How Do I Enjoy My Own Positivity Without Getting Weighed Down By My Parter’s Negativity?

You actually started answering your own question within the rest of your question! Appreciation will get you a long way with respect to this issue. Appreciate the good father that he is. Appreciate the great man he is and the wonderful things he does. When he is stressing and worrying, gently point out the other side of the coin, yet know when it’s time to understand and not explain anything at all. A lot of couples get caught up in thoughts about what they don’t like about their spouses, and nothing good will ever come of that. You’ve got to appreciate what you love about them and find some lighthearted joy along the way, tending to your own vibration as need be. Daydream about what your perfect relationship looks like and ignore the rest.

It is ok to let yourself be happy while someone right next to you is freaking out. A lot of the time we dim our light because we think it will make someone else feel better, but all it does is make us feel terrible and doesn’t help the situation at all anyway. When someone close to you is disconnected from who they really are, stop paying attention to their current behaviour. Instead, go inward and make the connection to your inner being. Feel what your inner being is feeling and follow the guidance you receive. You will either know what to say or know what to do in that moment. Just follow your intuition whether it makes sense to you or not!

You probably have learned to do this already with your kids! You ignore their tantrums and hold the space for them to return to the angelic beings you know they really are. Do the same thing with your husband. If you let him go on and on complaining about something, you’re enabling this behaviour and it will continue. When you find the connection to your inner being, you are connected to the Source of your guidance. If you need a moment to yourself, take it. At least you can explain the reason you are pulling away; you can have an intelligent conversation with your partner that you are usually unable to have with your kids!

My partner and I agree to call each other out on our bullshit.  It doesn’t mean it’s always well received, but we agree to it and we learn from it.  You can also energetically move the energy around any issue by thinking better feeling thoughts with regard to them such as “I love when my partner tells me about the good parts of his day. I love hearing about all of the things that excite him. I love knowing that no matter how bad his day is, he brings the best of himself home to his family. I love how he can make me laugh, etc.” In time you will get better and better with regard to controlling your thoughts.

If you can control your thoughts with respect to your partner for even the smallest amount of time, you will see change. Do your best to tailor your thoughts to something that is already true for you or else it’s not going to help you because you will know deep down it is a lie. Fake it until you make it just doesn’t work for me. Being true to my heart always does.

Use Distance as a Tool

Put some distance between you and him whenever you feel the need. Your intuition will let you know because you’ll have this nagging pit in your stomach that tells you to remove yourself from an uncomfortable situation. Listen to this feeling and let yourself go!

Meditate, take a shower or bath, or go for a run. Listen to your favourite song really, really loud and dance around the kitchen with headphones on. I can’t tell you how many times going for a run has saved my sanity. Run/walk, whatever. Get some fresh air and clear your mind. It’s as easy as saying “Honey, do you mind if I go for a run?” Done. Answers come to me so easily while I am running. I will know what to say to my partner about a certain issue, or I will know how to deal with a certain issue with my kids, or I’ll get the idea to do something I’d never even considered before which solves a problem I didn’t know I even had. It’s incredible what guidance comes when you make t a priority to listen!

Lead By Example.

In time, your partner will see how calm you are and may start doing the same. He would benefit from a hobby he loves that feeds his spirit. I use the example of running because it’s what I love to do to clear my mind. If he can find something that clears his mind, it will do him (and you) a world of good. Because, if you aren’t doing something to bring yourself into alignment with who you really are, you’re grasping at straws and won’t have anything to give anyone else anyway. When you’re not in alignment, worry, fear, and anxiety easily take hold. When you’re in alignment, worry, fear, and anxiety don’t even exist. Love always prevails in the state of alignment.

There is no need to think about your problems when you run/exercise. Just clear your head and listen for your guidance. Your guides know more about you than you do. They also know the shortcut to everything you have ever asked for. I’m not entirely sure we need to think about anything ever again. Just ask to find solutions and listen for the answers to come. Expect them to come.

When you wake up in the morning, before you mentally jump into your to-do list, just lay there and listen for the answers to come. If you are working on your receptivity to your guidance, the fuzzy area between the awake and sleep states is a great time to allow this clarity to wash over you.

Perception is Tricky

We often create problems in our own minds that have no basis in reality. Communication is the key. Have a problem in your relationship? Talk about it. It doesn’t matter if it’s big or small. If it’s dragging you down, it’s worth getting it out in the open. When issues have roots, you’ve got to address them. Just find your alignment and then raise the issue with your partner when you are in a good feeling place about it.

I know a lot of spiritual teachers will tell you to stop looking at a problem and focus on the solution, which is valid for sure, but sometimes you just can’t get your mind off something and not talking about it ends up hurting the relationship. I have had much quicker success in my own life by addressing my issues with honesty and the knowing I have in my heart. It has made my parter and I closer than I ever thought possible.

Go with your own personal guidance in this area. No matter what anyone says, its always best to go with your intuition. What’s best for me may not me best for you. Some issues I can ignore and they work themselves out, while others just keep coming back around. If they keep coming back, it may be time to talk about them.

Permission to Thrive

You need to give yourself permission to thrive no matter what. If it means your partner stays where he is and you outgrow him, so be it. You have to follow your truth and you can’t expect everyone to come with you. I don’t think we are meant to have the same partner for life. I think the right partners come in at the right time. It doesn’t mean that you can’t have the same partner for life, but it means that you have to accept that you will have periods of exponential growth that occur at different times. A friend told me that the trick to staying together long-term is “we never fell out of love with each other at the same time.”

Connect to your inner being. Follow your heart. Speak your truth. Take care of yourself. Know that everything is always working out for you. And look for the evidence of it all day, every day.

xo Amy

 

Q&A: How Do I Stop Feeling Like I Can Never Catch Up?

Busyness is an epidemic in our society. Everyone is so busy doing that they’re missing the point of being in the moment. The key to taking control of your crazy life, just like anything else, lies in your heart.

Wherever you are, you can get to where you want to be. It helps if you have a specific goal in mind but it’s not necessary. Simply knowing what you want to feel is good enough. For instance, you may know that you want to be a painter, so you paint when you feel the inspiration. If you don’t have “time” – make time. Schedule it in. If you don’t know what is it you are looking for, you can appreciate the feeling of how you want to feel. For instance, you can feel what it wold feel like to have unlimited time, ease, love, connection, and excitement.

All of this is going to come together via the Law of Attraction. Like attracts like. The vibration you put out is the one you receive. Things are always in a state of change. Nothing ever stays the same. But, you may not notice the change because things are changing to more of the same and more of the same and more of the same.

