best day yet,” then that will be your experience.

Every thought we have is a prayer sent into the Universe.  When we think happy thoughts, happiness is what we perceive.   When we’re negative and lashing out, we get that back as well. The silent saboteur behind all of these feelings are the beliefs that we carry about the world. What energy will you be sharing the universe today?  Be outstanding!!

Everything is a Gift

We tend to think things happen to us when we’re powerless and suffering.  We take things personally and we feel angry and defeated.  We think things are out of our control or that we’re being punished.  But things never happen to us – they happen FOR us.  Each and every moment is an opportunity to create a new reality for ourselves.  There is a huge difference in reality between thinking things are happening to us vs. for us.  Each moment is an opportunity to grow.

“The world is only in the mind of its maker.”


We are constantly being guided.  When we haven’t been listening to the soft little nudges to change that the Universe gives us, it throws something big at us to get our attention.  It’s not because we’re being punished.  We’re being helped.  The energy on the planet is shifting.  Mediocrity is no longer being accepted.  The status quo will no longer suffice.  It’s time to get off our asses and change things, or things will change for us.

A year ago, I never imagined that I would be the person I’ve become.  I wanted to be here very badly, but it wasn’t a possibility in my mind.  I thought about how I wasn’t living the life I wanted.  I was unhappy and I knew it.  I felt powerless to change my relationship, myself, and where my life was headed.  Then one day, it happened for me.  My relationship imploded and a new beginning was thrust upon me.  But as hard as it was, it was my chance to reinvent myself for the better, and that’s what I set out to do.  I stepped into my power and knew that something amazing was going to happen.  The Universe was happening for me.  Intense growth occurs in times of intense strife.  After all, what have we learned when things went well?

Blowups in relationships are blessings.  They tear down falsities and beg us to show our true selves.  Anything that is not true will fall away and we’ll be standing there bare anyway, so we may as well take control and be true to ourselves.  I didn’t know I had the power to change it all back then.  I wasn’t listening to the little nudges to be a writer or become a life coach, and I wasn’t happy.  My spirit was suffering and I thought I had to follow through with my commitment to be a stay at home mom.  I focused on everything that was wrong and that got me nowhere.  Now I think to myself, “What is going right? How is my life really awesome?”  Better questions, better answers.

If something terrible has happened to you recently, take it from me that the earlier you can see the blessing in the situation the better.  Everything is a gift.  The good and the bad.  It’s all awesome.  No matter what it is, a year from now, you’re going to have an entirely new vantage point.  The sooner you can see the blessings, the sooner you can get to the other side.

Is the Universe nudging you to change something in your life?  Do you have a nagging feeling that something is off, something that you need to face?  I encourage you to think about your daily life and ask yourself if this were the last day of your life, would you want to do what you’re going to do today?  What would you rather do?  What really gets you excited?

Today I believe my life is about to change again.  I’m in the driver’s seat and I’m at another tipping point and I cannot wait to see what the future has in store!  Now that I am completely aware of my power to create the life of my dreams, I can’t wait to use it every single day to manifest the life that I have imagined for so long.  Today I will Unleash The Power Within some more.  Only 2 hours until we see Tony Robbins and I cannot wait!!!

Going Gluten Free with Ease: Week 1

It’s been a week since I decided it was time to fully commit to the gluten free lifestyle.  We don’t bring it into the house except for the odd pizza anyway, so our pantry and fridge haven’t seen gluten in a few years.  I’m pretty sure pizza was the only thing really holding us back.  That, and restaurants, but I’ve successfully eaten at 2 restaurants this week and it was actually really easy.  You just have to be sure to ask the right questions!  If you’re not sure, always ask.  Here are my ramblings from week one:

Soups, Sauces, and Salad Dressing. 

Always ask if they’re gluten free.  I ordered eggs benedict without the English muffin, which many would assume made the meal gluten free.  But, I asked about the sauce, which turned out to be made with wheat.  Traditionally it is made from egg yolks, water, lemon juice, and butter, but a lot of lower scale restaurants rely on a dry “just add water” mix.  Gross.  If you want to make it at home, here is a traditional Hollandaise Sauce recipe!


Obviously, bread and other obvious wheat containing items are no longer options.  But instead of focusing on “I can’t have it,” focus instead on all of the things that you CAN eat.  Where attention goes, energy flows.  Put your energy into energizing foods such as salads, proteins, and vegetables.  If you find yourself sulking about what you can no longer eat, then it’s time to change your focus!  Think about how your pants are starting to fit looser, or how much energy you have now that you’ve given up grains. Sometimes I just think about chocolate and how grateful I am that my favourite treat is gluten free!

Environment is Everything.

It may be time to change a few of your current hang outs.  If you’ve always gone to a coffee shop and ordered coffee and a doughnut, the habitual energy of that establishment may pull you back in and you may find it hard to cope – unless your motivation is extremely high.  Some people can do it, because their reason WHY they’ve gone gluten free is so strong.  If you’re finding it difficult, it is important to put yourself in situations where you can thrive.  Most cafes in Urban areas have gluten free options, but if you find yourself in Tim Horton’s country like I am, my advice is to stay far, far away!

“Gluten Free” Doesn’t Mean Healthy

Just because the label says gluten free doesn’t mean that food is fit for human consumption.  Many large companies are jumping on the gluten free bandwagon and their foods are not pretty.  Many packaged items contain corn, oats, and rice, which are all inflammatory foods that will spike your blood sugar higher than table sugar.  There is really nothing redeeming about packaged foods!  They’re likely high in sugar and rancid oils as well.  It’s always best to make your own at home.

Drink Plenty of Water.

I have been incredibly dehydrated this week and I know it’s because I’m not getting enough water!  When you give up grains your body releases a lot of water, and since our bodies are 75-80% water, it’s important to stay dehydrated so the body can perform its trillions of daily tasks.  The easiest way to tell if you’re getting enough water is to keep track of your urine.  If it’s deep orange, you’re in trouble.  It should be almost clear!

What I’ve Been Eating

I’ve been eating lots of eggs, meat, salads, homemade pate, smoothies, green juice, and chocolate!  I went to The Beet in Toronto yesterday which is an “organic restaurant that focuses on sourcing local, organic and sustainable ingredients.” I had a green juice and a steak sandwich in a gluten free wrap.  It was amazing.  Restaurants like The Beet make going gluten free very easy when eating out.  I hope you all have amazing restaurants like it available to you!