How Do I Enjoy My Own Positivity Without Getting Weighed Down By My Parter’s Negativity?

You actually started answering your own question within the rest of your question! Appreciation will get you a long way with respect to this issue. Appreciate the good father that he is. Appreciate the great man he is and the wonderful things he does. When he is stressing and worrying, gently point out the other side of the coin, yet know when it’s time to understand and not explain anything at all. A lot of couples get caught up in thoughts about what they don’t like about their spouses, and nothing good will ever come of that. You’ve got to appreciate what you love about them and find some lighthearted joy along the way, tending to your own vibration as need be. Daydream about what your perfect relationship looks like and ignore the rest.

It is ok to let yourself be happy while someone right next to you is freaking out. A lot of the time we dim our light because we think it will make someone else feel better, but all it does is make us feel terrible and doesn’t help the situation at all anyway. When someone close to you is disconnected from who they really are, stop paying attention to their current behaviour. Instead, go inward and make the connection to your inner being. Feel what your inner being is feeling and follow the guidance you receive. You will either know what to say or know what to do in that moment. Just follow your intuition whether it makes sense to you or not!

You probably have learned to do this already with your kids! You ignore their tantrums and hold the space for them to return to the angelic beings you know they really are. Do the same thing with your husband. If you let him go on and on complaining about something, you’re enabling this behaviour and it will continue. When you find the connection to your inner being, you are connected to the Source of your guidance. If you need a moment to yourself, take it. At least you can explain the reason you are pulling away; you can have an intelligent conversation with your partner that you are usually unable to have with your kids!

My partner and I agree to call each other out on our bullshit.  It doesn’t mean it’s always well received, but we agree to it and we learn from it.  You can also energetically move the energy around any issue by thinking better feeling thoughts with regard to them such as “I love when my partner tells me about the good parts of his day. I love hearing about all of the things that excite him. I love knowing that no matter how bad his day is, he brings the best of himself home to his family. I love how he can make me laugh, etc.” In time you will get better and better with regard to controlling your thoughts.

If you can control your thoughts with respect to your partner for even the smallest amount of time, you will see change. Do your best to tailor your thoughts to something that is already true for you or else it’s not going to help you because you will know deep down it is a lie. Fake it until you make it just doesn’t work for me. Being true to my heart always does.

Use Distance as a Tool

Put some distance between you and him whenever you feel the need. Your intuition will let you know because you’ll have this nagging pit in your stomach that tells you to remove yourself from an uncomfortable situation. Listen to this feeling and let yourself go!

Meditate, take a shower or bath, or go for a run. Listen to your favourite song really, really loud and dance around the kitchen with headphones on. I can’t tell you how many times going for a run has saved my sanity. Run/walk, whatever. Get some fresh air and clear your mind. It’s as easy as saying “Honey, do you mind if I go for a run?” Done. Answers come to me so easily while I am running. I will know what to say to my partner about a certain issue, or I will know how to deal with a certain issue with my kids, or I’ll get the idea to do something I’d never even considered before which solves a problem I didn’t know I even had. It’s incredible what guidance comes when you make t a priority to listen!

Lead By Example.

In time, your partner will see how calm you are and may start doing the same. He would benefit from a hobby he loves that feeds his spirit. I use the example of running because it’s what I love to do to clear my mind. If he can find something that clears his mind, it will do him (and you) a world of good. Because, if you aren’t doing something to bring yourself into alignment with who you really are, you’re grasping at straws and won’t have anything to give anyone else anyway. When you’re not in alignment, worry, fear, and anxiety easily take hold. When you’re in alignment, worry, fear, and anxiety don’t even exist. Love always prevails in the state of alignment.

There is no need to think about your problems when you run/exercise. Just clear your head and listen for your guidance. Your guides know more about you than you do. They also know the shortcut to everything you have ever asked for. I’m not entirely sure we need to think about anything ever again. Just ask to find solutions and listen for the answers to come. Expect them to come.

When you wake up in the morning, before you mentally jump into your to-do list, just lay there and listen for the answers to come. If you are working on your receptivity to your guidance, the fuzzy area between the awake and sleep states is a great time to allow this clarity to wash over you.

Perception is Tricky

We often create problems in our own minds that have no basis in reality. Communication is the key. Have a problem in your relationship? Talk about it. It doesn’t matter if it’s big or small. If it’s dragging you down, it’s worth getting it out in the open. When issues have roots, you’ve got to address them. Just find your alignment and then raise the issue with your partner when you are in a good feeling place about it.

I know a lot of spiritual teachers will tell you to stop looking at a problem and focus on the solution, which is valid for sure, but sometimes you just can’t get your mind off something and not talking about it ends up hurting the relationship. I have had much quicker success in my own life by addressing my issues with honesty and the knowing I have in my heart. It has made my parter and I closer than I ever thought possible.

Go with your own personal guidance in this area. No matter what anyone says, its always best to go with your intuition. What’s best for me may not me best for you. Some issues I can ignore and they work themselves out, while others just keep coming back around. If they keep coming back, it may be time to talk about them.

Permission to Thrive

You need to give yourself permission to thrive no matter what. If it means your partner stays where he is and you outgrow him, so be it. You have to follow your truth and you can’t expect everyone to come with you. I don’t think we are meant to have the same partner for life. I think the right partners come in at the right time. It doesn’t mean that you can’t have the same partner for life, but it means that you have to accept that you will have periods of exponential growth that occur at different times. A friend told me that the trick to staying together long-term is “we never fell out of love with each other at the same time.”

