Guidance is Everywhere. Listen.

I took my 3 young boys to the the dentist today, taking a bullet that I didn’t want to take because sometimes I have to be something we call an “adult”. I don’t feel like an adult. Does anyone? Every few weeks I have a moment where I think “how do I have 3 kids?!” One day you have no kids and the next you’re entire world is upside down and ruled by a 7lb scream machine. There’s no test. There should be a test!

When I went to the school to pick up my 2 oldest for lunch before the dentist, I had a quick chat with another mother. A mother that I actually met at an airport in Barbados I might add. We ended up renting in the same condo building down there. Then a few days after we returned home, I saw her walking down my street. Apparently we never had the “where are you from?” conversation. The Universe amazes me with its little games every single day.

She told me that she’s been picking up her kids for lunch for years. And I told her that this is the second time I’ve ever done it. I have no problem telling my children that they’re going to eat lunch in the school cafeteria with the rest of the kids. It’s good for me, and what’s good for me is good for them. If I had to pick them up every single day I would be a mess! No just no. Not happening.

She told me that when it gets cold it’s really hard to have to pick them up for lunch. So I suggested that when it gets cold she should tell them that it’s time for them to stay for lunch. I wanted to open up the space for her to make her own decision, but let her know that if it’s making her unhappy in any way, she should allow herself the freedom to do what feels better. Something prompted me to sit beside her. Spirit is always guiding us. I was her flashing red light of guidance with a message she was ready to hear. But, we have to take action on our guidance. I say what I feel inspired to say, and I don’t take it personally when people don’t hear what I say, but the pull to sit beside her was so strong and the conversation guided itself. Pure inspiration: in spirit.

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Leaving my kids at school for lunch time gives them time to play, and me and extra hour and a half of work each day. They play outside for 30 minutes before they eat. If I picked them up they’d miss out on valuable exercise and fun! Also, it makes the times I DO pick them up extra special. The last time I picked up Oscar for lunch, we went on a little date to the French Restaurant behind our house. He was so excited, and so was I. It was valuable 1 on 1 time that we rarely get and I’m excited to do it again 🙂

Talking with this mother for a few minutes made me reevaluate my entire life. Is it making you reevaluate your own? Is there anything you’re doing now that you don’t want to do? Is there any way to shift the responsibility in any way to give yourself more freedom and relief? I even called my Cable/Internet provider and changed my plan to save me $45 a month because I don’t want to pay for a phone line we don’t use and channels we don’t watch. That’s $540 a year!

If there is anything that has been on your mind lately that you want to change, do it now. It’s so much less painful when you listen to your guidance and follow through with action than if you let it eat away at your soul for the next weeks, months, and years. Just as I wrote that, I got the feeling that I need to go to the dentist. That is my guidance system chiming in with something that needs to be done. I’ve been saying for way too long that I need to go, so in the spirit of this message (and the honouring of spirit’s message) I will take my own advice and make an appointment tomorrow!

What thoughts and feelings are popping into your head? What do you need to change? What needs completion? What “adulting” have you been putting off? Listen to those thoughts and feelings, that guidance, and TAKE ACTION!

 

How to Get Out of Your Own Way

As I sit here wondering what is going to come through, I am surrounding by a throbbing heart opening energy that is literally making my entire body buzz with love for you. I want to remind you that love is available to you in each and every moment, and all you have to do to feel it is to let yourself receive it.

We spend so much time thinking ourselves unlovable and unsociable that we close the door to love. We spend so much time thinking about how annoying our spouse is that we block the love coming to us and from us. We block not only their love, but all love.

When you find yourself in anger, resentment, sadness, or are generally focusing on all the bad things that are happening to you, or to other people around you, or focusing on all of the bad things that could happen that you don’t want to happen, or…. well, you get the idea.

One thing I wish I had known much much earlier is this:

Life doesn’t happen to you, it happens from you.

– Abraham-Hicks

You are the one creating your reality. When you are focusing on what you don’t want, you get more of what you don’t want. Your thoughts send energy out into the world around you, and that energy interacts with the Universe. So, when you focus on all of the reasons that your relationship isn’t working, you will get more of your relationship not working.

When you’re driving a car, you want to look in the direction you want your car to go, right? That is exactly what you have to do in your relationships. If you can focus your thoughts on what you want more of, such as more love, affection, and passion by first thinking those thoughts, you will get more love, tenderness, affection, and passion from your partner simply by changing your own thoughts.

Why does this work? Because when you change your thoughts to be more loving, open, and receptive to love, your whole energy field will soften. Where your partner once sensed opposition and harsh energy, they will now feel love. The look in your eyes will change, and you will hold your body differently as well. Everything about you will change and they will sense it – and all of this happens without a single word.