“Work is hard.” “I hate my job” “I never have enough time” etc. are thoughts that are going to change to more and more of the same. If you can practice feeling appreciation and joy in your daily experience, it will raise your vibration enough so that as time passes, you will see palpable change. Happier people will enter into your experience. There will be more laughing and more spontaneity. In general, you will feel more excitement in your life.

Over time, you will begin to notice how your thoughts create your reality. And in greater time, you will see just how powerful of a co-creator you really are. Eventually you will come to know that you can be, do, or have anything you desire because your life experience will show you time and time again that you get what you think about whether you want it or not.

The easiest way to get the momentum rolling in the right direction is to take time every single morning to make sure you get out of bed with the right mindset. If you wake up with a  debilitating thought, take the time to think of a better feeling thought on that subject, or choose another subject all together. I recommend leaving your thoughts on any subject in a better feeling place because it is incredibly empowering to know that you are in charge of your thoughts and that they are not in charge of you. Plus, it feels better!

Tips for improving your current job:

  1. Set the intention when you go to bed to wake up in a good mood, full of energy and enthusiasm for your job in the morning. Intention is everything. Most people pre-pave their days full of dislike for their jobs. This is your chance to choose your own adventure the day before.
  2. If you wake up in dread with the thought of going to work, wake up 45 minutes earlier and go for a quick run. Movement of the body is important to move energy, so if you can swing it, get yourself moving!
  3. If working out sounds impossible, (I can literally hear you groaning) choose any thought about your job that you really like. Appreciate how good that thought feels and appreciate the people who make your job fun.
  4. Meditate. Set your alarm for 15-20 minutes and sit with the intention to simply be. Breathe deeply and feel for the love that is omnipresent. Focus on your heart chakra and let in the love.
  5. Appreciate all day long. Especially when you notice negative thoughts. Even people you have always perceived as completely awful will change right before your eyes if you only see the good in them and find things to appreciate. And when a compliment for someone pops into your head, share it! You are an uplifter at heart!

And last but not least, take time for yourself. Put yourself first. It’s not selfish to do what you want to do. It’s IMPERATIVE to being happy. Take care of yourself and do what makes you happy. If you don’t do this, you won’t have any energy to give anyone else anyway. This means saying NO to a lot of thing you are currently saying YES to and regretting. If it’s not a HELL YES it’s a HELL NO. Remember this one thing alone and I guarantee you will catch up and feel an immediate increase of joy in your daily life!

The happier you are, the more tapped into your spirit you will be, and the easier it will be for you to hear the inspiring thoughts your spirit is constantly sharing with you. This is why meditation is so important. It is an open invitation to spirit. When you quiet your mind, you are better able to hear your guidance. Spiritual guidance is not reserved for psychics and mediums. If you are a human on Earth, you have spiritual guidance because the “spirit you” thought the “physical you” into being. And that same energy that created you is flowing through you now, creating with your thoughts and your overall vibration. The frequency you emit is what the law of attraction responds to in each and every waking moment.

Pay attention to that little voice in your head. Most thoughts that feel really, really good to you are actually guidance from spirit. Spirit knows exactly what you want and how to get it to you in the easiest of ways, but often we ignore these amazing thoughts and counter them with thoughts like “I can’t do that”. Yes, you can. If you received and inspiring thought, you can do it. Think about it some more and get really excited about it. You can be, do, or have anything you desire. All you have to do is align with your spirit on a daily basis and let it all in. You don’t even need to think anymore. You just have to be happy and let the law of attraction and spirit show you the way!

Setting Boundaries 101

The lesson of the day is this: It’s ok to set boundaries. In fact, it’s absolutely essential to your happiness.

I haven’t written in awhile due to kids, bracelet business, and well just figuring life out in general. But mostly it’s because I’ve been really focused on myself lately. And I’ve been really happy because of it. My happiness is more important than my kids’ happiness. Because if I don’t tend to myself, I’ve got nothing to give them anyway. It’s why I don’t yell 24/7 and can generally be calm in the middle of the storm. I say generally because I lose it from time to time as my kids will attest!

If you don’t set boundaries, you’re going to run out of steam. It’s why my kids don’t play hockey or do half of the stuff other kids are doing. Why you ask? Because I CHOOSE ME. I choose to give myself time while they fight with each other in the back yard. I let them fight and tell them to figure it out. I ignore their issues and trust them to learn some lessons. Did your brother punch you in the face? Well, that’s what happens when you punch someone in the back instead of walking away honey. Learn from it. I don’t ignore them completely. I’ve got eyes in the back of my head; I’m a mom. And when I’m not watching, I’m feeling it all.

This is where it all comes together: Feel for your boundaries.

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Say someone invites you to a party and you don’t want to go. Tell them you can’t make it and don’t go. Listen to that gut feeling. Don’t go. Don’t make excuses. You don’t need to tell the truth per say, but you don’t need to lie either. Don’t do something to make someone else happy. Choose you and make yourself happy – there’s the secret to happy life! Appreciate everything, and do the stuff that makes you happy. Boom.

Sometimes I do things I don’t want to do because it will make my kids happy, but I’m doing it for me too, because making them happy makes me happy. Taking them to the park when I want to lay on the couch makes all of us happy, so I go. My gut feeling here is not saying “lay on the couch”. It is saying “take them to the park”. So I go.

When I was waitressing, my boss had another restaurant halfway across the city. He asked me to work at the other location a few times and I said “no.”  The result? He stopped asking me. You know who he did ask repeatedly? The girls who said “yes” and complained to me on the side about having to go to the further location. “That’s why I said no!” I would tell them.

It’s ok to say no. And you don’t need to explain why either. It’s ok to not care what other people think of you. It’s ok to do it your way. You’re doing a great job. You’re exactly where you meant to be in this time and space. Every day is a gift. Every day you get to wake up and decide you are going to be true to yourself. Every day is a chance to be your Divine Self here on Earth. It’s what you intended.

Before you go to bed, think about who you are. You can meditate sitting up for 15-20 minutes or you can lay in bed and just visualize your ideal self. Think of the boundaries you need to set, and decide what you are willing and not willing to tolerate. And when you wake up in the morning, wake up as this person you really are.

If people are mean, let them be mean. If they lash out, let them lash out and follow your instincts. This can mean you rise above it and ignore it. Or it can mean that you explain your perspective. Just stay in alignment with your higher self and follow any guidance that comes.

When you lash back, it means you give away your power. Know who you really are and let them rise up to meet you, or leave them where they are. Five people can witness the exact same event and have 5 different perspectives that don’t line up with each other in the least. 5 different “realities” of 1 so called “reality”. Know that they are where they are and stand in the knowing that they can be more. They will either meet you or stay put, and it’s all ok.