Connect to your inner being. Follow your heart. Speak your truth. Take care of yourself. Know that everything is always working out for you. And look for the evidence of it all day, every day.

xo Amy

 

Is Your Story Serving You?

My story is inspiring. It’s incredible. And yet as inspiring and uplifting as my story is, it never feels good to talk about it. To be completely honest, looking back at it in any capacity at all doesn’t feel good!

As amazing as your story may be, looking back at it brings the past into the present moment. As uplifting as the message is, bringing any pain into the present moment just doesn’t feel good. When you claim the past in the present, you are muddying up the perfection that is now. It feels so good to be in the now, where anything and everything is possible.

When you breathe deeply and claim “I am here now in the present moment,” you open space in your physical body to flow Source energy. “I am Source in the present moment” is even more powerful. You are spirit flowing through a physical body. You cannot NOT be connected to Source. You are Source. That will never change.

Obviously, you can do as you wish. I just want you to bring your attention to how you feel when you go into detail about things that are not working in your life. How does it make you feel? Perhaps you would feel better if you focused on the solution to what is not working? Once you have felt the pain of a situation, it’s time to focus on feeling better. You know what you don’t want, so what do you want?

People are going to do what they’re going to do and there is nothing you can do to change it. But you can change your reaction to it and you can change what you think about. When I’m hurting for whatever reason, I choose to fantasize about things that I really want to feel. You can start anywhere and get a pretty good rampage of appreciation going with just a little bit of focus and the intention to feel better.

Here’s an example of my mental game when I was at the lowest point in my life:

“I know that I’m going to be happy. When I am on the other side of this, it’s going to feel really good. I am so lucky to have my boys. I am so lucky that they chose me to be their mom! They are so precious and beautiful inside and out. I love that when I hug them, I can easily connect to Source energy. I know that there is so much more for me. I love knowing that I can connect to this Source whenever I choose. I love knowing that everything is always working out for me, even though I can’t see it yet. I know that there is so much working out for me right now that I can’t see! How amazing is it to know that we are truly loved regardless of what other humans are saying and doing? I love that I can feel whole and complete all on my own. How amazing is it that I have so much to look forward to in this life? I know that I created this and I take full responsibility for myself. It is so empowering to know that I create my own reality!”

I have no idea what caused me to catapult into this knowing, but I knew. I opened up to spirit so intensely and so easily. I imagine it is because I was never that far away from it, and my desire to feel good had never been stronger in that moment of pain. I was asking, they were responding, and in my desire to feel better I let it in.

Negative thinking is just a habit, and a habit can be changed – especially when you recognize what is going on at an energetic level. If thoughts are energy, and energy is everything in this vibrational Universe, your thoughts are creating your reality. The things you say are creating your reality. The frequency you hold is creating your reality.

Each moment is a new opportunity to create a different reality from the one you are currently in. The present moment is all you have. It is the point of creation. So, what do you want to do with it? Do you want to complain? Do you want to talk about what people have done in the past to hurt you? Do you want to yell at your kids?

Or, do you want to appreciate? Do you want to love? Do you want excitement? Do you want to open your heart? Do you want to feel good? Do you want to create something new?

I want to love. I want to open my heart. I want to live my life flowing Source energy. I want to feel connected to all that is. I want to thrive. I want my sons to thrive. I want to be incredibly blissfully happy. I want to have a relationship with my partner that is full of passion. I want to tap into my inner being’s perspective and to live a life full of precious  gifts – moments that I couldn’t plan if I tried from my human perspective. I want to trust that everything is always working out for me. I want to know that everything is always really ok. I want to live life knowing that there is never any risk.

Now, if we bring all of those wants into this feeling moment, it would sound something like this:

I love loving. I love living my life with an open heart. I love feeling Source energy flow through me. I love being connected to all that is. I love thriving in this time space reality. I love that my children are thriving and that I am incredibly blissfully happy. I love that my relationship is full of passion and love. I love those moments when I am at one with my inner being’s perspective, when my heart is glowing with pure love and joy, and I love seeing the manifestations of my vibration. I trust that everything is always working out for me. I love knowing that there is no risk. I love knowing that there is nothing to fear. All is well.

xo Amy

Q&A: How Do I Stop Feeling Like I Can Never Catch Up?

Busyness is an epidemic in our society. Everyone is so busy doing that they’re missing the point of being in the moment. The key to taking control of your crazy life, just like anything else, lies in your heart.

Wherever you are, you can get to where you want to be. It helps if you have a specific goal in mind but it’s not necessary. Simply knowing what you want to feel is good enough. For instance, you may know that you want to be a painter, so you paint when you feel the inspiration. If you don’t have “time” – make time. Schedule it in. If you don’t know what is it you are looking for, you can appreciate the feeling of how you want to feel. For instance, you can feel what it wold feel like to have unlimited time, ease, love, connection, and excitement.

All of this is going to come together via the Law of Attraction. Like attracts like. The vibration you put out is the one you receive. Things are always in a state of change. Nothing ever stays the same. But, you may not notice the change because things are changing to more of the same and more of the same and more of the same.

“Work is hard.” “I hate my job” “I never have enough time” etc. are thoughts that are going to change to more and more of the same. If you can practice feeling appreciation and joy in your daily experience, it will raise your vibration enough so that as time passes, you will see palpable change. Happier people will enter into your experience. There will be more laughing and more spontaneity. In general, you will feel more excitement in your life.

Over time, you will begin to notice how your thoughts create your reality. And in greater time, you will see just how powerful of a co-creator you really are. Eventually you will come to know that you can be, do, or have anything you desire because your life experience will show you time and time again that you get what you think about whether you want it or not.

