How to Get Out of Your Own Way

As I sit here wondering what is going to come through, I am surrounding by a throbbing heart opening energy that is literally making my entire body buzz with love for you. I want to remind you that love is available to you in each and every moment, and all you have to do to feel it is to let yourself receive it.

We spend so much time thinking ourselves unlovable and unsociable that we close the door to love. We spend so much time thinking about how annoying our spouse is that we block the love coming to us and from us. We block not only their love, but all love.

When you find yourself in anger, resentment, sadness, or are generally focusing on all the bad things that are happening to you, or to other people around you, or focusing on all of the bad things that could happen that you don’t want to happen, or…. well, you get the idea.

One thing I wish I had known much much earlier is this:

Life doesn’t happen to you, it happens from you.

– Abraham-Hicks

You are the one creating your reality. When you are focusing on what you don’t want, you get more of what you don’t want. Your thoughts send energy out into the world around you, and that energy interacts with the Universe. So, when you focus on all of the reasons that your relationship isn’t working, you will get more of your relationship not working.

When you’re driving a car, you want to look in the direction you want your car to go, right? That is exactly what you have to do in your relationships. If you can focus your thoughts on what you want more of, such as more love, affection, and passion by first thinking those thoughts, you will get more love, tenderness, affection, and passion from your partner simply by changing your own thoughts.

Why does this work? Because when you change your thoughts to be more loving, open, and receptive to love, your whole energy field will soften. Where your partner once sensed opposition and harsh energy, they will now feel love. The look in your eyes will change, and you will hold your body differently as well. Everything about you will change and they will sense it – and all of this happens without a single word.

It’s going to take some courage to open your heart like that, but there is nothing to fear. If you can’t open your heart to someone that you are already married or committed to, you probably shouldn’t be married or committed to them anyway, right? You have nothing to lose. There is nothing to be embarrassed about.

There is so much love available to you when you open yourself up to it. It is a shame that so many people keep it from themselves. When you shut your heart with a deep belief that you are unloveable, no one can get in. You have to first open yourself up, claim your lovability, and be the love that you desire. You must love yourself first. If you knew just how loved you really are, you would cry tears of happiness. This I know. <3

Love and light,

oxoxox