For example. My 4 year old had a tantrum, told me he hated me, and whatever else…”ok” I said, and I walked away. I fully know he doesn’t hate me. Not yet anyway…he’s 4, not 14. I know I am an amazing person. I know he’s an amazing person. I ignored it and let it be. Guess what? He snuggled me and told me how much he loves me, and snuggled and told his 3 year old brother how much he loves him. This was before he told him he hates him 5 minutes later, but I digress…

The point is, people are human. News flash! Humans are weird. You can’t control them. But you can control you. You can control your thoughts, and you can control your reactions or, lack thereof. You can set boundaries, and they can like them or not. It doesn’t matter how they respond so long as you are true to yourself.

Is your adult son living with you and treating you like garbage? Set a date and kick him out. It’s time for him to realize he can fly. Are you ready to say something that someone is not ready to hear? If you’re ready to say it, then say it. It doesn’t matter if they’re ready to hear it. You’re ready to say it.

I’m not telling you to go attack people you’ve “had it up to here” with, but I am telling you to stop taking crap from people that you have been taking because you haven’t listened to your intuition. Stand up for yourself. Chance are, you have a nagging feeling right now about something that you know you need to do but are scared to do, and this is your sign to do it. There is nothing to fear. It’s in your head. There is nothing to worry about. Everything is always working out for you, and you’ve got to trust your feelings. When you know something, you know it. You don’t need to know why.

Don’t take anything personally ever. Your parents did the best they could do given their growth and their perceived worth. It wasn’t about you or because of you, it was because of them. Everything everyone does is because of them. Don’t take it anything personally. Be yourself. Do what makes you happy. You are where you are, and that’s ok.

xo Amy

 

 

Guidance is Everywhere. Listen.

I took my 3 young boys to the the dentist today, taking a bullet that I didn’t want to take because sometimes I have to be something we call an “adult”. I don’t feel like an adult. Does anyone? Every few weeks I have a moment where I think “how do I have 3 kids?!” One day you have no kids and the next you’re entire world is upside down and ruled by a 7lb scream machine. There’s no test. There should be a test!

When I went to the school to pick up my 2 oldest for lunch before the dentist, I had a quick chat with another mother. A mother that I actually met at an airport in Barbados I might add. We ended up renting in the same condo building down there. Then a few days after we returned home, I saw her walking down my street. Apparently we never had the “where are you from?” conversation. The Universe amazes me with its little games every single day.

She told me that she’s been picking up her kids for lunch for years. And I told her that this is the second time I’ve ever done it. I have no problem telling my children that they’re going to eat lunch in the school cafeteria with the rest of the kids. It’s good for me, and what’s good for me is good for them. If I had to pick them up every single day I would be a mess! No just no. Not happening.

She told me that when it gets cold it’s really hard to have to pick them up for lunch. So I suggested that when it gets cold she should tell them that it’s time for them to stay for lunch. I wanted to open up the space for her to make her own decision, but let her know that if it’s making her unhappy in any way, she should allow herself the freedom to do what feels better. Something prompted me to sit beside her. Spirit is always guiding us. I was her flashing red light of guidance with a message she was ready to hear. But, we have to take action on our guidance. I say what I feel inspired to say, and I don’t take it personally when people don’t hear what I say, but the pull to sit beside her was so strong and the conversation guided itself. Pure inspiration: in spirit.

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Leaving my kids at school for lunch time gives them time to play, and me and extra hour and a half of work each day. They play outside for 30 minutes before they eat. If I picked them up they’d miss out on valuable exercise and fun! Also, it makes the times I DO pick them up extra special. The last time I picked up Oscar for lunch, we went on a little date to the French Restaurant behind our house. He was so excited, and so was I. It was valuable 1 on 1 time that we rarely get and I’m excited to do it again 🙂

Talking with this mother for a few minutes made me reevaluate my entire life. Is it making you reevaluate your own? Is there anything you’re doing now that you don’t want to do? Is there any way to shift the responsibility in any way to give yourself more freedom and relief? I even called my Cable/Internet provider and changed my plan to save me $45 a month because I don’t want to pay for a phone line we don’t use and channels we don’t watch. That’s $540 a year!

If there is anything that has been on your mind lately that you want to change, do it now. It’s so much less painful when you listen to your guidance and follow through with action than if you let it eat away at your soul for the next weeks, months, and years. Just as I wrote that, I got the feeling that I need to go to the dentist. That is my guidance system chiming in with something that needs to be done. I’ve been saying for way too long that I need to go, so in the spirit of this message (and the honouring of spirit’s message) I will take my own advice and make an appointment tomorrow!

What thoughts and feelings are popping into your head? What do you need to change? What needs completion? What “adulting” have you been putting off? Listen to those thoughts and feelings, that guidance, and TAKE ACTION!

 

How to Save Yourself from Earth’s Current Insanity.

The energy on this planet right now is insane. If you watched the Second Presidential Debate, you’ll know exactly what I mean.  And if you didn’t, you’re better off. I watched about 10 minutes of it before I had to run away and save myself and I’ve spent countless hours thinking about it since…is this really happening? Have we not learned anything? How does this level of ignorance still exist? Thankfully I finally listened to my guidance and went upstairs to read. Phew.

If you’ve been feeling OFF lately, I want you to know that you are not the problem. There are crazy energies going around and being the energetic, vibrational beings you are, you’re likely feeling it. I was feeling completely off centre until I followed my guidance to start running again, and let me tell you, the energy change is just what I needed.

Instead of feeling insanely spacey, reactive, and angry, I am feeling more grounded and calm. And even when something does get the best of me (having 3 boys ages 2 to 5 will do it) I’m able to return to centre fairly quickly and let go of whatever unhinged me. I even went for an 8k run before a hot yoga class yesterday, and my yoga experience was incredible because of it. It most definitely enhanced my ability to explore my edge. I was a damn good tree yesterday.

If you’ve been feeling unusually rocky and angry lately, I highly recommend getting outside and soothing your spirit with nature. If you are able to run I encourage you to get out there and run until you can’t run anymore. Even if you have to run for 30 seconds and walk for 2 minutes to recover, get out there and do it. No excuses!

If you’re repelled by the idea get ready for a little tough love: You get out of life what you put in, and if you’re not willing to stretch your comfort zone even a little bit, you’ve got to start thinking about your priorities. Do you want to feel better? Do you want to be happier? Do you want to stop snapping at your family members? (Food for thought: Does your family get the best of you or the worst of you?) Do you want to experience more joy in your life? Do you want to feel more relaxed? Do you want to stop reacting to every little stimuli that crosses your path? Run. Walk. Anything. Just Do it as Nike says. You’ll congratulate yourself later I promise.