The easiest way to get the momentum rolling in the right direction is to take time every single morning to make sure you get out of bed with the right mindset. If you wake up with a  debilitating thought, take the time to think of a better feeling thought on that subject, or choose another subject all together. I recommend leaving your thoughts on any subject in a better feeling place because it is incredibly empowering to know that you are in charge of your thoughts and that they are not in charge of you. Plus, it feels better!

Tips for improving your current job:

  1. Set the intention when you go to bed to wake up in a good mood, full of energy and enthusiasm for your job in the morning. Intention is everything. Most people pre-pave their days full of dislike for their jobs. This is your chance to choose your own adventure the day before.
  2. If you wake up in dread with the thought of going to work, wake up 45 minutes earlier and go for a quick run. Movement of the body is important to move energy, so if you can swing it, get yourself moving!
  3. If working out sounds impossible, (I can literally hear you groaning) choose any thought about your job that you really like. Appreciate how good that thought feels and appreciate the people who make your job fun.
  4. Meditate. Set your alarm for 15-20 minutes and sit with the intention to simply be. Breathe deeply and feel for the love that is omnipresent. Focus on your heart chakra and let in the love.
  5. Appreciate all day long. Especially when you notice negative thoughts. Even people you have always perceived as completely awful will change right before your eyes if you only see the good in them and find things to appreciate. And when a compliment for someone pops into your head, share it! You are an uplifter at heart!

And last but not least, take time for yourself. Put yourself first. It’s not selfish to do what you want to do. It’s IMPERATIVE to being happy. Take care of yourself and do what makes you happy. If you don’t do this, you won’t have any energy to give anyone else anyway. This means saying NO to a lot of thing you are currently saying YES to and regretting. If it’s not a HELL YES it’s a HELL NO. Remember this one thing alone and I guarantee you will catch up and feel an immediate increase of joy in your daily life!

The happier you are, the more tapped into your spirit you will be, and the easier it will be for you to hear the inspiring thoughts your spirit is constantly sharing with you. This is why meditation is so important. It is an open invitation to spirit. When you quiet your mind, you are better able to hear your guidance. Spiritual guidance is not reserved for psychics and mediums. If you are a human on Earth, you have spiritual guidance because the “spirit you” thought the “physical you” into being. And that same energy that created you is flowing through you now, creating with your thoughts and your overall vibration. The frequency you emit is what the law of attraction responds to in each and every waking moment.

Pay attention to that little voice in your head. Most thoughts that feel really, really good to you are actually guidance from spirit. Spirit knows exactly what you want and how to get it to you in the easiest of ways, but often we ignore these amazing thoughts and counter them with thoughts like “I can’t do that”. Yes, you can. If you received and inspiring thought, you can do it. Think about it some more and get really excited about it. You can be, do, or have anything you desire. All you have to do is align with your spirit on a daily basis and let it all in. You don’t even need to think anymore. You just have to be happy and let the law of attraction and spirit show you the way!

How can I release the grief from life’s losses that I am holding in my body?

We are Eternal beings, and death is one of the great misunderstandings of man. Since no one ever really dies, the only thing holding you in this place of grief are your thoughts/beliefs about death. Your loved ones who have transitioned have released all resistance they had while they were Earth bound. This means that any petty grievances and beliefs disappeared the moment their soul left their physical body. All that remains is pure love, which is the only thing that was ever real to begin with.

Once you stop looking for your loved ones where they were (their physical bodies) and start looking for them where they are (the non-physical “realm” right where you are) you will be able to tap into the essence of them and let all of the love they have for you come rushing in. Any time you are thinking of them, rest assured that they are with you. When a smell reminds  you of them, it is because you heard their call from non-physical! The more you can open up and play with them, the more you will notice them around you, and the more fun you will continue to have!

I play with my Gram often. She visited me while on the cruise ship last week and we had a conversation about how absolutely amazing it is that I have found this tribe of people that I love and appreciate so much! She was far from these beliefs when she was alive and I can feel her excitement for the things I know at such a young age. I then asked who else was coming to say hello and my 8th grade teacher came forward. It’s not normal of me to think of my 8th grade teacher, and that’s why it was so easy for me to trust and know he was near. He and I had an amazing connection from the time we met, and after he passed away he came to me in a dream. When these things happen, trust it. Trust in what comes to you. You’re not making it up. It’s all real.

I can tell that you are ready to let go of all you have been holding on to. You’ve got this. Trust. This is where intention comes in. Set the intention to accept the situation for what it is. Everything is exactly as it is supposed to be. Accept that although you no longer have a physical relationship with this person, your relationship is far from over. Actually, I find my relationships deepen when loved ones pass because they stop pushing against me and only their love remains. All other perspectives fall away and they become pure positive energy. This makes it very easy to tap into them when you’re vibrationally near their current state.

The easiest way for me to open my heart has been to sit quietly in meditation with the intention to feel for the love that is shining down on me. Focus on your heart chakra and grow the energy outward. Breathe slowly and deeply, letting go of physical and mental resistance with each breathe. Feel your body soften. Feel your mind let go. Invite a feeling of ease and freedom.

As soon as you forgive yourself for whatever transpired before they passed, and start to let yourself be truly happy, everything you have perpetuated through unkind thoughts toward yourself will shift. When you use the present moment to think unkind thoughts about a past version of you, you’re not letting the whole of who you currently are flow through. You’re blocking a lot of really good stuff from coming in, and that’s why it feels so bad.

The non-physical you knows who you really are and loves you unconditionally. When you think a thought that is in opposition to this universal truth, you’re going to feel bad. You simply can not think a thought that is in opposition to what your inner being knows and feel good about it. So when you catch yourself in a thought that feels terrible, ask yourself what your inner being must be thinking!