It’s going to take some courage to open your heart like that, but there is nothing to fear. If you can’t open your heart to someone that you are already married or committed to, you probably shouldn’t be married or committed to them anyway, right? You have nothing to lose. There is nothing to be embarrassed about.

There is so much love available to you when you open yourself up to it. It is a shame that so many people keep it from themselves. When you shut your heart with a deep belief that you are unloveable, no one can get in. You have to first open yourself up, claim your lovability, and be the love that you desire. You must love yourself first. If you knew just how loved you really are, you would cry tears of happiness. This I know. <3

Love and light,

oxoxox

 

The Joy of Being Alone.

Right now my house is quiet. Blissfully quiet. The kids have all been delivered to their respective schools, my hubby is working at Starbucks…on his laptop, and I have about 5 places I need to be right now and a huge project I need to finish by tomorrow. So naturally I don’t want to do anything at all right now but sit in the glorious silence that surrounds me. And once again, the silence brought my fingers to this keyboard, and here we are.

The silence is where I can be wholly me, unaltered by others’ energy fields, their expectations, their desires, their needs, their incessant whining about needing to be fed on a consistent basis. What’s that all about anyway?

Silence is golden. And it’s something you don’t fully realize until it becomes really really hard to obtain. It wasn’t until we had 3 kids and 2 dogs running around that we understood just how golden silence really is. It’s funny that we need the contrast of what we don’t want to finally understand what we do want. If you are constantly running around like a headless chicken, it’s high time you throw a cushion on the floor and take a seat.

I didn’t understand just how unhappy I had been until I started to get glimpses of happiness. You can spend your whole life in a downward spiral of gloom and doom  thinking it’s normal. And while it may indeed be normal, it’s not what you are meant to live.

Are you smiling right now? You should be. Are you excited when you wake up in the morning or do you have an adult temper tantrum in your head when you open your eyes? Are you happy to be alive, happy to make choices every day about which direction you want your life to go? Are you crying happy tears right now, or sad ones?

Let me ask you this: When was the last time you laughed so hard for so long that you just couldn’t stop. And when you looked at someone, they started laughing too, just because you were laughing, and when you think about that moment now, you laugh about it still! Was it yesterday, or was it when you were a child?

Without knowing it, we learn how to be adults from our parents. Children see and hear everything, even the things that adults wish they could desperately hide from them, because the loudest things we hear aren’t being said, they’re being felt. When my marriage fell apart my kids saw it, they heard it, and they felt it. I knew it, and I did my best to hold it together. I don’t know if I did it for them or for me, but I knew that being strong was the only choice worth making.

Choosing fear was not an option. I had chosen fear my entire life, and look where it had gotten me. So I chose differently. I chose love. And it was the best choice I have ever made in my entire life. I decided to love everyone and everything, but most of all, I finally gave myself permission to love myself.

Among other things, meditation saved me. I believed in angels and guides already, so I decided to go all in and entertain the whole God idea. I sat in silence and prayed. I prayed for strength and courage and guidance and infinite love and support. I prayed to all of the Archangels I could name to enter into my life and help me transform into this person I knew I could be. I prayed to Archangel Raphael, Uriel, Gabriel, Chamuel, Michael, Remiel, Raziel, Zadkiel, Jophiel, Sandalphon, Metatron and more. I brought them into the car with me, into the shower, everywhere. I stopped listening to music. I stopped watching television. My perspective had totally shifted and I wanted one thing more than anything in the entire world: I wanted to stop being numb and start directing my life. I wanted to take my power back and be blissfully happy.

For the first time in my life I understood that it was my job to make myself happy – no one else’s. I finally understood just how much I had given my power away throughout the years. I gave it away all over the place. I gave it to anyone who did anything better than me. I gave it to anyone who did anything at all because I assumed they would do it better than me. And all the while, this really awesome spirit inside of me was suffocating, willing me to step up and step into my power, but it was too scary to be strong, so I kept choosing fear.

This seems like the perfect time to introduce my favourite quote. And while Elanor is granted having said this, it seems to be a paraphrase of a conversation she once had. Either way, I wish I could have coffee with her sometime:

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Why would I keep choosing fear? The best answer I have for this question is that a fear response on this level is learned. Learning not to touch a hot stove was something I could learn all on my own. It’s instinctual. But learning to be scared to talk on the telephone is not. Mostly I learned how to be scared from my mother, and because I operated at the vibration of fear, it was the only signal my antennae picked up. I was so fearful that I was attracting fearful people to my experience. I could only see the fearful outcomes of situations because I never entertained the idea that maybe I could be strong.

Over time I had chosen fear so often that it was an ingrained response. My fear neurons had created a super highway in my brain and there was no off ramp.

Two years ago, I sat down with a psychic medium who told me that I hadn’t laughed in 3 years. At first I was defensive. But a split second later I knew she was right. 3 YEARS! That is a long time to be unhappy. Thank God I was on a quest to be happy. It was my happiness quest that brought me to her in the first place. She told me that I too had gifts. She told me that I have the power to sit on her side of the table, and I knew she was right. The more I sit in silence, the more I am able to tap into them.