If something is holding you back from getting exercise, I encourage you to do a little pre-paving and psych yourself up for the amazing feelings that running will bring. I do this little exercise the second I get the inspiration to run. Think about how good it’s going to feel to have all of that oxygen running through your body. Think of how good it’s going to feel to snap your spirit back into your body. That is essentially what grounding is to me anyway – to be fully one with who you really are – to minimize the gap between physical you and non-physical you (your Higher Self or inner being). Think about that rush of endorphins you will get as you complete your run, that sense of accomplishment, that high 5 you’re going to give yourself at the end. Think about how good your jeans are going to feel after! I don’t run to lose weight but the physical changes of regular exercise certainly are a bonus!

And it’s not only running that can centre you, though it is one of my favourite go-to ways to beat the bad energy out of my body. Doing anything that excites your spirit will help. Excitement lights up our spiritual path. Do whatever it is that makes you the most YOU.

What puts the spark in your eye? Is it painting? Reading a good book? Meeting a good friend for coffee? Eating pizza? Do that. Do all of it. But don’t eat pizza because you’re unhappy and you’re trying to fill a void. Eat pizza because you fucking LOVE to eat pizza and it’s going to make a good time even better. Energy matters. The energy you eat your food with matters. The energy you do anything with matters.

Go for a run to get yourself out of a rut, but don’t eat pizza from that vantage point. Only eat pizza when you feel good, ok? There are no rules, but there’s one for you anyway. It’s more of a suggestion than a rule. Ok, ok, you are the creator of your own reality, so you can eat pizza whenever you want. But don’t say I didn’t warn you. Listen to that little voice in your head and go from there ;).

Basically happiness comes down to this: Do what makes you feel good. Think thoughts that feel good. Spend time with people who you enjoy spending time with. Watch TV programs that feel good. (I watched season 1 of Narcos for instance and thought it was amazing. By the time season 2 was released I just couldn’t do it. I hated the dude and that did not feel good so that was that. I’m completely happy leaving the series incomplete for the sake of my happiness. It feels so good!)

FEEL into everything you do! We receive guidance through our feelings. Those gut feelings that you have – the thoughts that pop into your head when you ask yourself a question? Listen. To. Them. The more you do, the easier it will become to listen to your guidance in the future. It’s working out your intuitive muscles so to speak.

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For example: “Do you want to order pizza?” “Umm I’m not really hungry, but yeah ok if you want to I’ll have some.” The correct response is no with that energy!!!! Say “No I don’t want any, thank you.” LISTEN to your GUT!!! Do not eat pizza because you have FOMO: Fear of missing out. If you have FOMO about anything, feel into it and ask yourself what that’s all about.

Example 2: “Do you want to order pizza?” “YES!!! OMIGOD YES I WAS THINKING THE EXACT SAME THING!!!” What are you waiting for – order the pizza!!!!

Understand? Good.

Apparently this post is really about pizza and running… I hope I cleared some things up for you with that little rant. You are powerful. You are worthy. You are doing a good job. Centre yourself and listen to your guidance. You are never wrong because is ever done. Make a decision. Listen to your guidance about it, and recalculate. Make another decision. Listen to guidance, etc. Follow your dreams and don’t let anyone talk you out of them! Or into pizza when you don’t want any.

ox Amy

 

You Can Never Go Back.

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It’s been 5 months to the day since my last blog post. It’s not for lack of desire. My desire to write has never been greater these past months. It’s not a lack of time either, because time is infinite. I have nothing but time. But the Divinity of it has finally come around I think.

Life is changing. It can never be the same. We are always in a state of learning. And once you learn something, it’s impossible to unlearn.

Over these past months, I have been focused on listening to my spirit; those feelings deep within that cannot be denied. But something really surprises me: So many of us deny our gut feelings. Sometimes I still do. Why is this? I think it’s because we’re trained as kids to make others happy.

I see it every day with my kids. They want to do XYZ, and I want them to do ABC. I’m learning how to navigate life with 3 little boys who have 3 strong spirits, and it gets messy. But I don’t want them to EVER grow out of following their bliss, for me or anyone else. But I do want them to be kind while they listen to their Hell Yes’…we’re working on it…

What are gut feelings? I’ve come to understand them as messages from Spirit, and the more you deny them, the worse you’re going to feel. When something feels wrong, it is. When something feels right, it is. Your emotions are guidance from Spirit. When someone asks you to do something for them and you don’t have that “Hell Yes!” visceral response, say NO.

Don’t be a people pleaser. Don’t sacrifice your feelings and needs to make someone else happy. The thing is, you can never make anyone happy. It’s not your job. It’s theirs. And if they don’t like it, that’s their problem too.

We’ve gotten really good at denying spirit in our society. We know what we should do and we don’t do it. We know what we need to say and we don’t say it. We know that we need to be true to ourselves and we don’t BE it. We deny our true selves so often that we’ve become incredibly unhappy.

Do you want to be happy?

The time has come for you to give yourself permission to say what you want to say, do what you want to do, and be what you want to be. Learn to listen to your Spirit, and watch miracles happen. Once you start listening to your Spirit, life will get better and better at an incredible speed. It’s time to start getting really, really excited.

Set yourself up for success.

Every morning when I wake up , I think about how good my day is going to be. I get excited about the possibilities and ask spirit to surprise me. And every day is a good day. Even then, life happens. I may have yelled at my kids for an hour today…maybe even more. It didn’t feel good and I didn’t really care because I know I am fully capable of digging myself out of that rut. On the other side of discomfort is pure delight – because joy is my intention. My spirit was saying no to where I was, so I asked for a way out. Moments later I got the idea to cut the grass. So I cut my grass. Then I cut the neighbour’s grass, and then I raked everything up. I did it in bare feet too so I could connect with the earth and ground myself.

When you are down, you don’t need to live there. Being down is actually really great because you have the contrast to find something that lifts you up! It’s such an amazing feeling to know you have the power to create your reality. It’s so empowering to climb out of that hole and back up the mountain. And if there is one thing I know for sure, it’s that from the top of the mountain, you can see all the bad stuff coming.

Every day in ANY way, my suggestion to you is to find your way up the mountain. Find any way to make yourself happy, and then sit there and bask in it. From your happy place, you can see all the discomfort coming. When you’re in joy and your boss asks you to work on the weekend, it’s going to feel terrible. Say no. From your place of joy, watching Narcos is going to feel terrible. Turn it off. From your place of joy, a friend calling and complaining about her husband is going to feel terrible. Either change the subject or fake your death. ha! Or you could always just excuse yourself politely and hang up 🙂

And that’s not all. From your place on top of the mountain, there will be a lot of things that once bothered you that you won’t even notice anymore. When you are in a good feeling place, only people who are on the same level can see you. People who are not on your level will not even come near you. They’ll basically be out of sight and out of mind somewhere on the ground, and you won’t even be able to interact with them. You’ll be hanging out with other mountaineers.