Tell your inner being that you are open to their perspective. Be open to the thoughts that pop into your head. If you’re having trouble with this, distraction helps. Go do something fun! Do anything that brings some joy to your heart. Go for a run, walk, grab a cup of coffee with a (happy) friend, read a book, watch a movie, or listen to Despacito and dance around your kitchen like no one’s watching!

I am so excited for you to open up more completely to the world of spirit because I know what a fulfilling relationship awaits you and it’s always only a thought away <3

Alignment is Everything

Alignment is everything. It’s knowing when someone needs a hug and it’s knowing exactly what to say, even in the toughest of human moments. It’s having the best timing and the sly punch line. It’s pure heart wide-open perfection. It’s unconditional love and everlasting joy; pure magic in every waking moment.

How do you get there? One day, one moment, one thought, one nap, one meditation, one desire, one mistake, one laugh, one puppy; one step at a time.

How do I know when I’m there? You’ll be happy. You won’t take yourself too seriously. You won’t sweat the small stuff. You’ll laugh out loud at the funny voice in your head. You’ll ask a question and receive the answer straight away. You’ll know things without explanation. You’ll understand without having to bring someone over to your perspective. You’ll love and appreciate with reckless abandon and you won’t notice anything other than the beauty inherent in all things. You’ll attend the buffet of life, take only what you desire and ignore the rest. You’ll live in the now. You’ll be the light in the room.

How I finally surrendered:

One day last week I woke up from sleep with the knowing to cancel my plans for the day/night. I decided then and there that I was going to surrender to this thought; to surrender to my inner being forevermore. The time had come to listen to that little voice in my head. That voice has always been there, but I’ve often ignored it, countering its optimism with belittling thoughts. I don’t know why I didn’t think I was good enough to follow through with all of the wonderful ideas that flowed through me, but in that moment I knew I had to be free. I couldn’t deny it any more.

Each morning when I wake up, I reaffirm the desire to give up any resistance to my inner being’s calls. I affirm to do my best to listen and follow through with this incredible gift of guidance. I will lay in bed and meditate until I feel the solid connection between the physical me and the non-physical me. Essentially, I feel for the love that I know is shining down on me. My heart chakra glows outward to the point of pure ecstatic bliss. I can feel my root chakra, sacral, and solar plexus chakras activated and burning bright as well. My throat, third eye, and crown are clear. And then I go through my day as “Source as Amy,” talking to that little voice in my head throughout the day that is so excited to play with me.

There is nothing quite like living your life while fully allowing Source energy to pour through you. I have the best moments ever. Each moment is new and exciting. Each moment is my favourite. Because, even though so many moments are precious and exciting, even looking back to enjoy their deliciousness isn’t as good as feeling fully alive in the present moment.

For the past 2 weeks I have fully allowed myself to let go of the old and to embrace the new. I have met so many new friends. So many of them I had met before, but this time I was ready to let them into my heart. Just yesterday I had the most delicious moment with an older gentleman. He parked his walker beside me and I jumped up to hold the door open for him. “It’s already snowing in Regina,” he said. “Thank you so much. I will make sure I avoid it today.” “Good.” He said. Perfect moment. So much love and fun flowing between us.

The most perfect people flow into my experience, and those who aren’t a vibrational match simply flow by. I fully embrace the knowing that I am pure positive love energy. I don’t trip over my words anymore and can say exactly what I want to say when I wanted to say it. While in France, I spoke perfect French! I tapped into everything I had always been and my mind and words were able to flow with ease. A few days ago I even sang “Here, There, and Everywhere” while walking down the streets of Lido di Venezia without a care in the world. The disconnected me would have been shy and scared to have people listen to me.

One day after meditation, I floated down the stairs and ran smack into Esther. I thanked her for everything she does and she said something like “It’s fun to have fun, isn’t it?” I said, “If I told you about all the fun we’re having I’d be here all day. So I just want to say thank you.” I realized then that she was holding my hands. Such a beautiful experience! What a wonderful memory I will have forever. And it is with excitement that I eagerly anticipate another rendez-vous!

The day I cancelled all of my plans I ended up having a wonderful day walking through Napoli with a new dear friend. We had the best pizza I’ve ever tasted, the best coffee in the cutest alleyway off the beaten path, and afterward went to a beautiful sail away party at sunset. That party led to an incredible dinner and connections I will have for life. The dinner led to a day on a Yacht sailing around Malta the next day and even more love and appreciation for the souls I was coming to know; to remember.

And from there life just keeps getting better and better. My heart is full. The work I have done is radiating out for all to see and for all of my mirrors made of flesh to return to me. My kids are radiating and my partner and I have a greater understanding of what we mean to one another. I love knowing that everything is always working out for me and in the best interest of everyone involved. Life is too precious to spend unhappy and happiness is my greatest goal in life.

Most of all I love how my intentions, no matter how small, played out seamlessly. Like a thought to save someone in particular a seat one day that didn’t work out, worked out the next day without me even trying. I found myself with a front row seat to gift to the most amazing woman ever, just as I had intended.

I especially love the moments of inspiration that don’t make any sense. Everything makes sense in the end! I love that I can continually see the evidence of my alignment, or lack thereof, and that I am able to change my thoughts or my state by simply choosing another thought. If I find myself in a place that I can’t get back from, I just go to bed and start again the next day with meditation and appreciation and the desire to listen to that little voice in my head. Alignment is everything.

Setting Boundaries 101

The lesson of the day is this: It’s ok to set boundaries. In fact, it’s absolutely essential to your happiness.

