Today is Day 10 for me in the Workbook for Students, and the lesson is this:
This is a concept that I’ve been aware of ever since I read The Untethered Soul a couple of years ago. In it, Michael Singer states that we are not the thoughts that we think, but rather the consciousness behind the thoughts. This is something that made sense immediately for me since I’ve always been amazed by what my ego comes up with! I am so grateful to know that I am not equal to the horrific things my mind projects sometimes!
You are not your thoughts. Do not dwell on them. You are not a horrible person for having that thought. You are not equal to your thoughts. This does not mean that you are not responsible for your thoughts, however. The ego is constantly trying to be better than others, trying to one-up them, and make itself more special than others. It judges, criticizes, and wants to be cooler than everyone else. It is your responsibility to watch these thoughts and then change them.
It’s up to you to choose love over judgement, love over hate, and love over anger, etc. When you choose love, you are strengthening it. When you choose any of the lower vibrations, you are strengthening that choice as well. When you become aware of a low vibrational thought, simply steer that thought in a loving direction.
For instance: If you walk by someone and think “what an ugly person,” you have just created a learning experience for yourself in which you must see them with love! Find the perfection of God in them. It is there. When you see love in others, you strengthen it in yourself. Every moment is a learning experience.
Our egos are constantly projecting our fears onto others, and this produces nothing but hurt. When we get angry with others for exuding a trait that we cannot stand (which exists within ourselves and we do not like it), we are increasing the feeling of separation we feel between who we are being in that moment, and who we really are, which is full of love.
It will never do us any good to criticize others (or ourselves). It sends bad energy out into the world and returns bad energy a thousandfold to us. It hurts us because it separates us from love. When you choose hurt, you are turning your back on love. You cannot have both.
To be human is to perceive. We cannot help it. Our reality will forever be shaped by our history for the most part. When we see things, we aren’t seeing them as they are now. We see them as a compilation of our unique history. For instance, have you ever heard someone’s name and had a visceral reaction to them because you used to know someone with that name and didn’t like them?
This is why we must pay attention to our thoughts. We must make it our life’s mission to see only love, to teach only love, and to lead by example.
Exercise: This may be counterintuitive for some of you but I challenge you to stick with it and go the distance! Here it is: Pay attention to your thoughts for 10 minutes. Watch them from the seat of awareness behind the thoughts. Do not judge yourself. When an unloving thought arises, you can restate the thought in positive terms, or you can just let it go by and say “What a funny thought!” If you’re really stuck with seeing the bright side of a low vibrational thought, choose any loving thought you can think of, or simply state something that you are grateful for in this moment.
Example thought: “I can’t believe how stupid that person is.” Positive tuning thought: “We all do the best we can.”
Example thought: “That guy is the worst driver ever” Positive tuning thought: “I’m going to slow down and give him some space.”
Example thought: “My kids are driving me insane.” Positive tuning thought: “They really are good kids. They just need some attention.”
Have a lovely day!