You too have powerful gifts. The best way I know to access them is to find joy in silence. Get to know yourself intimately by carving out a few minutes to enjoy your own company. Get to know the spirit within that is wanting so very badly to be heard.

Don’t use an excuse. Don’t do that. Don’t say that you don’t have time. Make time. Instead of laying down immediately when you go to bed, sit up. Sit on your bed, prop yourself up with pillows, and breathe. It’s that easy. You’re meditating. Turn off the radio in your car. Close your eyes at red lights and take a few deep breaths until the guy behind you honks to tell you your time is up!

Take a break from social media. That should free up a few hours ;). If there is a show you’re really excited to watch, watch it! Enjoy it, and be happy! But if you’re mindlessly flipping through television stations, turn it off and hang out with your spirit. It’s time well spent. Take your power back and be happy, wild, and free!

8 Reasons You Are Unhappy With Your Body and What to do About it

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I know how you feel. You look at your body in the mirror and instantly feel deflated. You don’t know how you’re going to get to the body of your dreams from where you are. You seem to gain weight just be looking at food, and you have no idea what you are doing wrong! We’ve all been there, but there is a way out, and the way out may surprise you!

Here are 8 reasons why you may be stuck, and what you can do about it right now.

 1. You tend to focus on what you don’t want.

The fastest way to get what you don’t want is by focusing on what you don’t want. So how do you change things around? Focus on what you DO want. Focus all of your energy on everything you’re doing right, not what you are doing wrong. Change your thoughts, and you change your life.

2. You’re not happy, period.

Happiness is a package deal. When one thing goes wrong, it seems to create a domino effect and takes your whole life with it. This is in line with #1, and you may see a theme here, because it’s all tied in together. If you can focus on what is going right in your life, the domino effect will kick in and you will gain momentum in all other areas of your life. Even if 9 out of 10 things in your life are going wrong, your attention to what is going right can turn everything around.

3.  You’re too serious.

Each morning when you wake up, set the intention to be happy. Make the decision to be happy anyway, regardless of what is happening around you. Make it your intention to have fun no matter what. Laugh more, worry less. If you catch yourself worrying about something, distract yourself! Watch a funny youtube video. Or learn something new. Go to your happy place and soak up the sunshine waiting for you there.

4. You focus on the problem when you should focus on the solution.

Ta-Da! Again, we want to steer the car forward, not backward. Focus on the problem just long enough to see what direction you want the solution to go. Use the contrast of what you don’t want to create the desire for what you do want, and take it from there. If you want a fit body, ask yourself how you can create it instead of asking why you can’t do it. Create an empowering environment, like easy access to the gym or hot yoga, and buy only health promoting foods. Have healthy snacks on hand at all times!

5. You spend more time doing than being.

There are so many distractions in our society! If you take a break and head to facebook, you’ll probably end up feeling worse rather than refreshed. If you can resist the facebook/instagram/pinterest urge and find 5 minutes a day to sit quietly and go within, you can tap into guidance that is not available to you when you’re too busy doing. If you can find 15 minutes in your day, it’s even better. Meditation is your personal spiritual goldmine. Your angels and guides are waiting patiently to help you, so quiet your mind and see what guidance is waiting for you there.

6. You’re not asking the right questions.

During your quiet time, ask yourself questions and wait for the answer. Ask things like “What is my favourite thing to do? What do I enjoy about my job? If I could delegate some work, what would I be happy to get off my plate?” You may be surprised at the answers that come up. Ask any and every question that pops into your head. You may want to have a pen and paper beside you in case you want to write something down. Use this newfound awareness to create the life you desire.

7. You’re trying to do everything yourself.

This is something you may resist, but if you can put your ego aside for a moment, everything will get easier if you do just this one thing. Here it is: Ask God to help you see the situation differently; Ask to see through the eyes of God. You are perfect as you are. You are loved unconditionally. All of the obsessing we do about our bodies that makes us feel terrible is because we are thinking thoughts that God does not have about us. If you can let go of physical perfection and really know that you are already a perfect spiritual being, you will be in alignment with spiritual truth. I asked God for help and what I got was “You are not your body.” It hit me like a brick in the face. Our spirit is eternal. Our bodies are not who we are. Our body is our temporary home and they are nothing without the spirit. When we “fix” the body we are ignoring our spirit. This is why people can spend thousands of dollars perfecting their bodies and still feel unsatisfied. The body isn’t the problem, it’s the spirit that is undernourished. Feed your spirit and your body will follow the domino effect.