I haven’t written in awhile due to kids, bracelet business, and well just figuring life out in general. But mostly it’s because I’ve been really focused on myself lately. And I’ve been really happy because of it. My happiness is more important than my kids’ happiness. Because if I don’t tend to myself, I’ve got nothing to give them anyway. It’s why I don’t yell 24/7 and can generally be calm in the middle of the storm. I say generally because I lose it from time to time as my kids will attest!

If you don’t set boundaries, you’re going to run out of steam. It’s why my kids don’t play hockey or do half of the stuff other kids are doing. Why you ask? Because I CHOOSE ME. I choose to give myself time while they fight with each other in the back yard. I let them fight and tell them to figure it out. I ignore their issues and trust them to learn some lessons. Did your brother punch you in the face? Well, that’s what happens when you punch someone in the back instead of walking away honey. Learn from it. I don’t ignore them completely. I’ve got eyes in the back of my head; I’m a mom. And when I’m not watching, I’m feeling it all.

This is where it all comes together: Feel for your boundaries.

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Say someone invites you to a party and you don’t want to go. Tell them you can’t make it and don’t go. Listen to that gut feeling. Don’t go. Don’t make excuses. You don’t need to tell the truth per say, but you don’t need to lie either. Don’t do something to make someone else happy. Choose you and make yourself happy – there’s the secret to happy life! Appreciate everything, and do the stuff that makes you happy. Boom.

Sometimes I do things I don’t want to do because it will make my kids happy, but I’m doing it for me too, because making them happy makes me happy. Taking them to the park when I want to lay on the couch makes all of us happy, so I go. My gut feeling here is not saying “lay on the couch”. It is saying “take them to the park”. So I go.

When I was waitressing, my boss had another restaurant halfway across the city. He asked me to work at the other location a few times and I said “no.”  The result? He stopped asking me. You know who he did ask repeatedly? The girls who said “yes” and complained to me on the side about having to go to the further location. “That’s why I said no!” I would tell them.

It’s ok to say no. And you don’t need to explain why either. It’s ok to not care what other people think of you. It’s ok to do it your way. You’re doing a great job. You’re exactly where you meant to be in this time and space. Every day is a gift. Every day you get to wake up and decide you are going to be true to yourself. Every day is a chance to be your Divine Self here on Earth. It’s what you intended.

Before you go to bed, think about who you are. You can meditate sitting up for 15-20 minutes or you can lay in bed and just visualize your ideal self. Think of the boundaries you need to set, and decide what you are willing and not willing to tolerate. And when you wake up in the morning, wake up as this person you really are.

If people are mean, let them be mean. If they lash out, let them lash out and follow your instincts. This can mean you rise above it and ignore it. Or it can mean that you explain your perspective. Just stay in alignment with your higher self and follow any guidance that comes.

When you lash back, it means you give away your power. Know who you really are and let them rise up to meet you, or leave them where they are. Five people can witness the exact same event and have 5 different perspectives that don’t line up with each other in the least. 5 different “realities” of 1 so called “reality”. Know that they are where they are and stand in the knowing that they can be more. They will either meet you or stay put, and it’s all ok.

For example. My 4 year old had a tantrum, told me he hated me, and whatever else…”ok” I said, and I walked away. I fully know he doesn’t hate me. Not yet anyway…he’s 4, not 14. I know I am an amazing person. I know he’s an amazing person. I ignored it and let it be. Guess what? He snuggled me and told me how much he loves me, and snuggled and told his 3 year old brother how much he loves him. This was before he told him he hates him 5 minutes later, but I digress…

The point is, people are human. News flash! Humans are weird. You can’t control them. But you can control you. You can control your thoughts, and you can control your reactions or, lack thereof. You can set boundaries, and they can like them or not. It doesn’t matter how they respond so long as you are true to yourself.

Is your adult son living with you and treating you like garbage? Set a date and kick him out. It’s time for him to realize he can fly. Are you ready to say something that someone is not ready to hear? If you’re ready to say it, then say it. It doesn’t matter if they’re ready to hear it. You’re ready to say it.

I’m not telling you to go attack people you’ve “had it up to here” with, but I am telling you to stop taking crap from people that you have been taking because you haven’t listened to your intuition. Stand up for yourself. Chance are, you have a nagging feeling right now about something that you know you need to do but are scared to do, and this is your sign to do it. There is nothing to fear. It’s in your head. There is nothing to worry about. Everything is always working out for you, and you’ve got to trust your feelings. When you know something, you know it. You don’t need to know why.

Don’t take anything personally ever. Your parents did the best they could do given their growth and their perceived worth. It wasn’t about you or because of you, it was because of them. Everything everyone does is because of them. Don’t take it anything personally. Be yourself. Do what makes you happy. You are where you are, and that’s ok.

xo Amy

 

 

The Number 666 and Counting Your Blessings

When I lazily checked my messages just over a week ago, I never expected what I heard. “Amy, it’s mom. Call me back as soon as you can.” My stomach dropped as I returned the call. Who? What was it?

The who was my aunt. And it was a stroke. Having been an OR nurse for more than 30 years, she had been able to tell my uncle that she was having a stroke while it was happening. He immediately saw it on her face and had her at the hospital in less than 10 minutes.

I’ve been to the hospital twice to visit her this week. The first time was the day after it happened. She was able to speak when spoken to and her humour was intact. “I’m so happy to see you.” I said. “I’m happy you can still see me.” She replied.

The second time was Thursday, nearly 5 full days after it happened. She was able to carry on a conversation for nearly 2 hours with me. Her memory is intact and she is grateful to be alive. She knows it’s going to be a long road to recover but she also knows she’s going to do it. Thank God for her belief. She’s tapping into who she really is.

