How to Get Out of Your Own Way

As I sit here wondering what is going to come through, I am surrounding by a throbbing heart opening energy that is literally making my entire body buzz with love for you. I want to remind you that love is available to you in each and every moment, and all you have to do to feel it is to let yourself receive it.

We spend so much time thinking ourselves unlovable and unsociable that we close the door to love. We spend so much time thinking about how annoying our spouse is that we block the love coming to us and from us. We block not only their love, but all love.

When you find yourself in anger, resentment, sadness, or are generally focusing on all the bad things that are happening to you, or to other people around you, or focusing on all of the bad things that could happen that you don’t want to happen, or…. well, you get the idea.

One thing I wish I had known much much earlier is this:

Life doesn’t happen to you, it happens from you.

– Abraham-Hicks

You are the one creating your reality. When you are focusing on what you don’t want, you get more of what you don’t want. Your thoughts send energy out into the world around you, and that energy interacts with the Universe. So, when you focus on all of the reasons that your relationship isn’t working, you will get more of your relationship not working.

When you’re driving a car, you want to look in the direction you want your car to go, right? That is exactly what you have to do in your relationships. If you can focus your thoughts on what you want more of, such as more love, affection, and passion by first thinking those thoughts, you will get more love, tenderness, affection, and passion from your partner simply by changing your own thoughts.

Why does this work? Because when you change your thoughts to be more loving, open, and receptive to love, your whole energy field will soften. Where your partner once sensed opposition and harsh energy, they will now feel love. The look in your eyes will change, and you will hold your body differently as well. Everything about you will change and they will sense it – and all of this happens without a single word.

It’s going to take some courage to open your heart like that, but there is nothing to fear. If you can’t open your heart to someone that you are already married or committed to, you probably shouldn’t be married or committed to them anyway, right? You have nothing to lose. There is nothing to be embarrassed about.

There is so much love available to you when you open yourself up to it. It is a shame that so many people keep it from themselves. When you shut your heart with a deep belief that you are unloveable, no one can get in. You have to first open yourself up, claim your lovability, and be the love that you desire. You must love yourself first. If you knew just how loved you really are, you would cry tears of happiness. This I know. <3

Love and light,

oxoxox

 

Change your Thoughts to Change Your Life

All it takes is a simple change of thoughts to change your life. Just a little pivot here and there can bring you great joy. When you pay attention to how you feel and consistently change your thoughts so that you feel better, life gets really good – and it’s not as hard as you may think it is!

Here are the basics: whenever you feel bad, your thoughts are not serving you. Pick a new thought. Start anywhere. You can even start with, “I am so lucky to be able to choose what I think about! I may as well think something fun. What would be fun? I think I’m going to eat my favourite thing for dinner. Oh wow, the weather is really beautiful today. I think I’ll go for a walk on my lunch hour.” Keep the momentum going.  Go general like that if you can’t think of something specific. And be truthful. Don’t say anything you don’t believe because it won’t feel good. The idea is to think thoughts that make you feel good. If you go off on a tangent, get back on track!

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There really is no sense being in a bad mood when you can choose to be happy instead. Whenever I find myself in a bad mood whether I know the reason or not, I call on Archangel Michael to cut the ethereal cords of attachment. I wave my hand in front of my heart and ask that all energetic cords be severed and that my energy be mine alone.  Then I shake out any residual negative energy by shaking my hands and setting the intention to release it.

If I’m standing I will bounce up and down if possible. If I’m in the car, which is when I need to do this the most due to Toronto traffic – I will shake out my hands at a stop sign or red light. If you end up adopting these habits, don’t worry if other people are around.  You can either worry about what other people think, or you can feel better, but you can’t do both.

A note on worrying what others think… It is not worth your time nor your energy!  There is no basis of your worry thought in reality and chances are people are not even thinking about you – they’re thinking about them! If you really want to know what someone close to you is thinking – then ASK them! Most often we create a “reality” in our heads that is nowhere near the truth. Communication is key in relationships. All relationships. Either let it go on your own or clear the air verbally and then get back to whatever it is that makes you happy!

Love and Light, xo.

 

Love First, Then Act

I’m not entirely sure how it came about, but I have within me a compassion for all beings that I have never felt before. I believe it’s been building in me ever since I made the conscious decision to take responsibility for my own happiness. These days my experience is more like a movie in some ways, especially when I see others suffering as I once did, caught in the reactive cycle of life and taking things way too seriously. Life can quite literally be all work and no play when you are engulfed in negativity. Even playing with my kids turned into me yelling constantly when I was acting from fear, disconnection, and unhappiness.

image1Of course, having been overweight during part of my life, I feel the pain of those who have a lot of literal weight to bare, and know that deep down they are struggling, even though they may show outward joy. On the inside, their spirits are starving to make a loving connection with their human selves, but they don’t know it.

When we withhold love from ourselves, we are completely disconnected from our inner being. Our inner beings have nothing but love for us, so when we act from a place of self destruction, self loathing, or self hatred, we are acting out in complete opposite of how our inner being sees us. This is why it feels so incredibly bad. We are out of alignment with Source energy and our true being, which has nothing but love for us.

Give love to yourself.

No matter where you are in your journey, love yourself first. Get centered by aligning with your inner being, and then, and only then, act. Center yourself through meditation, deep breathing, exercise, or doing something that makes you really happy.  Stop reacting to the world around you and travel within.  Check in with yourself often, and see what you feel about how your life is going.  What feels good?  What is draining your energy?  What does your spirit crave that you’ve been denying?

Unconditional love.

No matter what we have done or haven’t done, our higher selves love us unconditionally. This is true for all beings, even those that society labels as outcasts and criminals. If we were all connected to our inner being, there would be no crime to speak of. Individuals creating crimes are not acting from a place of interconnectedness or alignment. They are caught up in fear, and acting from a place of disconnection and misalignment.   If only they knew how loved and supported they are!

I had a daydream today about what would happen if all of humankind came into their power at the same moment in time.  I am thankful that I know I am the creator of my reality and it is because of this knowledge that I act out of love for others and love for myself.  I am planting the seeds that create more love in my existence. It is my wish that everyone know this deeply one day.

See only love.

If you are ready to take responsibility for your happiness then I encourage you to try to find a piece of yourself in everyone you cross paths with each and every day. Withhold judgment and know that everyone is doing the best they can with the knowledge that they have. Be the light in the room instead of adding to the darkness. Show compassion. Smile. Say please and thank you. Hold a door longer that you would like, and find the similarities between you and another. We are quick to make judgments of people without even talking to them. Get to know someone, if even for a few minutes. You never know what a little love and attention can do for someone.

If judgments and criticism arise from your ego, just be aware of the thoughts and let them pass by. Choose a better feeling thought and move on with your day. If you feel the need to vocalize your judgment to a friend who may be nearby, notice this too. Stay silent, and notice your ego’s response. When you practice this enough, the ego will soften and you will no longer feel the need to vocalize judgment because the judgments will no longer arise in you in the first place! Eventually you will have only love for others. And you will have compassion for their trials and tribulations.

Love yourself first.  Spread the love, and you will change lives.