And when you fall off the mountain, you’ll know it! And so begins the work of getting back on top. It’s the human journey. When you fall off, getting back up is as easy as quieting your mind and listening for spirit. Listen to those gut feelings. Ask what you can do to feel better and listen to what comes. Every time you ask, the answer is given. Every time. <3

8 Reasons You Are Unhappy With Your Body and What to do About it

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I know how you feel. You look at your body in the mirror and instantly feel deflated. You don’t know how you’re going to get to the body of your dreams from where you are. You seem to gain weight just be looking at food, and you have no idea what you are doing wrong! We’ve all been there, but there is a way out, and the way out may surprise you!

Here are 8 reasons why you may be stuck, and what you can do about it right now.

 1. You tend to focus on what you don’t want.

The fastest way to get what you don’t want is by focusing on what you don’t want. So how do you change things around? Focus on what you DO want. Focus all of your energy on everything you’re doing right, not what you are doing wrong. Change your thoughts, and you change your life.

2. You’re not happy, period.

Happiness is a package deal. When one thing goes wrong, it seems to create a domino effect and takes your whole life with it. This is in line with #1, and you may see a theme here, because it’s all tied in together. If you can focus on what is going right in your life, the domino effect will kick in and you will gain momentum in all other areas of your life. Even if 9 out of 10 things in your life are going wrong, your attention to what is going right can turn everything around.

3.  You’re too serious.

Each morning when you wake up, set the intention to be happy. Make the decision to be happy anyway, regardless of what is happening around you. Make it your intention to have fun no matter what. Laugh more, worry less. If you catch yourself worrying about something, distract yourself! Watch a funny youtube video. Or learn something new. Go to your happy place and soak up the sunshine waiting for you there.

4. You focus on the problem when you should focus on the solution.

Ta-Da! Again, we want to steer the car forward, not backward. Focus on the problem just long enough to see what direction you want the solution to go. Use the contrast of what you don’t want to create the desire for what you do want, and take it from there. If you want a fit body, ask yourself how you can create it instead of asking why you can’t do it. Create an empowering environment, like easy access to the gym or hot yoga, and buy only health promoting foods. Have healthy snacks on hand at all times!

5. You spend more time doing than being.

There are so many distractions in our society! If you take a break and head to facebook, you’ll probably end up feeling worse rather than refreshed. If you can resist the facebook/instagram/pinterest urge and find 5 minutes a day to sit quietly and go within, you can tap into guidance that is not available to you when you’re too busy doing. If you can find 15 minutes in your day, it’s even better. Meditation is your personal spiritual goldmine. Your angels and guides are waiting patiently to help you, so quiet your mind and see what guidance is waiting for you there.

6. You’re not asking the right questions.

During your quiet time, ask yourself questions and wait for the answer. Ask things like “What is my favourite thing to do? What do I enjoy about my job? If I could delegate some work, what would I be happy to get off my plate?” You may be surprised at the answers that come up. Ask any and every question that pops into your head. You may want to have a pen and paper beside you in case you want to write something down. Use this newfound awareness to create the life you desire.

7. You’re trying to do everything yourself.

This is something you may resist, but if you can put your ego aside for a moment, everything will get easier if you do just this one thing. Here it is: Ask God to help you see the situation differently; Ask to see through the eyes of God. You are perfect as you are. You are loved unconditionally. All of the obsessing we do about our bodies that makes us feel terrible is because we are thinking thoughts that God does not have about us. If you can let go of physical perfection and really know that you are already a perfect spiritual being, you will be in alignment with spiritual truth. I asked God for help and what I got was “You are not your body.” It hit me like a brick in the face. Our spirit is eternal. Our bodies are not who we are. Our body is our temporary home and they are nothing without the spirit. When we “fix” the body we are ignoring our spirit. This is why people can spend thousands of dollars perfecting their bodies and still feel unsatisfied. The body isn’t the problem, it’s the spirit that is undernourished. Feed your spirit and your body will follow the domino effect.

8. You don’t love yourself.

We all have those I hate my body moments. Each time it comes up, change your thoughts to love. Focus on everything you love about yourself each and every day. Every time you look in the mirror, tell yourself how proud you are and how amazing you are. Love other peoples’ bodies. Bless them instead of judging them. Ask God to turn your judgements into love. This is hard. It’s hard to stop judging. I probably ask God to change my thoughts hundreds of times each day. “How can I see this person with love? What am I missing?” Ask the questions and you’ll get answers. Lasting change begins with your mind.

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You may have noticed that a lot of this has nothing to do with your body! That’s because by focusing on the problem, you get more of the problem! The moment I decided to stop worrying about my body and started focusing on what I loved to do in my life, my body stopped being a problem. I started loving it unconditionally, and it changed.

Here is an example of what I say to myself. You can use this as a template to make it fit in line with your beliefs. The Universe responds to what you mean, not what you say, so make sure you are being authentically you:

“Thank you, body, for being my home on planet earth. Thank you for supporting my daily activities like hockey and hot yoga. Thank you for being so easy to change. I love that I can choose to be active and that I can change my body through my desire to be fit and healthy.

Thank you God for helping me to choose healthy foods to eat, and for blessing me with love each and every day. Thank you for helping me to choose thoughts of love and for answering my prayers to see things differently when I am having difficulty seeing with love.

There is nothing more important to me than being happy, so thank you for the contrast I feel each and every day; I know there is guidance within my negative emotions. It is what illuminates the path before me. It lets me know when I am not being loving to myself or another, and helps me to choose love.”

If you do the work necessary to put a smile on your face, everything else will fall into place. Every problem is due to a lack of love. So the solution is infusing love into everyone and everything. If you have a problem with your spouse, heal it with love. If you have a problem with your body, heal it with love. If you have a problem with your child, heal it with love. You can apply this to anything! If you have a problem with your cell phone, see the situation differently and be grateful that you have one in the first place! See all things with love and watch your world transform before your eyes.

My Thoughts do not Mean Anything

Today is Day 10 for me in the Workbook for Students, and the lesson is this:

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This is a concept that I’ve been aware of ever since I read The Untethered Soul a couple of years ago. In it, Michael Singer states that we are not the thoughts that we think, but rather the consciousness behind the thoughts. This is something that made sense immediately for me since I’ve always been amazed by what my ego comes up with! I am so grateful to know that I am not equal to the horrific things my mind projects sometimes!