Being an empath, I know how important it is for me to get into a strong emotional place before getting anywhere near a hospital. Tapping into the fear and sadness that is floating around is a strong possibility if I don’t raise my vibration and shield myself against it.

I purposely chose my crystal bracelets to support me that morning, and kept repeating over and over in the car: “Everything is always working out for me. Everything is always working out for me.” It’s how I shut off my mind and tap into my spiritual truth. Eventually I settled into the meditation of driving and made peace with the quiet around me. I started listening to one of Abraham-Hicks’ rampages of appreciation and the tone was set. Everything is really ok. There is nothing wrong. It’s not denial. It’s knowing that even though there may be a problem with the physical body, the spirit cannot be harmed.

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This type of contrast creates a massive desire for wellness. I’m sure my aunt’s desire to be well has never been greater. I know my desire to keep my thoughts in a high vibrational place has never been higher. It is my intention to hold the space for her to be who she really is – full of love and light and completely whole. I know that I create my own reality and I know the power of my thoughts. Looking at my aunt and crying about her current physical state won’t help. She is not her physical body and it has nothing to do with who she really is. When I think of her, I think of her healthy. I think of her strong personality and her strong will. In my mind’s eye, I see her walking and talking and having a good time.

I talked with her like I’ve always talked with her. I didn’t feel the need to yell or talk to her like she was a toddler, which all of the nurses were doing…why? I never understood that. I talk to everyone like they’re 30 and adjust as necessary.  All I did was encourage her and help in any way I could. This meant counting each and every blessing with her. There wasn’t a pity party because my energy wouldn’t allow it. It was easy to lead her into appreciation because in that moment she was already there. There will be moments of depression and sadness for sure, but I know my energy brought forth hope and a lot of love. I gave her a neck and shoulder massage with essential oils (thankfully I had some in my purse!) and gave her drops of water on a sponge. I wish I could have done more but I did what I could.

On the drive home I saw so many 666 licence plates that I lost count. I’ve seen them everywhere since. And I was thinking about my aunt today when I saw one. I was turning into my son’s school to pick him up and there it was: 666. And I kid you not, when I left the school 10 minutes later, the first licence plate I saw read AAA 666. I can’t make this stuff up! The number 666 reminds me not to get caught up in what I see. What ‘is’ doesn’t matter. What ‘is’ gives us a starting point so we can think about where we want to be and what we want to create in our lives. It helps us to carve out where we want to be. The real magic happens when we start moving toward what we want to create.

I know we are eternal beings and I know that all is well. I know that death isn’t real. It’s just an address change. We take the lessons and the love and leave our aging bodies behind. I could be sad. But why? I’ve let myself mourn the aunt I knew for a few passing moments and each time it felt awful. It’s not who she is. So I change my thoughts and find the blessings. I know that more love is going to be born out of this situation than if it hadn’t happened. I know that the desire for a healthy body is greater than it’s ever been within everyone around her. I know that the blessings will become greater and greater.

She doesn’t want me to see her like this. It’s not who she is. And I told her that I know. I told her that I see her full of love and light and that I know who she really is. We cried together for a brief moment as we hugged. There is no shame in what her physical body is going through. None at all. She is so much more than her physical body.

When she fell asleep I wrote her a mantra on a piece of paper and left it beside her. Even if she didn’t read it, the intention was there with her in that room. I can’t remember it exactly but it went something like this:

“I love knowing that my body is getting stronger every single day. I love knowing that there is no action I must take. I love knowing that my higher self is in control of this healing energy and I welcome it wholeheartedly. I am so appreciative of all of the nurses and doctors who are doing everything they are inspired to do to help me recover as quickly as possible. I love knowing that they are being Divinely guided. I love knowing that we are all in this together. I love knowing that everyone is looking out for me. I love knowing that my family is here for me. I love feeling loved. I love loving. I love knowing that everything is really all right. I love knowing that everything is always working out for me and I look forward to seeing the evidence of it working out for me all day every day.”

What I know for sure is that our thoughts create our reality. The whys of life don’t matter as much as what we’re going to do about where we are now. I know that life is what we make it. We can’t change the past, but we can change the trajectory of the future in an instant. I know that everything is always working out for us, and I know that the answer to everything is love. I know that love is all around us. I know that the propensity for us is to be healthy. And I know that we are never alone. We are constantly being guided by immensely loving beings. We just have tap into it. Love is the key to everything.

 

Guidance is Everywhere. Listen.

I took my 3 young boys to the the dentist today, taking a bullet that I didn’t want to take because sometimes I have to be something we call an “adult”. I don’t feel like an adult. Does anyone? Every few weeks I have a moment where I think “how do I have 3 kids?!” One day you have no kids and the next you’re entire world is upside down and ruled by a 7lb scream machine. There’s no test. There should be a test!

When I went to the school to pick up my 2 oldest for lunch before the dentist, I had a quick chat with another mother. A mother that I actually met at an airport in Barbados I might add. We ended up renting in the same condo building down there. Then a few days after we returned home, I saw her walking down my street. Apparently we never had the “where are you from?” conversation. The Universe amazes me with its little games every single day.

She told me that she’s been picking up her kids for lunch for years. And I told her that this is the second time I’ve ever done it. I have no problem telling my children that they’re going to eat lunch in the school cafeteria with the rest of the kids. It’s good for me, and what’s good for me is good for them. If I had to pick them up every single day I would be a mess! No just no. Not happening.