8. You don’t love yourself.

We all have those I hate my body moments. Each time it comes up, change your thoughts to love. Focus on everything you love about yourself each and every day. Every time you look in the mirror, tell yourself how proud you are and how amazing you are. Love other peoples’ bodies. Bless them instead of judging them. Ask God to turn your judgements into love. This is hard. It’s hard to stop judging. I probably ask God to change my thoughts hundreds of times each day. “How can I see this person with love? What am I missing?” Ask the questions and you’ll get answers. Lasting change begins with your mind.

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You may have noticed that a lot of this has nothing to do with your body! That’s because by focusing on the problem, you get more of the problem! The moment I decided to stop worrying about my body and started focusing on what I loved to do in my life, my body stopped being a problem. I started loving it unconditionally, and it changed.

Here is an example of what I say to myself. You can use this as a template to make it fit in line with your beliefs. The Universe responds to what you mean, not what you say, so make sure you are being authentically you:

“Thank you, body, for being my home on planet earth. Thank you for supporting my daily activities like hockey and hot yoga. Thank you for being so easy to change. I love that I can choose to be active and that I can change my body through my desire to be fit and healthy.

Thank you God for helping me to choose healthy foods to eat, and for blessing me with love each and every day. Thank you for helping me to choose thoughts of love and for answering my prayers to see things differently when I am having difficulty seeing with love.

There is nothing more important to me than being happy, so thank you for the contrast I feel each and every day; I know there is guidance within my negative emotions. It is what illuminates the path before me. It lets me know when I am not being loving to myself or another, and helps me to choose love.”

If you do the work necessary to put a smile on your face, everything else will fall into place. Every problem is due to a lack of love. So the solution is infusing love into everyone and everything. If you have a problem with your spouse, heal it with love. If you have a problem with your body, heal it with love. If you have a problem with your child, heal it with love. You can apply this to anything! If you have a problem with your cell phone, see the situation differently and be grateful that you have one in the first place! See all things with love and watch your world transform before your eyes.

New is Always Possible.

Have you ever had this conversation? You get together with friends you haven’t seen in awhile and ask them what’s new. And they literally say nothing. “Nothing. Same old stuff.” It’s depressing hearing about it and it’s got to be depressing talking about it. Even before I went through this life transformation, these kinds of conversations sucked the life out of me. And now that I know that life is what you make it, these kinds of conversations are nothing short of suffocating.

I find myself silently (or no so silently depending on the situation) backing out of old unfulfilling relationships and running full of excitement toward others. I used to feel bad about it but not any more.

When relationships become difficult to maintain, a lot of the time it’s the Universe nudging us in a different direction. If you’ve tried for months to get together with a friend and it seems to never work out, it’s worth directing a little mental effort toward the situation and asking yourself if perhaps the relationship has run its course.

The same goes with family members. If the family you grew up in provided nothing but discomfort, that discomfort is a blessing. Your soul is using discomfort to direct you in another direction. You were born into what you don’t want so that your soul could yearn and create the desire for the life you do want.

Without this contrast it would be very difficult to know what direction you want to travel. If we were all born with the proverbial silver spoon in our mouths, we may not find the inspiration to create the life of our dreams. A lot of the fun comes from the creative aspect of molding our lives the way we want them to be. Discontent brings clarity in a way because by knowing what we do want, we know clearly what we do want!

Now, how do you get it? You learn to listen to your heart and put into action the guidance you receive. You learn to say no to what you don’t enjoy and YES to everything else.

Just today I was asked if I would like to provide recipes for a new start up business. Yesterday I was asked if I wanted to take photos for a new cookbook, and my answer was an unapologetic “no” both times. I still explained myself but my spirit made no apologies. It just wouldn’t bring me joy.

Now, if she had asked to book  a life coaching session I would be there in a heartbeat! Why? Because it fires me up. It excites me. It brings my light into this world. I love to bring joy into other people’s lives by helping them see how incredibly powerful they are! There is nothing more exciting for me than witnessing someone stepping into their power and taking control of their lives. It’s incredibly beautiful to witness.

If you’re stuck in a rut, I want you to know that all you have to do is ask yourself the right questions. What fires me up? What is exciting? If your life is lacking excitement, you don’t need to go out and have an affair. You don’t need to smoke up or take mind altering drugs. You don’t need to drink. And you certainly don’t need to order pizza and binge watch Netflix another night in a row.

What you need to do is wake up. Wake up to the spirit within that is trying to get your attention. Feel into the discomfort in your life and ask your spirit what it is trying to tell you. You are the only person who can make you happy. No person/place/thing can do it for you. No affair/vacation/new car will fill the void that listening to your spirit can fill. Happiness is an inside job and that will never, ever change.

A new outlook is possible. A new norm is possible. A new love of self is possible. Reigniting a failing marriage is possible. Creating a new relationship with your kids is possible. Completely changing careers in mid life is possible.

Creating a new exciting life right now is possible. But the only path I know that works is through complete honesty, integrity and truth between you and you.