You are not your thoughts. Do not dwell on them. You are not a horrible person for having that thought. You are not equal to your thoughts. This does not mean that you are not responsible for your thoughts, however. The ego is constantly trying to be better than others, trying to one-up them, and make itself more special than others. It judges, criticizes, and wants to be cooler than everyone else. It is your responsibility to watch these thoughts and then change them.

It’s up to you to choose love over judgement, love over hate, and love over anger, etc. When you choose love, you are strengthening it. When you choose any of the lower vibrations, you are strengthening that choice as well. When you become aware of a low vibrational thought, simply steer that thought in a loving direction.

For instance: If you walk by someone and think “what an ugly person,” you have just created a learning experience for yourself in which you must see them with love! Find the perfection of God in them. It is there. When you see love in others, you strengthen it in yourself. Every moment is a learning experience.

Our egos are constantly projecting our fears onto others, and this produces nothing but hurt. When we get angry with others for exuding a trait that we cannot stand (which exists within ourselves and we do not like it), we are increasing the feeling of separation we feel between who we are being in that moment, and who we really are, which is full of love.

It will never do us any good to criticize others (or ourselves). It sends bad energy out into the world and returns bad energy a thousandfold to us. It hurts us because it separates us from love. When you choose hurt, you are turning your back on love. You cannot have both.

To be human is to perceive. We cannot help it. Our reality will forever be shaped by our history for the most part. When we see things, we aren’t seeing them as they are now. We see them as a compilation of our unique history. For instance, have you ever heard someone’s name and had a visceral reaction to them because you used to know someone with that name and didn’t like them?

This is why we must pay attention to our thoughts. We must make it our life’s mission to see only love, to teach only love, and to lead by example.

Exercise: This may be counterintuitive for some of you but I challenge you to stick with it and go the distance! Here it is: Pay attention to your thoughts for 10 minutes. Watch them from the seat of awareness behind the thoughts. Do not judge yourself. When an unloving thought arises, you can restate the thought in positive terms, or you can just let it go by and say “What a funny thought!” If you’re really stuck with seeing the bright side of a low vibrational thought, choose any loving thought you can think of, or simply state something that you are grateful for in this moment.

Example thought: “I can’t believe how stupid that person is.” Positive tuning thought: “We all do the best we can.”

Example thought: “That guy is the worst driver ever” Positive tuning thought: “I’m going to slow down and give him some space.”

Example thought: “My kids are driving me insane.” Positive tuning thought: “They really are good kids. They just need some attention.”

Have a lovely day!

XOXO Amy.

Material Objects as Life Purpose Replacements

Symptoms of detachment from spirit can feel like anxiety, fear, sadness, discontent, failure, and discomfort, among others. This happens when we get sidetracked from our right and perfect path and take a detour through procrastination and other behaviours that don’t serve us.  The discontent will simply keep growing until you answer the call to get back on track and serve your life’s purpose.

If you feel a deep longing to do something fulfilling with your life but let your fears talk you out of taking action, you can get stuck for a very long time between the fear of moving forward and the fear of staying the same.  Your discomfort is caused by not keeping up with your soul’s lessons.

As you learn in this lifetime, you are constantly outgrowing your old circumstances and gearing up to change, to grow, to learn, and to master each new level you encounter.  Your guides and angels leave little clues and synchronistic events along the way to make life fun and exciting, and even extremely hard if you must learn a difficult lesson.  It is all for your greatest good.

Though you may not consciously know what you are longing for, taking courageous action toward what feels good each and every day can illuminate the path ahead.  One day, when you look back to where your journey began, you will do so in awe of the cascade of fortunate encounters and events that guided you right to where you wanted to be!

If you know what you desire, yet aren’t taking action, the discomfort will only grow until you listen to your authentic self and start making changes in your life.  No matter how hard some decisions may initially seem, the pain you will endure from not taking action will eventually become so extreme that you have to change.

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We all have a little voice in our head that cheers us on.  This inner voice tells us when something needs to change and when we need to take action. It always has our best interest at heart. We also have a little voice that tells us we are not good enough – this is the voice of fear and anxiety, and the more attention you give it, the stronger it will get.  Take your power back from this voice and take action in the direction of your bliss. You are and always have been worthy.

There is a lot of fear entwined with change, but there doesn’t have to be. Fear and anxiety can’t survive the light.  They will disappear the second you acknowledge your worthiness and take action toward your dreams. Use them to guide you out of your comfort zone – you really have nothing to lose but your discomfort, and you have a lifetime of happiness to gain!

It all comes down to this:

You can either listen to the unrest and question it, asking yourself what kind of life you must live in order to feed your spirit and live with passion, or you can continue to live in denial and room with anxiety, fear, and discontent.  If you choose the latter, you will certainly feel the pain of disconnection and try to remedy the pain by acquiring material objects.

Material Objects as Life Purpose Replacements

  • Do you have a lot of stuff?
  • Do you have a need to shop?
  • Do you feel fulfilled in your life?
  • Are you constantly fearful and anxious?
  • How are your relationships?
  • Do you think about why you are buying something before you complete the purchase?
  • Do you need to buy something to be happy?
  • Are you feeling inspired or blocked in your life?
  • Do you have a lot of energy or is your body tired and stagnant?
  • What do your closets look like?
  • Is your house clean?

Are you numbing yourself by acquiring material objects?  Do you try to cover up your pain, fear, and anxiety by purchasing items to gain happiness?  Until you listen to your spirit and pursue your life’s purpose, the high you get from buying things will come and go hundreds of times until you wake up to the truth that nothing outside of you can make you happy. Happiness has been and will always be an inside job. Listen to your spirit.

Not only will objects not make you happy in the long run, but the more stuff you have, the more energy if takes from you. The more electronics you have, the more responsibility you have in making sure they run properly. The more cars you have, the more insurance you must buy and the more upkeep you must perform or delegate.

The more pets you have, the more you must feed them, walk them, and seek veterinary care. The more clothing you have, the more clothing you must wash/dry/fold/dry clean/repair. The more stuff you have laying around your house, the more stuff you have to dust, and the harder it is to find anything anywhere!

Material accumulation is a symptom of spiritual disconnection – a symptom of not fulfilling your life’s purpose.

When I am feeling stuck and anxious, it is almost always because I have been hanging out with my fears and not pursuing my life’s purpose. The only thing that truly makes me feel better is listening to my inner guidance and taking action on it. For instance, I may be procrastinating by cleaning the house instead of writing. This little voice in my head tells me that I need to write. About a minute after I sit down at my computer and begin to type, all fear and anxiety disappear and I feel completely connected to my spirit and my life’s purpose once again. I know I am following my life’s purpose because it makes me happy.