She told me that when it gets cold it’s really hard to have to pick them up for lunch. So I suggested that when it gets cold she should tell them that it’s time for them to stay for lunch. I wanted to open up the space for her to make her own decision, but let her know that if it’s making her unhappy in any way, she should allow herself the freedom to do what feels better. Something prompted me to sit beside her. Spirit is always guiding us. I was her flashing red light of guidance with a message she was ready to hear. But, we have to take action on our guidance. I say what I feel inspired to say, and I don’t take it personally when people don’t hear what I say, but the pull to sit beside her was so strong and the conversation guided itself. Pure inspiration: in spirit.

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Leaving my kids at school for lunch time gives them time to play, and me and extra hour and a half of work each day. They play outside for 30 minutes before they eat. If I picked them up they’d miss out on valuable exercise and fun! Also, it makes the times I DO pick them up extra special. The last time I picked up Oscar for lunch, we went on a little date to the French Restaurant behind our house. He was so excited, and so was I. It was valuable 1 on 1 time that we rarely get and I’m excited to do it again 🙂

Talking with this mother for a few minutes made me reevaluate my entire life. Is it making you reevaluate your own? Is there anything you’re doing now that you don’t want to do? Is there any way to shift the responsibility in any way to give yourself more freedom and relief? I even called my Cable/Internet provider and changed my plan to save me $45 a month because I don’t want to pay for a phone line we don’t use and channels we don’t watch. That’s $540 a year!

If there is anything that has been on your mind lately that you want to change, do it now. It’s so much less painful when you listen to your guidance and follow through with action than if you let it eat away at your soul for the next weeks, months, and years. Just as I wrote that, I got the feeling that I need to go to the dentist. That is my guidance system chiming in with something that needs to be done. I’ve been saying for way too long that I need to go, so in the spirit of this message (and the honouring of spirit’s message) I will take my own advice and make an appointment tomorrow!

What thoughts and feelings are popping into your head? What do you need to change? What needs completion? What “adulting” have you been putting off? Listen to those thoughts and feelings, that guidance, and TAKE ACTION!

 

How to Save Yourself from Earth’s Current Insanity.

The energy on this planet right now is insane. If you watched the Second Presidential Debate, you’ll know exactly what I mean.  And if you didn’t, you’re better off. I watched about 10 minutes of it before I had to run away and save myself and I’ve spent countless hours thinking about it since…is this really happening? Have we not learned anything? How does this level of ignorance still exist? Thankfully I finally listened to my guidance and went upstairs to read. Phew.

If you’ve been feeling OFF lately, I want you to know that you are not the problem. There are crazy energies going around and being the energetic, vibrational beings you are, you’re likely feeling it. I was feeling completely off centre until I followed my guidance to start running again, and let me tell you, the energy change is just what I needed.

Instead of feeling insanely spacey, reactive, and angry, I am feeling more grounded and calm. And even when something does get the best of me (having 3 boys ages 2 to 5 will do it) I’m able to return to centre fairly quickly and let go of whatever unhinged me. I even went for an 8k run before a hot yoga class yesterday, and my yoga experience was incredible because of it. It most definitely enhanced my ability to explore my edge. I was a damn good tree yesterday.

If you’ve been feeling unusually rocky and angry lately, I highly recommend getting outside and soothing your spirit with nature. If you are able to run I encourage you to get out there and run until you can’t run anymore. Even if you have to run for 30 seconds and walk for 2 minutes to recover, get out there and do it. No excuses!

If you’re repelled by the idea get ready for a little tough love: You get out of life what you put in, and if you’re not willing to stretch your comfort zone even a little bit, you’ve got to start thinking about your priorities. Do you want to feel better? Do you want to be happier? Do you want to stop snapping at your family members? (Food for thought: Does your family get the best of you or the worst of you?) Do you want to experience more joy in your life? Do you want to feel more relaxed? Do you want to stop reacting to every little stimuli that crosses your path? Run. Walk. Anything. Just Do it as Nike says. You’ll congratulate yourself later I promise.

If something is holding you back from getting exercise, I encourage you to do a little pre-paving and psych yourself up for the amazing feelings that running will bring. I do this little exercise the second I get the inspiration to run. Think about how good it’s going to feel to have all of that oxygen running through your body. Think of how good it’s going to feel to snap your spirit back into your body. That is essentially what grounding is to me anyway – to be fully one with who you really are – to minimize the gap between physical you and non-physical you (your Higher Self or inner being). Think about that rush of endorphins you will get as you complete your run, that sense of accomplishment, that high 5 you’re going to give yourself at the end. Think about how good your jeans are going to feel after! I don’t run to lose weight but the physical changes of regular exercise certainly are a bonus!

And it’s not only running that can centre you, though it is one of my favourite go-to ways to beat the bad energy out of my body. Doing anything that excites your spirit will help. Excitement lights up our spiritual path. Do whatever it is that makes you the most YOU.

What puts the spark in your eye? Is it painting? Reading a good book? Meeting a good friend for coffee? Eating pizza? Do that. Do all of it. But don’t eat pizza because you’re unhappy and you’re trying to fill a void. Eat pizza because you fucking LOVE to eat pizza and it’s going to make a good time even better. Energy matters. The energy you eat your food with matters. The energy you do anything with matters.

Go for a run to get yourself out of a rut, but don’t eat pizza from that vantage point. Only eat pizza when you feel good, ok? There are no rules, but there’s one for you anyway. It’s more of a suggestion than a rule. Ok, ok, you are the creator of your own reality, so you can eat pizza whenever you want. But don’t say I didn’t warn you. Listen to that little voice in your head and go from there ;).