It’s through humility. It’s through love. It’s through your heart. It’s through your spirit; your soul; your inner being; your higher self. It’s through having the tough conversations in silence that your ego tries to avoid through action. It’s about slowing down, going within, and asking yourself what it’s really going to take for you to be happy. Because if you’re not happy, what’s the point of all this anyway?

My Thoughts do not Mean Anything

Today is Day 10 for me in the Workbook for Students, and the lesson is this:

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This is a concept that I’ve been aware of ever since I read The Untethered Soul a couple of years ago. In it, Michael Singer states that we are not the thoughts that we think, but rather the consciousness behind the thoughts. This is something that made sense immediately for me since I’ve always been amazed by what my ego comes up with! I am so grateful to know that I am not equal to the horrific things my mind projects sometimes!

You are not your thoughts. Do not dwell on them. You are not a horrible person for having that thought. You are not equal to your thoughts. This does not mean that you are not responsible for your thoughts, however. The ego is constantly trying to be better than others, trying to one-up them, and make itself more special than others. It judges, criticizes, and wants to be cooler than everyone else. It is your responsibility to watch these thoughts and then change them.

It’s up to you to choose love over judgement, love over hate, and love over anger, etc. When you choose love, you are strengthening it. When you choose any of the lower vibrations, you are strengthening that choice as well. When you become aware of a low vibrational thought, simply steer that thought in a loving direction.

For instance: If you walk by someone and think “what an ugly person,” you have just created a learning experience for yourself in which you must see them with love! Find the perfection of God in them. It is there. When you see love in others, you strengthen it in yourself. Every moment is a learning experience.

Our egos are constantly projecting our fears onto others, and this produces nothing but hurt. When we get angry with others for exuding a trait that we cannot stand (which exists within ourselves and we do not like it), we are increasing the feeling of separation we feel between who we are being in that moment, and who we really are, which is full of love.

It will never do us any good to criticize others (or ourselves). It sends bad energy out into the world and returns bad energy a thousandfold to us. It hurts us because it separates us from love. When you choose hurt, you are turning your back on love. You cannot have both.

To be human is to perceive. We cannot help it. Our reality will forever be shaped by our history for the most part. When we see things, we aren’t seeing them as they are now. We see them as a compilation of our unique history. For instance, have you ever heard someone’s name and had a visceral reaction to them because you used to know someone with that name and didn’t like them?

This is why we must pay attention to our thoughts. We must make it our life’s mission to see only love, to teach only love, and to lead by example.

Exercise: This may be counterintuitive for some of you but I challenge you to stick with it and go the distance! Here it is: Pay attention to your thoughts for 10 minutes. Watch them from the seat of awareness behind the thoughts. Do not judge yourself. When an unloving thought arises, you can restate the thought in positive terms, or you can just let it go by and say “What a funny thought!” If you’re really stuck with seeing the bright side of a low vibrational thought, choose any loving thought you can think of, or simply state something that you are grateful for in this moment.

Example thought: “I can’t believe how stupid that person is.” Positive tuning thought: “We all do the best we can.”

Example thought: “That guy is the worst driver ever” Positive tuning thought: “I’m going to slow down and give him some space.”

Example thought: “My kids are driving me insane.” Positive tuning thought: “They really are good kids. They just need some attention.”

Have a lovely day!

XOXO Amy.

Meditation to Calm the Emotional Body

I had an appointment with spirit a few days ago. I was nervous before the call began, but once I was in it, everything was just perfect. I was calm, open, and in tune with that which I really am.

I’ve been an emotional person for as long as I can remember. I pick up any and all energy around me and sometimes it takes me way too long to realize that what I am carrying isn’t mine. I clear myself whenever I make that connection, and then I feel like me once again. I clear and shield myself many times each day.

For instance, when I dropped my son off at his first day of kindergarten, I cried like crazy, which may seem normal, but it’s not my normal. While walking back to the house I asked Archangel Michael to clear me and I immediately stopped crying and felt like myself again. What happened is that I picked up on the collective energy that day which was probably mostly from the kids who were feeling the parental/child separation deeply.

So, when I spoke with Mel, who was channeling a reading for me with his higher self, John, he narrowed in on my emotional body immediately and how it was running away with me. I asked him why I feel so sick so often, and he said that I have been an emotional dumping ground and it’s gotten to the point where I am physically manifesting imbalance, which are hormonal issues in my case. I have only one working ovary (which John told me approx. 8 years ago) and the one that does work is rampant with male energy.

Most of my questions were given the same answer: Meditate frequently and focus on the heart centre. My homework is to picture a flower while sitting and meditating – any flower in any colour – and rhythmically breathe in new energy from Mother Earth while releasing old pent up energy. In addition to meditation, I am to focus on whole foods and eat nothing processed at all. I must also go to an energy healer and have them retune my ovaries and open the meridians on the bottom of my feet so that energy can flow through my body (I had this done 8 years ago as well and it was amazing).  I need to focus on bringing energy into my heart chakra.