Maybe you have a habit of numbing out in front of the television, and while you needed to relax the first night, the second night your spirit may pipe up and start making you feel uneasy. Our spirit selves remind us that we didn’t go through the trouble of being born on Earth to sit on a couch night after night after night. If you watch television every night would put money on the table that you feel you were meant for something more, because you are.

There is nothing wrong with watching television sometimes!  I know there is nothing better for my spirit some nights than to snuggle up with my husband and watch a good movie, but some nights my spirit would rather read a book, play with watercolours, spend quality time with my significant other or kids, make love, go for a walk, post an inspirational quote on instagram, or sit in the back yard and eat a popsicle!

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When you are feeling fearful or anxious it is important that you question the unrest.  Ask yourself what your spirit needs to thrive, and listen to the guidance, feelings, and images that come to mind.  Spend some time in meditation and quietly reflect.

The next time you want to buy something, ask yourself why. This simple question can make you dig deep and figure out what you are really trying to achieve by acquiring something else.

We recently cleaned out our entire house, from the depths of the closets to the cupboards, drawers, and crawlspaces.  We simply asked ourself this one question about everything: Does this give me energy or deplete it?  If something didn’t feel good to, it got thrown in the donation pile and left the house a few hours later.  Make sure your donation pile doesn’t stick around for months.  Take it away immediately and feel the energy in your house soar!

Getting rid of the old creates space for the new without your energy getting lost. There is flow. Life. Beauty. Peace. It opens the door to possibilities you’ve never even considered.  Take your power back from the material objects in your life and start visualizing a life of purpose and happiness.  How can you serve? How can you bring joy to yourself and others? What do you love to do so much that you would do for free?

Feel the anxiety and fear melt away into excitement as soon as you commit to taking action in the direction of your dreams!

33 Life Lessons in 33 Years

Life lessons.  We learn them through love, through fear, and everything in between. Pain has always been my biggest teacher, and I’m sure you can relate. Sometimes we learn our lessons immediately. Sometimes we think we’ve learned the lesson only to keep replaying the same old negative patterns over and over. And sometimes they literally have to slap us in the face, knock us down, and step all over us before we really get it.

The lessons we learn in those incredibly bare emotional times are the ones that we will never forget. But fortunately, we can also learn lessons through those who have been down those bumpy dirt roads for us.  In honour of my 33rd birthday this week, it is my hope that my life lessons can shine some light on your burdens and allow some grace to enter your life without you having to learn them the hard way.

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1.  Open your heart.

It is safe for you to open your heart to give and receive love.  The more you love the more love can return to you. Release any fears you have around giving and receiving love.

  1. You are responsible for your own happiness.

Choose to find the joy in every moment. Even in the chaos. Especially in the chaos. Any time you find yourself unhappy just let it go and do whatever you must in order to return to happiness. Do you want to be happy? Happiness is the only choice for an outstanding life.

When we take action and think thoughts that bring us pleasure, we are in alignment with our inner being. High vibrational beings attract other high vibrational beings; Happy people want to be around happy people!

  1. Release all judgments.

We are all on a journey. We are in no position to judge another because we have not walked in their shoes. They have their own reality that is separate from ours. So let judgments leave as quickly as they enter your mind and replace any unloving thoughts with loving-kindness. Send them love and light and wish them well on their travels.

  1. Set clear goals.

Life is what you make it. Decide what you want to get out of life. Choose your destination and take guided action to bring it into tangible reality. With each moment of decision, you have the power to shape your destiny. Set goals. Review them daily. Check in regularly to make sure your actions are producing the desired results and change your actions as required.

  1. Start a savings account.

Start a savings account and put money in every time you receive a paycheque. This is something we have started with our children from the day they were born and they’ve already amassed small fortunes. It is so exciting to be able to empower our children and teach them to respect money. And it’s never too late to start. If you don’t have a savings account, start one today!

6. Forgive.

Let go of past wounds. Let go of all things you cannot control and know that everything always works out in the best interest of everyone involved. Life is too short to hold a grudge. Resentment is like consuming poison and expecting the other person to die. Choose happiness. Choose forgiveness. Choose love.

Forgiveness does not condone others’ behaviour, but it does return your power to you. In forgiveness, you let others off the hook for your happiness. Forgive, let go, and move on.

  1. Expect miracles.

Wake up every day and proclaim, “Something amazing is going to happen today!” Expect surprises. When you expect life to be really good, life will show you the really good stuff. If you expect life to be hard, it will be.

  1. The tough times = exponential growth.

We are always in a constant state of change. Even if you are at rock bottom today, a year from now this tough time will be long behind you and you will more clearly see the lessons. Time heals. Draw upon your energy and strength and follow your inner guidance which is always steering you toward joyful expansion. You are never alone. You are always being guided and protected. This too shall pass.

9. Practice Gratitude.

The easiest way to get yourself out of a rut is to return to love and gratitude. Find appreciation in every moment and you will bring yourself into alignment with your inner being. Practice gratitude and your life will flow beautifully before your eyes.

10.  The Universe returns the vibration you emit.

The law of attraction is real. The Universe rewards high vibrations with high vibrational gifts and low vibrations with low vibrational gifts. If you are kind, you will receive kindness. If you are fearful you will encounter more and more fear. Be aware of the vibration you are emitting in each moment and bring yourself back into alignment as soon as you become aware of your misalignment!

11. Baby steps equal massive action.

If you take small courageous actions every day toward the realization of your dreams, you will be successful in achieving them.  Small courageous action = massive change!

12. Get rid of negativity.

Get rid of anything and anyone in your life that brings you down. This includes all letters, pictures, paintings, clothing and items that give you a bad vibe. Turn off the radio when songs don’t make you feel as good as you want to feel.

You will mimic the vibe of your tribe, so make sure the people you hang around most often are lifting you up. You want to surround yourself with people who help you learn and grow. If you’re the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room.

13. Move your body daily.

Cash in on all the health benefits of exercise and increase your heart rate every single day. Not only will you burn calories and build muscle, but you will release endorphins that will raise your mood naturally. Exercise literally makes you happy, not to mention healthy!

14. Don’t be too serious.

People who laugh more are less stressed. Laughter boosts the immune system and releases endorphins just like exercise. When you are happy you raise your vibration. When you are high vibrational, you attract good feeling experiences into your life!

15. Pray.

Your angels and guides are available to help you in each and every moment, but you have been given the gift of free will so you must ask them for help. Ask them for the strength and power to forgive. Ask them for courage and clarity in troubling times.

Ask them to come to you in your dreams and help you work on a specific problem. Ask them to open your heart and help you to love freely. Ask them to help you see things differently. Ask them for guidance on anything and everything. Instead of complaining about anything, ask that the solution be shown to you. Ask for guidance and look for the answers all around you.