Basically happiness comes down to this: Do what makes you feel good. Think thoughts that feel good. Spend time with people who you enjoy spending time with. Watch TV programs that feel good. (I watched season 1 of Narcos for instance and thought it was amazing. By the time season 2 was released I just couldn’t do it. I hated the dude and that did not feel good so that was that. I’m completely happy leaving the series incomplete for the sake of my happiness. It feels so good!)

FEEL into everything you do! We receive guidance through our feelings. Those gut feelings that you have – the thoughts that pop into your head when you ask yourself a question? Listen. To. Them. The more you do, the easier it will become to listen to your guidance in the future. It’s working out your intuitive muscles so to speak.

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For example: “Do you want to order pizza?” “Umm I’m not really hungry, but yeah ok if you want to I’ll have some.” The correct response is no with that energy!!!! Say “No I don’t want any, thank you.” LISTEN to your GUT!!! Do not eat pizza because you have FOMO: Fear of missing out. If you have FOMO about anything, feel into it and ask yourself what that’s all about.

Example 2: “Do you want to order pizza?” “YES!!! OMIGOD YES I WAS THINKING THE EXACT SAME THING!!!” What are you waiting for – order the pizza!!!!

Understand? Good.

Apparently this post is really about pizza and running… I hope I cleared some things up for you with that little rant. You are powerful. You are worthy. You are doing a good job. Centre yourself and listen to your guidance. You are never wrong because is ever done. Make a decision. Listen to your guidance about it, and recalculate. Make another decision. Listen to guidance, etc. Follow your dreams and don’t let anyone talk you out of them! Or into pizza when you don’t want any.

ox Amy

 

You Can Never Go Back.

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It’s been 5 months to the day since my last blog post. It’s not for lack of desire. My desire to write has never been greater these past months. It’s not a lack of time either, because time is infinite. I have nothing but time. But the Divinity of it has finally come around I think.

Life is changing. It can never be the same. We are always in a state of learning. And once you learn something, it’s impossible to unlearn.

Over these past months, I have been focused on listening to my spirit; those feelings deep within that cannot be denied. But something really surprises me: So many of us deny our gut feelings. Sometimes I still do. Why is this? I think it’s because we’re trained as kids to make others happy.

I see it every day with my kids. They want to do XYZ, and I want them to do ABC. I’m learning how to navigate life with 3 little boys who have 3 strong spirits, and it gets messy. But I don’t want them to EVER grow out of following their bliss, for me or anyone else. But I do want them to be kind while they listen to their Hell Yes’…we’re working on it…

What are gut feelings? I’ve come to understand them as messages from Spirit, and the more you deny them, the worse you’re going to feel. When something feels wrong, it is. When something feels right, it is. Your emotions are guidance from Spirit. When someone asks you to do something for them and you don’t have that “Hell Yes!” visceral response, say NO.

Don’t be a people pleaser. Don’t sacrifice your feelings and needs to make someone else happy. The thing is, you can never make anyone happy. It’s not your job. It’s theirs. And if they don’t like it, that’s their problem too.

We’ve gotten really good at denying spirit in our society. We know what we should do and we don’t do it. We know what we need to say and we don’t say it. We know that we need to be true to ourselves and we don’t BE it. We deny our true selves so often that we’ve become incredibly unhappy.

Do you want to be happy?

The time has come for you to give yourself permission to say what you want to say, do what you want to do, and be what you want to be. Learn to listen to your Spirit, and watch miracles happen. Once you start listening to your Spirit, life will get better and better at an incredible speed. It’s time to start getting really, really excited.

Set yourself up for success.

Every morning when I wake up , I think about how good my day is going to be. I get excited about the possibilities and ask spirit to surprise me. And every day is a good day. Even then, life happens. I may have yelled at my kids for an hour today…maybe even more. It didn’t feel good and I didn’t really care because I know I am fully capable of digging myself out of that rut. On the other side of discomfort is pure delight – because joy is my intention. My spirit was saying no to where I was, so I asked for a way out. Moments later I got the idea to cut the grass. So I cut my grass. Then I cut the neighbour’s grass, and then I raked everything up. I did it in bare feet too so I could connect with the earth and ground myself.

When you are down, you don’t need to live there. Being down is actually really great because you have the contrast to find something that lifts you up! It’s such an amazing feeling to know you have the power to create your reality. It’s so empowering to climb out of that hole and back up the mountain. And if there is one thing I know for sure, it’s that from the top of the mountain, you can see all the bad stuff coming.

Every day in ANY way, my suggestion to you is to find your way up the mountain. Find any way to make yourself happy, and then sit there and bask in it. From your happy place, you can see all the discomfort coming. When you’re in joy and your boss asks you to work on the weekend, it’s going to feel terrible. Say no. From your place of joy, watching Narcos is going to feel terrible. Turn it off. From your place of joy, a friend calling and complaining about her husband is going to feel terrible. Either change the subject or fake your death. ha! Or you could always just excuse yourself politely and hang up 🙂

And that’s not all. From your place on top of the mountain, there will be a lot of things that once bothered you that you won’t even notice anymore. When you are in a good feeling place, only people who are on the same level can see you. People who are not on your level will not even come near you. They’ll basically be out of sight and out of mind somewhere on the ground, and you won’t even be able to interact with them. You’ll be hanging out with other mountaineers.

And when you fall off the mountain, you’ll know it! And so begins the work of getting back on top. It’s the human journey. When you fall off, getting back up is as easy as quieting your mind and listening for spirit. Listen to those gut feelings. Ask what you can do to feel better and listen to what comes. Every time you ask, the answer is given. Every time. <3