This morning I pulled this ever so fitting card from my oracle deck:

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You are awakening to your Inner Light an opening to new levels of spiritual understanding and awareness. Guides and teachers are working with you to assist in this awakening. Support is coming in the human form as well. Those who are knowledgeable and experienced will be there to offer their support as needed. The main color of green in this card shows that, to know our own Inner Light is to know our own Heart. Enjoy the experience, stay connected and the rest will happen naturally. – From the Path to the Soul Destiny Cards by Cheryl Lee Harnish

I have made a lot of progress over the past 2 years, and the more I commit to doing the inner work, the more open and free I become. The inner work never ends for any of us. As I learn, I teach, and through teaching, I learn. What a tremendous gift it is to live and breathe what I love to do!

He gave me a timeline of 2-3 months to fully bring my body into alignment. In this time I am focusing on meditation, studying, purifying my diet (ok, ok, after Thanksgiving…) exercise, shielding, grounding, and healing with crystals. Today I was walking around with moonstone, sunstone, and smoky quartz in my bra. Every day I choose a different combination of stones that feel right to me that morning. I am constantly asking that I be guided by spirit and I take my favourite affirmation wherever I go:

“Everything is always working out for me. My health is being restored to me now. And so it is.”

I have been using the flower meditation for 3 days now and I can report that I have been feeling a lot less sick! I am not even kidding when I say that hormonally I have been feeling like I’ve had morning sickness for 8 months!  Now whenever I feel it coming on, I have an outlet for that energy. If you are overly emotional I encourage you to give the meditation a try whenever you feel emotions coming on that you would like to release rather than relive.

Namaste.

oxox Amy.

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The big boys helping me create a crystal grid this evening for the purpose of sending healing energy to Mother Earth.

The Best Mirror in the World

Our children are our mirrors. They reflect back everything we do and all that we are. There is no escaping it. Habits, phrases, curse words, manners, laziness, energy, indifference, passion, perspective; they absorb it all like little sponges.  Your children will mirror the best of you and they will mirror the worst of you.

A few weeks ago we went for a walk and encountered a woman standing in the street yelling at her husband, who was near their house. I wondered if she had any idea what she was doing. It was a snapshot of their relationship, and while I don’t know the circumstances around this moment, my inner being could feel her pain.

Then she turned it off and said hello to us as nice as anyone has ever said hello. And after we passed, I wondered why we do it. Why are we the nicest version of ourselves in front of strangers, and the worst of ourselves to the ones we are supposed to love the most. We do it because we learned somewhere that it’s what you do.

As adults we can easily turn off our normal behaviour and be pleasant in public. We have the ability to turn off the hurt in our hearts and say hello to a stranger with kindness. But children aren’t yet aware of these social norms. They will not censor for others’ benefit. And that is the most beautiful thing about children. I love that about them. I immediately thought about how she was teaching her children in that moment. They are our mirrors, and being a parent is a golden opportunity for change.

Yes we can’t be loving all the time. We will have moments that we crack and let the darkness in, but as you become more and more aware of the cracks, you can heal them. You can keep the light in and the darkness out.

The first shift in awareness occurs when you shift from sleep into awareness. When you wake up from being the victim of circumstance and realize that you have the power to create your world, you have completed the first of many shifts.

The second shift occurs when you become aware of your actions. You see yourself reacting in ways you did in the past before you woke up, but you can’t seem to stop it. And that’s ok. First, you will be aware of these reactions, and then you will start to change them. Sometimes you will succeed and sometimes the tape will play out just as it would have in the past. It may take you years to feel like you have your reactions under control, and that’s ok too. Life is a sea of contrast. There is always room for improvement.

And just like improving your level of fitness, at some point you will shift from walking and running into running and sprinting. Eventually you will shift from watching yourself do something that you would rather not do, into a place of calmness and non-reaction. This is what I call the shift of detachment. When you can stop the cycle of reacting and place your focus, desire, and action on producing a different outcome, you will have successfully achieved a state of detachment and allowing.

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When I can detach from what my children are doing and keep my sanity about me, and act with love and guidance rather than anger, then I feel I have done the best I can do with my current knowledge.

When I have told them ten times to put on their pyjamas and they’re still running around like little crazy minions, I can get completely unhinged and yell at them.  I am aware while I am doing it that I am in misalignment with the version of myself that I wish to be – not just for my children’s sake, but for my own. As soon as I become aware, I take a step back from my yelling and reassess the situation. I don’t want them to go to bed with anger between us. I want them to feel loved.

So, I set them up for success. This may mean I actively get them dressed and brush their teeth while they continue to play. I don’t mind. Or it may mean getting them into their room and giving them the one on one attention they need to get the task done themselves. Whatever feels right in the moment is the path I take. The path changes daily.