16. Find a role model.

Search out the best people in your field and learn from them. Find people who are already doing what you want to do, and doing it well. They can save you from making a lot of mistakes, and wasting a lot of time.

17. Don’t take anything personally.

Don’t let the things that people do or say bother you. Their opinion may be their reality but it has no business becoming yours, especially if their opinions make you feel badly about yourself! Your true self is pure love and anything other than pure love does not really exist.

18. Use your power wisely.

You can focus your attention on anything. What you repeatedly focus your attention on is what you are going to amass skill in. Invest your time and energy wisely.

For instance, what do you see when you look at your partner? Do you see all of the things that bother you or do you see all of the reasons why you love them? See only love. Be loving. Do these two things and your relationships – and your life – will transform.

19. You are not your thoughts.

That continuous chatter that occurs between your ears all day long is not who you really are. You are the watcher of the thoughts, but the thoughts are not you. Let thoughts move freely through your brain and be careful not to attach yourself to them. Notice the thoughts and release them. Your inner being cannot be disturbed so long as you are mindful of this. Do not take even your own thoughts personally.

20. Stop all self betrayal.

Listen to your emotional guidance/intuition/vibes/gut feelings and be true to yourself; be true to your emotions. Emotions provide deep insight into the soul. When something feels bad, it probably is. If you become aware that you feel poorly, find a better feeling thought or take a better feeling action.

Express your emotions. Unexpressed emotions are ticking time bombs, so communicate your emotions to your tribe as they arise and let them move through you. Work through and release pain as it arises. If you are holding on to anything, there is no better time than the present to let it go and give yourself permission to heal.

21. Procrastination is a silent killer.

Perfection and procrastination team up to kill your dreams. If you have a dream, don’t wait until conditions are perfect before you begin making it a reality. Perfection doesn’t exist, so you’ll be procrastinating forever! Whatever it is, do it now!

22. Failure is impossible.

You can stumble, pause, and retreat for years on your dreams even, and as long as you get back up and move forward you will never fail. Learn from your mistakes. Use the lessons to build yourself up and make yourself stronger. Every impediment means that you are closer to your goal. Never give up.

23. Be present.

It is never the past. It is never the future. It is only ever the present, and it’s the most beautiful gift you will ever receive. The present moment is where we experience pure love and joy. Don’t get caught up reliving past traumas or spend your present moment worrying about the future. If you can’t control something, like the past for instance, let it go.

Use your senses and enjoy the present moment. Be still and enjoy spending time with yourself. Enjoy time with others. The most important person in your life is the one that is right in front of you in the present moment.  Give your all to them.

24. Fear is an illusion.

We are the creators of our reality. We are the creators of our fears. Our fears exist only in our mind and they are not real. A fear of public speaking, a fear of spiders, a fear of not being loved, etc., they are all illusions. As soon as you make the decision to change your beliefs around your fears, the illusion is unmasked.

Shine a light on your fears. Fear thrives in the darkness, but the moment you shine a light on it, it can no longer survive. Decide that you are an amazing public speaker. Spiders are a beautiful piece of nature. Know that you are infinitely loved and supported by the Universe. Take your power back and start believing in the magnificent being that you are and destroy those illusions!

25.  Only love is real.

If fear is the darkness, love is the light. You can feel ecstatic love whenever you wish. Tap into the immense field of love that is all around. God is love. You are love.

See through the eyes of the Divine, the lens of love, and your life will change forever. Continuously let go of any disserving thoughts and return to love. Look past the egos of others and see the love within them. See love and the darkness will diminish. The more often you choose love over fear the easier it will get and the happier you will be.

Take time to meditate every day. An ideal time is 20 minutes for beginners. This will give you enough time to really relax and just be. This is where you can truly connect to divine love and grace and be one with your inner being. There are many benefits of meditation such as an increase in focus, optimism, immunity and awareness, and a decrease in depression, worry, stress, anxiety, and fear. It is basically the happy pill everyone is looking for, so if you don’t meditate now I encourage you to give it a try!

26. Be authentic.

Be yourself. Speak your truth and shine your light. If you show up authentically in your life, you give others the permission to show up authentically as well. Let your true self shine and give any worries about doing so to your angels. You are loved and supported by the Universe at all times. The more often you act from your authentic core, the more space you open up for magical opportunities to enter into your perception.

27. Be kind to yourself.

The people you spend the most time with have the opportunity to shape your thoughts and your beliefs. Since you have to hang out with yourself a whole lot, you had better watch what you say to yourself on a consistent basis. If you were another person, would you want to hang out with you? What would you want your best friend to say to you? Start being your best friend. Take care of yourself, love yourself, say nice things, and enjoy spending time alone.

You should be your biggest raving fan. If you don’t believe in yourself then no one else will. You have to love yourself first.

28. Eat mindfully.

You don’t have to eat a rigid diet, and you don’t need to label yourself. You can eat primarily paleo diet but have ice cream on occasion if you really enjoy it. Be authentic in all areas of your life. If you are binging on unhealthy foods, get to the root of the problem by shining a light on it. Love yourself enough to eat well.

29. Your thoughts create your reality.

The thoughts you think on a consistent basis shape your beliefs and form your actions. Be kind with your thoughts and suspend all judgment as it arises. All material objects came into being from a thought someone had. Each thought is a prayer that is immediately sent out into the Universe, so think wisely. This goes for people too. When you think poorly of someone, they can feel it whether you vocalize it or not. Think the best of people, and they will feel that as well!

30. Be generous.

The cycle of giving and receiving is one of ebb and flow. Give every day without expectation, and be open to receiving the blessings the Universe has to offer. If you enjoy giving but resist the presents that others try to bestow upon you, you are disrupting the cycle. Receive graciously so that others may enjoy giving. Give, accept, and repeat.

31. Live with passion.

Follow your bliss. If you consistently take actions that make you happy, you are living with passion. To live with passion is to greet each day with excitement. If you are not excited about life, then you need to start asking yourself when you really come alive. When are you most you? What lights you up? When do you have the most fun? Start doing more of it!

32. You’re growing or you’re dying.

Learn about something that interests you and share what you have learned with others. When we are learning, creating, and teaching, our spirits thrive.

33. We are all one.

Everything is connected. We are all energy and energy knows no boundaries. We have the power to change another’s mood by the vibe we’re putting out. We can telepathically connect with people on the other side of the world just by thinking about them. How many times have you thought about someone and then they coincidentally called you out of the blue? There are no coincidences.

We are all made of the same loving fabric.  When you love others you are loving yourself, and when you find fault in others you are finding fault in yourself.  Love unconditionally. The colour of our skin means nothing. Our socioeconomic backgrounds mean nothing. We are all in need of great love and support. Treat others as if they’re on your team, because they are.