Some nights I completely lose my mind, and that’s ok. I’m not perfect and I never will be. But I can forgive myself and learn from my mistakes and move forward. Self forgiveness is the key to lasting change, so be easy on yourself and keep moving forward.

I talk about my shortcomings with my children. I tell them why mommy acted the way she did, why it’s not okay, and tell them that it is not their fault. I tell them what I want to do differently next time and how they can help me to be the best mommy I can be.

The other day Oscar and Luca were on their scooters and we were crossing a busy street. They assume that because we are moving, it’s okay to cross, meanwhile as adults, we are assessing the situation and slowing down. They know to stop before every road and yet kept going because we were moving forward. We immediately yelled and screamed at them to stop, which is of course was out of love, but comes across as anger to a child.

We explained that we were not angry with them, but that they needed to be careful when crossing the street. In that moment we were acting out of love, but there was no time to lovingly address the situation! This is when it is important to talk with your children and explain what is happening.

I am constantly asking myself how I can act out of love with my children. Asking the question begs our subconscious to come up with an answer. Again, awareness is the light that shines on the darkness. How can I shift from fear and anger into love in this situation?

If you are angry around your children because of any number of reasons, they will internalize it without giving it a second thought. They pick up on the energy we are offering. Even as adults we tend to internalize anger. We may think, “Why are they mad at me?” or “What a bitch!” when 1, we are not the source of their anger and 2, we have no idea what circumstances have led to that behaviour.

And after they internalize this anger, they will radiate it. They will play it back to you. They will throw it in your face and you will know that you created this behaviour. Children are always watching, always mopping up our behaviour when we are least mindful of it.

Whether you are swearing in traffic, yelling at the dogs, stressed out because you’re going to be late for work, or whether your anger runs deep along the lines of resentment or withholding love from yourself, your children are taking it all in and learning that this is how they are to act in the world.

The more you can act out of love, let go of external circumstances and be loving anyway, the more your children with exude these behaviours. The more loving you are the more loving they will be. The more patient you are the more patient they will be. If there is something that is lacking in your children, then you must look within and see how you have been creating this behaviour.

For instance, I have a habit of saying “I hate that!” And of course, Luca is my little mirror and now he “hates” everything.  Now I am in the process of undoing the damage that I so carelessly created. Here’s another example. Our dogs go crazy when someone comes to the door. It’s like our 8 year old dachshund wants to kill them. I’m not kidding. He’s out of control. (Yes we created that behaviour too…) And due to our not being incredibly careful with our words, Oscar now tells the dogs to “Shut the fuck up!” He’s 4. I wonder where he got that? Another habit we need to unravel. I plug away at it every day.

Our kids listen to our actions rather than our words. We speak very clearly when we act. Actions don’t lie. Words do. When you tell a child to do A, but consistently show them that B is your preferred action, they will perform action B because they want to be just like you.

Are you the adult you want your children to be? Ask yourself this question and then change your thoughts and behaviours accordingly. If you want them to eat their vegetables then you have to eat their vegetables. If you want them to be kind, then you must be kind. If you want them to be healthy then you must be healthy. And it all starts with self love, which I have covered in previous blog posts, and which I will write about until the end of time. You must put yourself first if you are going to be able to give your children the best version of you so that you may help them to create the best versions of themselves.

Your children are your greatest chance to improve your behaviour for the better. Sometimes, when we have not yet managed to love ourselves, we will change for our children. If you need to use them as leverage, then use them. If you can’t love yourself for yourself, then love yourself for them. Eventually you will come to realize that it’s one and the same. We are all one.

Change your Thoughts to Change Your Life

All it takes is a simple change of thoughts to change your life. Just a little pivot here and there can bring you great joy. When you pay attention to how you feel and consistently change your thoughts so that you feel better, life gets really good – and it’s not as hard as you may think it is!

Here are the basics: whenever you feel bad, your thoughts are not serving you. Pick a new thought. Start anywhere. You can even start with, “I am so lucky to be able to choose what I think about! I may as well think something fun. What would be fun? I think I’m going to eat my favourite thing for dinner. Oh wow, the weather is really beautiful today. I think I’ll go for a walk on my lunch hour.” Keep the momentum going.  Go general like that if you can’t think of something specific. And be truthful. Don’t say anything you don’t believe because it won’t feel good. The idea is to think thoughts that make you feel good. If you go off on a tangent, get back on track!

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There really is no sense being in a bad mood when you can choose to be happy instead. Whenever I find myself in a bad mood whether I know the reason or not, I call on Archangel Michael to cut the ethereal cords of attachment. I wave my hand in front of my heart and ask that all energetic cords be severed and that my energy be mine alone.  Then I shake out any residual negative energy by shaking my hands and setting the intention to release it.

If I’m standing I will bounce up and down if possible. If I’m in the car, which is when I need to do this the most due to Toronto traffic – I will shake out my hands at a stop sign or red light. If you end up adopting these habits, don’t worry if other people are around.  You can either worry about what other people think, or you can feel better, but you can’t do both.

A note on worrying what others think… It is not worth your time nor your energy!  There is no basis of your worry thought in reality and chances are people are not even thinking about you – they’re thinking about them! If you really want to know what someone close to you is thinking – then ASK them! Most often we create a “reality” in our heads that is nowhere near the truth. Communication is key in relationships. All relationships. Either let it go on your own or clear the air verbally and then get back to whatever it is that makes you happy!

Love and Light, xo.

 

I’m Not Perfect

You may read my blog and think I have it all together, but I assure you that I am a work in progress just like everyone else! This also reminds me to point out that there is no one out there who is perfect, so don’t be tempted to put anyone on a pedestal. It may not seem like it, but we’re on level playing ground with everyone else on Earth. We’re all on the journey of joyous expansion, and we all have good, really good, bad, and really bad moments! Without this contrast we would become complacent; we would lose our drive if things were good all the time. Don’t worry if you’ve had a particularly bad past, because you can use it as leverage to propel yourself into the future you desire. The past does not predict the future.

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I set a daily intention to see through the eyes of Source, to see the love in all people and the lessons I need to learn. I ask that my will be God’s will and that I be guided to be loving in all situations. Most days are amazing, while some days I seem to get stuck. Yesterday was particularly challenging. I decided to go down memory lane and got stuck there, stuck in a place where I couldn’t see the love in a person. I knew that nothing good could come from it, but I did it anyway. But something good did come of it. I saw the contrast between my denial state and my awakened state once again, and once again I was grateful for the awakening. The vision I have for my future wouldn’t be the same without my past.

I let go of the past and set myself free. Again. For the last time. Again. I doubt it really was the last time, but each time I am able to come out of it faster and with gratitude. What I find really interesting is this last dance with the past occurred on a full moon during mercury retrograde, which explains a lot!  I had an energy appointment the next day, and apparently I wasn’t the only one having issues, as they had THREE emergency phone calls that day from people having personal crises!

When I find myself in a funk and not being my usual chipper self, I first focus on grounding myself, which for me usually looks like a walk or run in the forest, and as I walk or run I focus on all of the really great lessons I have learned. This time it went something like this:

  1. I am strong, loving, courageous, and worthy of my dreams.
  2. I reclaimed my power and set boundaries for how I expect to be treated.
  3. True love comes from my own heart connection, which I can feel whenever I wish. Yay!
  4. I found a connection to spirit, my inner being, and Source.
  5. Things happen for me and not to me.
  6. I have the power to be, do, and have everything I can imagine for myself.
  7. I love to write. I must write. It feeds my spirit.
  8. I must exercise daily, it grounds me and makes me feel safe and secure.
  9. I found my life’s mission: to help others take their power back.
  10. I wouldn’t be who I am today without the challenges I’ve encountered.
  11. All is well, and it always will be!

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I want you to know that you have the power to overcome great adversity. If you don’t willingly change what you know you must, the Universe will conspire to change things for you. Whatever happens, stay conscious, strong, confident and listen to your heart; follow your inner guidance. The more you listen to your inner guidance and do what makes you happy, the more you will raise your self-esteem and the more confident you will become.

Know you are worthy of great things, and listen to that voice in your head that pushes you to change the status quo. Stay calm throughout the storm so that you can better see the lessons. Take your power back from outside forces and stand up for your beliefs. Know that everything is working out in the best interest of everyone involved. Nothing can go wrong when you follow your heart. You’ll either encounter pain now, when you make the tough decisions you have to make, or pain later, when you are holding yourself prisoner in an unhappy life.

What feels like a horrible situation can actually be your greatest blessing. You won’t find the blessings if you are concentrating on the despair. If you are asking “Why did this happen?” you are never going to find the answer. Something that wasn’t working in your highest interest had to come to an end, and the sooner you can find the lessons, the easier it will be for you to accept it and move forward with your life.

Most likely, like me, it doesn’t mean that you won’t return to those dark feelings occasionally, but it is your choice to visit them, and it is also your choice to let those feelings go. Letting go means that you choose not to live there. You choose to use past hurts merely as a contrasting feeling to the joy that you seek. I choose to feel good because it feels good! Is there any other way to live your life? I don’t think so!

Whenever the darkness creeps in, turn on the light. Go to the best feeling thoughts and visualizations that you can come up with. Think about all the things you are grateful for and the lessons you’ve learned from your struggles. Where are you now that you wouldn’t be if you hadn’t struggled? What amazing new life has come out of the ashes? What would be the best thing that could ever happen in your life? The light always beats the dark.